[elizabeth21]

Text message will give him much to much space to duck and hide.

A text conversation is not a serious discussion or anything close to a confrontation (a nice one). This guy is reluctant to reveal his feelings, text messages are not going to put nay pressure on him whatsoever. WTF would she do if he just chose not to respond? She should meet him somewhere public or turn up at his place of residence. Just forget text, please.

You sound quite young but one tactic you'll learn to employ in due course is that when a woman wants a serious discussion with a man she always chooses to start it when she finds him at his weakest, when he's in a situation from which he can't run away, like in the bath, last thing at night when he's exhausted, morning when he's hungover etc. Text is the furthest from this you can get.

If you can I would send her round to his house, hopefully she's pushy enough to insist she gets answers from him, good or bad. The objective of this is - don't forget - to obtain conclusive answers from him, if we/you/us/she doesn't get them then her him meeting him/phoning him/not texting hasn't been a success and we still don't know where we stand.

Good luck x

Yeah, I'm pretty young, 21. I don't know what I'll do. I really don't think any of my friends would be down to going to his house. They'd probably call him but thats about it. He'd get too aggravated with that. I think that would be something that would set him off. I think I'll just give it a week or two and if he doesn't talk to me I'm just going to man up talk to him myself. Im not going to put EVERYTHING on the table. But I am going to explain that my feelings are getting a little stronger blah blah. Or I might not. Im not sure. haha. Texting would be a bad idea. Gives him the option not to reply and what not.

[elizabeth21]

Hello, Long time since I've posted. But it's been pretty much 20 days and we haven't done much talking latley. We're both pretty busy with school and working. However, he inivted me over the over night and it was like we never stopped talking. It's like when I go see him, it takes days to get him out of my head but over the period of time that we didn't talk I tried getting over him. Now that we've hung out again, I can't get him out of my head. I think I'm going to tell him next time that I see him that I just can't do this anymore; that I like him too much and it just hurts. I know thats probably too straight forward but Im just going all balls out and pouring everything out to him. any thoughts?

Text message will give him much to much space to duck and hide.

A text conversation is not a serious discussion or anything close to a confrontation (a nice one). This guy is reluctant to reveal his feelings, text messages are not going to put nay pressure on him whatsoever. WTF would she do if he just chose not to respond? She should meet him somewhere public or turn up at his place of residence. Just forget text, please.

You sound quite young but one tactic you'll learn to employ in due course is that when a woman wants a serious discussion with a man she always chooses to start it when she finds him at his weakest, when he's in a situation from which he can't run away, like in the bath, last thing at night when he's exhausted, morning when he's hungover etc. Text is the furthest from this you can get.

If you can I would send her round to his house, hopefully she's pushy enough to insist she gets answers from him, good or bad. The objective of this is - don't forget - to obtain conclusive answers from him, if we/you/us/she doesn't get them then her him meeting him/phoning him/not texting hasn't been a success and we still don't know where we stand.

Good luck x

[jns]

Hello, Long time since I've posted. But it's been pretty much 20 days and we haven't done much talking latley. We're both pretty busy with school and working. However, he inivted me over the over night and it was like we never stopped talking. It's like when I go see him, it takes days to get him out of my head but over the period of time that we didn't talk I tried getting over him. Now that we've hung out again, I can't get him out of my head. I think I'm going to tell him next time that I see him that I just can't do this anymore; that I like him too much and it just hurts. I know thats probably too straight forward but Im just going all balls out and pouring everything out to him. any thoughts?

The bonding can happen pretty quick, then you are head over heels. Unless you know he wants to go further, it would probably best to leave this relationship alone.

[elizabeth21]

you both would have to read all the former post to understnad. it isnt that easy.

[jns]

So when I confronted him that I was confused about our relationship h said he was afraid of getting in a relationship with me because he liked me an awful lot and if we were to break up he'd be heartbroken. He also went on to say that he doesn't think he could handle seeing me with anyone else.

Its been almost a month since your first post in this thread and he hasn't clarified the situation yet. Does he really want you or is it all for the ??? What is he waiting for? You are obviously ready for a full blown relationship. Nothing is ever easy, you just have to push forward anyhow.

[elizabeth21]

Its been almost a month since your first post in this thread and he hasn't clarified the situation yet. Does he really want you or is it all for the ??? What is he waiting for? You are obviously ready for a full blown relationship. Nothing is ever easy, you just have to push forward anyhow.

I'm not exactly sure. We've both talked about it before. Like a few months ago and we both agreed that we wouldn't be able to work things out becuase we're both "different". But I don't know. I think I'm going to just lay it on the table next time. I mean as much as I love hanging out with him, spending time together, and the sex its just all too much to deal with. I like him too much to just sleep with him and things not go further. But I guess I should prepare myself to never talk again too, because chances are we won't be able to hang out agin without the sex. Idk, this shouldn't be this tough.

[jns]

The bonding can happen pretty quick, then you are head over heels. Unless you know he wants to go further, it would probably best to leave this relationship alone.

Why I said this is that: you get a big rush of brain chemicals from being with him and then there is no communication for too long. Then you get together again and it happens again. This would drive me nuts and I would question my sanity after a while. The brain chemicals can have addiction properties so you subconsciously end up looking for the next rush. In between you have withdrawal symptoms. With that type of physiology, you don't want your addiction to be about someone who won't commit or someone who doesn't care. You want it to be about someone who will return the passion and work so the two of you are never really disappointed. Of course you would have to do your part, too. Some people are more likely to get addicted than others. It sounds like you are addicted to him.