[CHANDLERS WISH]

Honey,

No one. No one, is worth all the typing that you just did.

I edited as I paragraphed for readers.

So, I read it all.. People change. But ultimately, they are who they are based on how they were raised..

You think she is beautiful, but she never saw it. She wanted badly too, this is why she fished for compliments.. She never saw it. Going out with bad boys and hanging out with bad girls is attention seeking, the need to feel important.. She needs it from more than just you, from everyone.

This is NOT something you have done, nor can you control, nor can you change though I suspect after she hits rock bottom, she may come back to you.

Friends are there for a reason, a season, a life time, so are people that come into our lives, no matter who they are.

If you continue to allow her to control all your waking thoughts, your depression will lose your relationship.. Is that what you want?

I also suspect if you feel that she has a reputation she knows you think that, friends don't talk about that with other people, they accept people for who they are, I suspect she feels that you look down on her due to her decisions instead of accepting her and understanding she has gone that direction as she has no morals and values for herself, which I suspect was due to her childhood.

Does that make sense?

[dinadin]

Yes it definitely does! Thank you, really!! I never thought this could help me so much!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

WH is like that

It's time to concentrate on you, your relationship, what make you happy both of you.

So many "others" have ruined relationships don't you become one of those situations.

This is your life, if at anytime this timid little girl comes back to you, or you feel like reaching out, do, let her.. But, never, ever, again, let someone control your every breath and thoughts and wonder... Yep, wonder, if what she is writing on facebook is towards you. Chances are, it's towards everything she now hates in life as she struggles to stand tall, in a world that she feels owes her, yet it doesn't.

Once she works out maturity, her past, her family. She will come around.

Enjoy your life mam.

We live in this body once in this lifetime

[dinadin]

Thank you so much for taking your time and helping it feels amazing just by the thought of it

[Alex HPS]

You two grew apart and now you represent the 'good' side of herself that she no longer wants to feel. Hence why she does things to deliberately hurt you in the hope of distancing herself from her good side (you).

So you are 'miss goody two shoes' (I don't mean that, you sound like a really nice person - I'm just looking from her side) and she is now the 'bad girl'. You two were VERY close and much like two siblings that have very different lives but share that blood connection, she both loves and hates you for what you represent.

Chances are that as you become more successful by being the good girl, she will resent you more and more because she will see her own life reflected in you.

Also there may be pressure from her new 'friends' to distance herself from you, since they are into the darker side of life and you are not. In a sense, her friendship with you reflects badly upon them.

She may also feel that you are starting to judge her for the drugs and slacking. It matters not if you actually are judging her or not - it's her own conscience making her feel this way.

It saddens me that everyone else around you is so fake and shallow, because I feel that you could really do with the support of a 'real' person. Alas, she has compromised herself whilst you have stayed true to yourself. I hope you find someone else who is genuine, but don't look too hard or you will possible accept the first person who appears to fit your requirements even if they really don't. You may even think it a good move to try and fit in with her new friends, but please don't. Actually I get the feeling that you are much stronger than those around you so I don't think it is a reality, but be aware that 'fitting in' to a circle of drug users can only lead to one thing...

Let life take its course and be proud (but not too proud) that you are the upright and decent person that you are. Life will reward you one day, if you stay true to who and what you are, I feel sure of that.

Alex