Im pretty sure the man i love is addicted to porn. Its on the computor and his cell phone. In one day more then 70 pages. I love him but im tired of crying and being degraded. I know he does it cause we dont have sex on those days. Its like im not enough or good. Please tell me how to deal with this emotionally. Please dont judge me.
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I know it can be hard at times cause we start to feel like we can't compete.
Take a breather.
Have you ever sat down with him and just asked him to explain to you what
he gets out of this? Let him know your not judging him but you want to know
what it does for him, is it something that could add to your sex life, is it
just the visual end etc. Then based on his answers, you can make a move
from there. Can't tell you what the answers will be, but to understand the
why, can help to figure out how to deal with it. Good luck! -
Thanks i guess i gotta work up the courage.Comment
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Um no its gross stuff and if i accept it then its fine for him to do it. It hurts that the porn is more important then me. No we aint married weve been together for almost 3 yeears.Comment
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Has he been ignoring you, or or only watching porn when you are not available?
I don't think the type of porn is important - porn is a sort of fantasy and a lot of people have fantasies that they would never want to act on in real life.Comment
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He only watches it at work on his cell or if im working and hes home. Doesnt matter wat time or anything. But i know he does it cause he hardly talks to me thru out the day and then theres no sex then that night. It hurts i thought i could deal w it but its like im getting cheated on. Am i just being simple or am i right.Comment
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His allowing watching porn to interfere with your relationship together is a problem. Talk with him about it and about how you feel. Maybe a compromise can be found. Otherwise, ask yourself this: "Can I continue like this if nothing changes?"I have but one lamp by which my feet are guided, and that is the lamp of experience.
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Shall we gather strength by irresolution and inaction? Shall we acquire the means of effectual resistance by lying supinely on our backs and hugging the delusive phantom of hope, until our enemies shall have bound us hand and foot?
From a speech by Patrick Henry on March 23, 1775 at St. John's Church, Richmond, VirginiaComment
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I gotta get the courage to do that i know. Just scared ill lose him and i dont want that. Thanks for the adviceComment
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Have you ever discussed this with him?
Is his view a "secret"?Comment
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