Hi everyone.
This is quite a long story, so I will say thanks in advance for reading through till the end.
I met this guy, I will call him O, about 3 years ago. We had a fwb relationship, till things eventually cooled off and he got into a relationship, but we have always stayed in touch and met up for coffee etc.
I always knew in the back of my mind that we weren't "friends", and that he only kept me around incase his relationship ended and he wanted sex. However, he would do things that would make me question this eg he rang me up and asked me to go round and as he opened the door he burst into tears. He was having problems in his relationship and we sat and spoke for a good few hours and he thanked me for being there for him. I felt quite flattered that he had felt comfortable enough to cry in front of me, and that I had been the one he thought of picking up the phone too. I then always thought "maybe he does see me as a proper friend". He would also go on trips away with work and bring me little gifts back, but then he would ruin it by never wishing me happy birthday, things like that etc. which again brought me back to the thinking of "I'm just his shag piece".
He broke up with his girlfriend, and quite soon after got into another relationship.
Whenever I would see him he would constantly be moaning about her and asking my advice on what he should do.
She is very possessive over him and has a real problem with him having female friends. She is extremely jealous and they have had many an argument about how her jealously is killing their relationship.
We continued to text every now and then until one day I got a phone call and it was his girlfriend, asking me "what do you want with my boyfriend!!?" And to "leave them alone"
I got in touch with my friend and told him that it was best we no longer had any contact as it wasn't fair I was being harassed by his girlfriend and was obviously upsetting her. He said that he didn't want to stop speaking and that he would have a word with her about her behaviour and try make her see sense.
Needless to say this didn't work.
The phone calls, texts etc still came, to the point where she was threatening to come to my place or work or my home to "speak to me".
Now, if any of our conversations had been flirtatious in anyway, then I could understand her, but it was normal conversation, a quick exchange of texts every few weeks.
It began to make me wonder what he was actually telling her, and that if he had any respect for me, he would be telling her to back off.
It reached boiling point, where I eventually had to contact the police.
I was advised to no longer be in touch with my "friend" O, and as for the gf K, she was served with a caution letter. Not really anything too serious, but I knew it would unnerve her, and hopefully bring all the drama to an end.
This was in August, and myself and O stopped talking after this.
In October, without going into too much detail, I became very poorly with septicimia and was in the intensive care unit, I was told it was 50/50 that I would survive. I had seen on Facebook that he was now single, so I texted my friend O to try and make amends, given the situation of my health. He responded saying that he was sorry to here that I was poorly and that if there was anything he could do to help, to let him know. I thanked him and it was left at that.
Luckily my condition improved and eventually I was discharged. As I been off work now for 2 months, I am climbing the walls with bored so decided to have a clear out of some stuff. I came across some books of O's, and as the air had seemed to have been cleared, I text him to see what he wanted me to do with them. He responded and told me to keep them. Within 30 secs the ex girlfriend K, who was now clearly back on the scene began to start texting me with her "warnings" again. I didn't respond to her, nor did I send O anything else.
I would like to be able to stay in contact with O, but I just don't see how I am going to be able to do this with K knocking around. Any text I send him, she will always be there, and then send me something from her. Had I have known they were back together I wouldn't have even bothered texting him at all.
It upsets me, as he just allows her to do this.
I know deep down he has no respect for me, and probably doesn't care whether we speak again or not as he has K, and as miserable as her jealous behaviour makes him, she is all he wants.
It just makes me all a bit fed up x
This is quite a long story, so I will say thanks in advance for reading through till the end.
I met this guy, I will call him O, about 3 years ago. We had a fwb relationship, till things eventually cooled off and he got into a relationship, but we have always stayed in touch and met up for coffee etc.
I always knew in the back of my mind that we weren't "friends", and that he only kept me around incase his relationship ended and he wanted sex. However, he would do things that would make me question this eg he rang me up and asked me to go round and as he opened the door he burst into tears. He was having problems in his relationship and we sat and spoke for a good few hours and he thanked me for being there for him. I felt quite flattered that he had felt comfortable enough to cry in front of me, and that I had been the one he thought of picking up the phone too. I then always thought "maybe he does see me as a proper friend". He would also go on trips away with work and bring me little gifts back, but then he would ruin it by never wishing me happy birthday, things like that etc. which again brought me back to the thinking of "I'm just his shag piece".
He broke up with his girlfriend, and quite soon after got into another relationship.
Whenever I would see him he would constantly be moaning about her and asking my advice on what he should do.
She is very possessive over him and has a real problem with him having female friends. She is extremely jealous and they have had many an argument about how her jealously is killing their relationship.
We continued to text every now and then until one day I got a phone call and it was his girlfriend, asking me "what do you want with my boyfriend!!?" And to "leave them alone"
I got in touch with my friend and told him that it was best we no longer had any contact as it wasn't fair I was being harassed by his girlfriend and was obviously upsetting her. He said that he didn't want to stop speaking and that he would have a word with her about her behaviour and try make her see sense.
Needless to say this didn't work.
The phone calls, texts etc still came, to the point where she was threatening to come to my place or work or my home to "speak to me".
Now, if any of our conversations had been flirtatious in anyway, then I could understand her, but it was normal conversation, a quick exchange of texts every few weeks.
It began to make me wonder what he was actually telling her, and that if he had any respect for me, he would be telling her to back off.
It reached boiling point, where I eventually had to contact the police.
I was advised to no longer be in touch with my "friend" O, and as for the gf K, she was served with a caution letter. Not really anything too serious, but I knew it would unnerve her, and hopefully bring all the drama to an end.
This was in August, and myself and O stopped talking after this.
In October, without going into too much detail, I became very poorly with septicimia and was in the intensive care unit, I was told it was 50/50 that I would survive. I had seen on Facebook that he was now single, so I texted my friend O to try and make amends, given the situation of my health. He responded saying that he was sorry to here that I was poorly and that if there was anything he could do to help, to let him know. I thanked him and it was left at that.
Luckily my condition improved and eventually I was discharged. As I been off work now for 2 months, I am climbing the walls with bored so decided to have a clear out of some stuff. I came across some books of O's, and as the air had seemed to have been cleared, I text him to see what he wanted me to do with them. He responded and told me to keep them. Within 30 secs the ex girlfriend K, who was now clearly back on the scene began to start texting me with her "warnings" again. I didn't respond to her, nor did I send O anything else.
I would like to be able to stay in contact with O, but I just don't see how I am going to be able to do this with K knocking around. Any text I send him, she will always be there, and then send me something from her. Had I have known they were back together I wouldn't have even bothered texting him at all.
It upsets me, as he just allows her to do this.
I know deep down he has no respect for me, and probably doesn't care whether we speak again or not as he has K, and as miserable as her jealous behaviour makes him, she is all he wants.
It just makes me all a bit fed up x
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