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4. Everyone who has mentioned this point is 100% correct: Why should this be a 'now' thing, why would his parents not be open to it later?

This is the one thing that stood out to me. If their offer is only for the now, then they are only looking out for themselves, ensuring that their son is with them, no concern for careers, you, futures etc.

5. Should I feel bad for assuming that if his parents really wanted to help, that they would also offer to leave us some money to help us out here if they are truly concerned about their sons security?

Find out if they are open to you visiting first, staying put for one year I think this is important.

They planted an exciting seed into his mind, no Mortgage a house. This effectively also means it doesn't matter if he has or doesn't have a career he's safe. It sounds as if he has no passions in life, no real dreams and in that, nor should you, it doesn't matter you'll have a home. This worries me to be honest.

As for them leaving you finances if you both stayed here, that's not going to happen, there is a method in their madness It's about keeping their son nearby.

Remember your dreams.