[SashaJones]

Sometimes its hard to leave someone you care about. But I had to do it. I found out he's the one thats insecure and he didn't trust me at all. So I figured two people with insecurities and trust issues will never work out.

[Mith]

I find myself loving a man I have only been with for 5 months. How is this so? He treats me good and my kids like him. He says he likes and cares for me but I still have my doubts. He says we must trust each other but I have been in two failed relationships due to cheating. So I have trust issues. He gets angry when I ask him questions, presuming that he's cheating. He says im insecure and to stop asking him questions. Sometimes I feel like backing up but at the same time I dont want to lose him.

Yeah, you're probably going overboard and he's probably right; you are being insecure.

I think part of the issue is to address the underlying problem; your security. When someone cheats on you, it hurts. It hurts a lot. Because they've basically said that they've found you wanting and that's just not what anyone wants to hear. Especially from someone they care about so much. But when someone cheats, it's them whose failed, it isn't you. Perhaps something in your relationship has gone wrong (communication, lack of activity together--sexual or romantic), but ultimately, they failed to address this with you.

So you need to back off a bit. If he does end up cheating on you, it doesn't mean you're less of a person. It means that in some way, your relationship failed. Either because he lacked commitment or because something you're/he's doing is causing this. But even if the latter is the case, you are not less of a person (well, unless you're abusive, but I presume that isn't the case). Nor are you solely to blame if you are at fault; because he didn't leaving you, he avoided addressing the issues of a failing relationship by having an affair with someone else.

[SashaJones]

Nothing really matters now. I just found out that I'm pregnant

[SashaJones]

I dont know what to do. Stressed

[jns]

Uh Oh. Are you sure it is by him? What is your plan?

[SashaJones]

Yes I know its by him. Im not raising another child on my own. He clearly doesn't want it.

[effy2014]

Do what is best for you. I wish you the best. If he is a butt hole to you and does not want the child, he will make a very poor father.

[SashaJones]

He wont even talk to me about this pregnancy.

[NataliaB]

Wow. That's a tough spot to be in. If he won't even talk to you about the pregnancy than he is certainly not going to be a good father. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. Would be a good idea to really take some time and figure out what is best for you.

[SashaJones]

We finally talked about it. He's not forcing me to get an abortion but he thinks its the best thing since we both didn't want any more kids. He's sorry for how he acted, he was just upset.