Hi All,
I'm new to this site and my main purpose to get on here is to hear from my fellow women about prejudice towards women everywhere. We have come so far in this day and age with technology and scientific advancements, but still topics like gender equality and women's equal rights to men are being discussed. Dont know if to call this hipocracy or media games to drive attention to women being an inferior race and obviously making tons of money out of such footage.
I am an independent single woman who is turning 30 and ofcourse the question on everyone's lips is so when are you tieing the knot?! Well, my response often is Im not in a relationship in the first place and want to scream at them by saying it is impossible to get into one because most men just want to get into my pants as with other women as well.
Truth be told, despite people telling that there are tons of great guys out there, dont be pessimistic about not being able to settle down, in my head Im going why is it considered settling down for a woman only after she gets married and has a kid or two? Why can women just not be single? Is it a curse to be single and owning your own things in life and not have a man do that for you?
Moreover, you see relationships and marriages around you surrounded by so many lies that makes me sick to my stomach. I was seeing a guy for 3 months and I had just recently started attempting to put my trust back into finding a guy who I can fall in love with and trust fully to have a pile of lies hit my entire nervous system. Ofcourse I was blinded and stupid to fall for someone who looked charming. But again am I or is any girl stupid for that matter being in my shoes? After several conversations and being completely honest to him about what I was looking for in terms of a relationship being for the long haul, I felt that I was able to trust this guy given he told me that he was looking for the same. Trusted him to the point that I slept with him on our first date despite a screeching voice telling me dont! I let my emotions get the best of me and wanted to feel great for a change. What's wrong with that right?! Looking back at all this looks like the biggest crime I could have committed because obviously this guy took me for granted after that possibly thinking Im easy and perhaps have done it several times before, hence a **** and our conversations naturally started getting more sexual in nature and things got intimate. I had confronted him several times asking if he wasn't hiding anything from me and this is really for real. He confirmed all along that he was extremely attracted to me and wanted things to turn out to the positive in the future- the long haul.
Two big flags I could not get my head around at the time were that he had an Instagram account that he said he didnt use and as a result turned down my interest to add him as a friend and the other big flag was he wanted to have unprotected sex to feel closer to me and be more intimate. When I told him he is crazy and that risks pregnancy for the both of us when our relationship is so new, his response was if I got pregnant to abort it because it is lifeless until it has a nervous system so wont be a crime and "**** happens".
I distanced myself mentally from him a bit after all that was said and done to finally get a message saying so there is a reason why he cant see me anymore. His parents set him up to be married to someone who is within his family network. My response in my head was great! Here we go with me the girl being collateral damage when his marriage was set all along and I was a play toy! Or that i was seeing someone not strong enough to standup against his parents. My outloud reaction obviously was a mixture of both and the last message was congratulations you've just chopped your balls and handed then to your parents!After several messages I sent trying to jolt his conscious he had blocked me and moved on in his life and Im left worthless and heartbroken all out of the stupidity of my own acts and choice to trust him. On digging further, he had already been engaged to this other girl sonce the beginning of the year and I found videos of his lavish wedding with everyone looking so happy celebrating away a lie! The girl calls him her bestie and her love of life and oh my god! My stomach wanted to burst out feeling disgusted that people live in such lies and this relationship he has tied with this girl is a total lie they wilo be living with for the rest of their lives.
Is this a marriage anyone would want and probly end up being in blindly without knowing the other person's reality for the rest of their lives? How can men like this guy live with this and women like me or anyone esle be judged for being single?
Your suggestions and advise will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
I'm new to this site and my main purpose to get on here is to hear from my fellow women about prejudice towards women everywhere. We have come so far in this day and age with technology and scientific advancements, but still topics like gender equality and women's equal rights to men are being discussed. Dont know if to call this hipocracy or media games to drive attention to women being an inferior race and obviously making tons of money out of such footage.
I am an independent single woman who is turning 30 and ofcourse the question on everyone's lips is so when are you tieing the knot?! Well, my response often is Im not in a relationship in the first place and want to scream at them by saying it is impossible to get into one because most men just want to get into my pants as with other women as well.
Truth be told, despite people telling that there are tons of great guys out there, dont be pessimistic about not being able to settle down, in my head Im going why is it considered settling down for a woman only after she gets married and has a kid or two? Why can women just not be single? Is it a curse to be single and owning your own things in life and not have a man do that for you?
Moreover, you see relationships and marriages around you surrounded by so many lies that makes me sick to my stomach. I was seeing a guy for 3 months and I had just recently started attempting to put my trust back into finding a guy who I can fall in love with and trust fully to have a pile of lies hit my entire nervous system. Ofcourse I was blinded and stupid to fall for someone who looked charming. But again am I or is any girl stupid for that matter being in my shoes? After several conversations and being completely honest to him about what I was looking for in terms of a relationship being for the long haul, I felt that I was able to trust this guy given he told me that he was looking for the same. Trusted him to the point that I slept with him on our first date despite a screeching voice telling me dont! I let my emotions get the best of me and wanted to feel great for a change. What's wrong with that right?! Looking back at all this looks like the biggest crime I could have committed because obviously this guy took me for granted after that possibly thinking Im easy and perhaps have done it several times before, hence a **** and our conversations naturally started getting more sexual in nature and things got intimate. I had confronted him several times asking if he wasn't hiding anything from me and this is really for real. He confirmed all along that he was extremely attracted to me and wanted things to turn out to the positive in the future- the long haul.
Two big flags I could not get my head around at the time were that he had an Instagram account that he said he didnt use and as a result turned down my interest to add him as a friend and the other big flag was he wanted to have unprotected sex to feel closer to me and be more intimate. When I told him he is crazy and that risks pregnancy for the both of us when our relationship is so new, his response was if I got pregnant to abort it because it is lifeless until it has a nervous system so wont be a crime and "**** happens".
I distanced myself mentally from him a bit after all that was said and done to finally get a message saying so there is a reason why he cant see me anymore. His parents set him up to be married to someone who is within his family network. My response in my head was great! Here we go with me the girl being collateral damage when his marriage was set all along and I was a play toy! Or that i was seeing someone not strong enough to standup against his parents. My outloud reaction obviously was a mixture of both and the last message was congratulations you've just chopped your balls and handed then to your parents!After several messages I sent trying to jolt his conscious he had blocked me and moved on in his life and Im left worthless and heartbroken all out of the stupidity of my own acts and choice to trust him. On digging further, he had already been engaged to this other girl sonce the beginning of the year and I found videos of his lavish wedding with everyone looking so happy celebrating away a lie! The girl calls him her bestie and her love of life and oh my god! My stomach wanted to burst out feeling disgusted that people live in such lies and this relationship he has tied with this girl is a total lie they wilo be living with for the rest of their lives.
Is this a marriage anyone would want and probly end up being in blindly without knowing the other person's reality for the rest of their lives? How can men like this guy live with this and women like me or anyone esle be judged for being single?
Your suggestions and advise will be greatly appreciated.
Thank you
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