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  • Texasred
    Veteran Member
    • Oct 2009
    • 1216

    You are worthy.
    I'm not sure I'd go that far...
    I might say: "You two deserve each other."

    I've got an idea: why don't you go have a talk with your minister, tell him the whole sordid tale you've told us, see what he says? And please come back here and tell us... pardon me while I go make some popcorn.

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    • Rebecca_93
      Member
      • Jan 2018
      • 14

      Things have gotten better between the two of us since my last post. But it hasn't been a good week for me..

      He visited me on his way back to work a couple of times. I asked him what was so important he wanted to talk with me in person about. But he said there was nothing and that I should stop asking questions.
      So our relationship is good again I guess, although I keep wondering what it is he wanted to talk about. Also I still don't know what it was he was so upset about causing him to ignore me.

      When we are together we forget the world around us. It's just the two of us. It's clear our souls belong together, as God intended. It is hard for us that he can only stay for an hour after work. But soon, when he has sorted things out, we can marry and can really be together.

      I'm still not pregnant. Or at least, not that I know of. I really start to worry about it now. What Baboy wrote about pretending to have had a miscarriage is pretty much the last thing I would want to do, but I start to feel there is no other way out. He is so excited to have a child with me, if I would say that to him he will mourn his unborn child. I can't do that to him, right?? I feel my situation keeps getting worse.

      After the service today, the minister approached me for a private chat. He informed me that there have been "complaints" from other girls at church about inappropriate behavior coming from him. I think these girls are just desperately jealous and spreading lies. I understand that the minister probably has to believe them, which explains why he told me I shouldn't be with him. But then the minister also said he has had his doubts about him being a Godly person. Well he is!!

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      • amy40
        Veteran Member
        • Nov 2016
        • 2732

        Originally posted by Rebecca_93
        But soon, when he has sorted things out, we can marry and can really be together.
        Hi Rebecca

        how many more years for him to sort things out?

        did you tell the minister when he spoke to u that you two are getting married?

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        • Texasred
          Veteran Member
          • Oct 2009
          • 1216

          Originally posted by amy40

          Hi Rebecca

          how many more years for him to sort things out?

          did you tell the minister when he spoke to u that you two are getting married?
          I wouldn't waste any time chatting with this person. She is clearly from some other reality, and only visits here occasionally. Her minister was trying to help her out, but there;s only so much one can do.

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          • Rebecca_93
            Member
            • Jan 2018
            • 14

            Our relationship was going so well recently, but it all came crashing down last night.

            He visited me and said I had to get an abortion. I couldn't believe my ears and felt my heart fall out of my stomach. I thought he was really happy that we were becoming parents together?! At least, that was what he kept telling me for all the time.. And I never ever would have expected him to demand the big A. I thought our values and devotion to God was what was holding us together, but then for him to suggest something so ungodly gave me such a shock.

            He said he would pay for it if needed, that I didn't need to worry about that?? I felt deceived on so many levels. So we got into a BIG argument!!

            I told him I didn't want to be with him anymore so the engagement is off.

            Now he keeps sending me text messages. He wants to talk it over. I don't know what's left to talk about?? He can keep that ungodly wife of his! They are a perfect match!!

            He still doesn't know I'm not pregnant though. I feel I should tell him that in person, but on the other hand I don't want to meet him face to face with at the moment. I don't think I could handle that.
            Last edited by Rebecca_93; 03-05-2018, 10:58 AM.

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            • Popcorn&Candy
              Veteran Member
              • Jun 2016
              • 1713

              In a way it is good that you're not pregnant: BUT even if you were, it would be bad for him to force you into an abortion. He has shown his true colours. You're better off rid. I am sad for you, but at least now you know the real him. He doesn't deserve you or your love.

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