[rcoreyus]

Bad situation, get out. I'm usually able to see both sides of things, and don't belive in simple solutions - but this case seems really clear.

He's probably addicted to porn. But he is also selfish, rude and uncaring.

There are much much better people out there. Don't waste your time with this guy.

[mearbear1961]

Yes! I say kick him out. Go your way and let him go his. You don't need that. You can do better. If he really wants you he woundn't be doing that to you. Apparently he not
ready for a relationship.

[precioustoy]

feeling down

hi my names Sha im having some issues in a big way My hubby to be is not pleasing me but yet expects me to please him he loves watching and playin on cam which i dont mind anymore but is not giving me any pleasure i dont understand why can anyone help!?!?

[8842angela]

Did Sad Girl figure this out yet? I have a boyfriend who sounds like a carbon copy of hers. We started out as bootie call buddies years back but have been dating for a year and a half. He loves to smoke pot (maybe that's part of his negative libido?) and it seems like he likes to masturbate every day. Says he's a "morning person" and I'm never around in the morning. He's OCDish so I have tried to brush some of this off on account of masturbating being part of his morning ritual. He says any sex we have is very "regimented" but WTF.........I have a child and no other boyfriend has had a problem with my "regimine". Just wondering if Sad Girl or anyone else has had any major breakthroughs in getting past this . I have had the "sex talk" with him so many times that he says each time I do that it makes him less and less into wanting to do it. Sometimes I just want to call an ex to bang my brains out just to get back at him for making me feel like the bad person.

[MynxV]

Did Sad Girl figure this out yet? I have a boyfriend who sounds like a carbon copy of hers. We started out as bootie call buddies years back but have been dating for a year and a half. He loves to smoke pot (maybe that's part of his negative libido?) and it seems like he likes to masturbate every day. Says he's a "morning person" and I'm never around in the morning. He's OCDish so I have tried to brush some of this off on account of masturbating being part of his morning ritual. He says any sex we have is very "regimented" but WTF.........I have a child and no other boyfriend has had a problem with my "regimine". Just wondering if Sad Girl or anyone else has had any major breakthroughs in getting past this . I have had the "sex talk" with him so many times that he says each time I do that it makes him less and less into wanting to do it. Sometimes I just want to call an ex to bang my brains out just to get back at him for making me feel like the bad person.

For one I dont see how a guy would not want to have sex with his gf, I mean then why have a gf if your just gonna get off on watching porn. ANYWAY, have you ladies spoken about watching porn with them while having sex?? I don't know if you guys would be interested but it somehow would be a means to an end.

If you really "love" the men you're with and want to make things work between you guys you have to step out of your safe zone and try different things with them if its not that serious then you should definitely move on because you're getting abused emotionally, mentally and physically. The only way to try to solve a problem is to be proactive about it, if you just dwell in to what you can do or maybe they will change. It's not gonna happen. Best of luck to you gals.

[8842angela]

omg....................ummm there is not a single thing I haven't offered to "do". I have a very open mind. Every time I have gotten him to turn on the porn he will just say he wants to look at me not the television. He's in his 40s and has pretty much had nothing but casual encounters with girls he's kind of made think he's more into them than he was just to get laid. That was back in the day and with me he says he loves me and respects me and doesnt see me as a dirty ............whatever....and it isn't cuz I cant play that role. Like him I've MOSTLY played that role. I've been that more than the girlfriend so it's really taking a toll on my self image that this guy doesnt perceive me as sexual like what I'm used to. Any other guys out there who could get it on whereever whenever until they met someone they really gave a about? Is this really a life sentence or what?

[Guest]

please just leave him...first of all who the is he to have you come finish??? if he wants to spank the monkey to porn and not you...seriously he has issues...stop wasting your time with him...find someone who wants to have sex with you...and who will love you like you should be loved...

[OG612]

8842angela

It sounds like your guy just wants casual contact and not a "dirty girl" as you alluded to earlier. There's no sense in having repeated sex talks with him if it's not going to do anything. Your best bet would be to break it off and find someone new who's willing to have sex with you as much as you want to have sex with him.

OG

[MynxV]

omg....................ummm there is not a single thing I haven't offered to "do". I have a very open mind. Every time I have gotten him to turn on the porn he will just say he wants to look at me not the television. He's in his 40s and has pretty much had nothing but casual encounters with girls he's kind of made think he's more into them than he was just to get laid. That was back in the day and with me he says he loves me and respects me and doesnt see me as a dirty ............whatever....and it isn't cuz I cant play that role. Like him I've MOSTLY played that role. I've been that more than the girlfriend so it's really taking a toll on my self image that this guy doesnt perceive me as sexual like what I'm used to. Any other guys out there who could get it on whereever whenever until they met someone they really gave a about? Is this really a life sentence or what?

are you guys married?? or you are still partners just b/f-g/f type thing, if you have already answered i do apologize, but maybe u can give us more of an insight on the relationship you guys have... or have things gotten better?

[mrsbou]

i say u deserve better if he wants porn dump him and he can have all the porn he wants be strong though if he is like this now it will never change dont let him talk u into staying or you may regret it in years to come