[soldatka]

Sweetheart, you are with a liar and a cheat, a weak man at best, a cruel manipulator at worst. I would suggest this: every time you are tempted, think of that man's wife and child and how he is letting them down. Do you want him to do the same to you? For your own self-respect, you need to walk away, with dignity. I know too many women who have wasted their lives waiting for married men, only to be ditched when something younger and more tempting came along. Don't just try to forget him. FORGET HIM. You will be glad you did.

[FionaDiaz]

You know you need to end it. Let me tell you just how bad these things can get...

My husband cheated on me a few times... and when I found out I left him. The problem was I was a month pregnant with our second child. I was stressed and depressed from finding out that the man I had vowed to spend the rest of my life with, to be faithful to and to love had cheated on me. He forgot about me so quickly and was able to sleep with other women. I felt stoopid, hurt and betrayed.

I lost my baby boy at four months of pregnancy. I had to birth the baby naturally, going through all the labour pains and never getting to hold my infant, never getting to see him laugh, to hug or kiss him... I blamed my husband... and I blame his mistress because she knew about me.

It is because of a woman just like you that I lost my baby boy....

Think about that, and if you decide to keep seeing him - and yes, you can 'help it'.

[jayjay]

Some married men go after single women just for fun. The single woman could be anyone.
She could be uglier than the wife, dumber, less educated, she just needs to be available.
If he had problems with his wife, he'd leave her.

Men leave their wives for lots of reasons, not just sex, not because they fall in love with
another woman, but because they don't get along. When a man continues to live with his wife and have affairs, he's just having an affair to have an affair.

If you quit the job today, and went away for a month, when you came back, he'd be
having an affair with someone else. It's not you, it's the joy of cheating.

[Candace L]

I know in a way where you are coming from when I was 17 I started dating a married man that came into the restaurant I worked at everyday. I didnt know he was married at first. He was 30 at the time. I found out he was married when he brought me to him home. I saw the wedding pictures then I met his son a toddler then. We dated for 2 years. The last straw was when I got pregnant. I was 19 and supposed to be going away to college and I am here pregnant by a married man. How do I explain that to my parents. I told him I was pregnant and then disappeared. He didnt see me for another year when I came back home. I made the best decision I could I aborted the pregnancy and went to college. He was upset because I didnt tell him anything after I told him I was preganant. But I did what I had to do to take care of me. Thats what you have to do too.

[Joy]

hmmmm how do i put this.... you are being easy prey. The above posts are all correct if you stop being his easy peice he will move on. He is spineless and a chump. So stop being part of the problem and be part of the solution. I'm sure you are pretty enough to find your own man that has much more to offer you then a kiss and a cuddle here and there.

If you don't want a serious relationship yourself then there are plenty of NSA (No Strings Attached) offers on the internet everyday go hook up with one of those. If the risk of getting caught is what's turning you on get a death defeying hobbie to get your kicks

Stop making his wife and yourself look like a fool.

[Guest]

whoa there, problems in a marriage are almost never caused by just one person. Its easy to say he did this or she did that. Bit it takes two to tango or to divorce. It is true that most married men will never leave their wife. they stay because of any or some or all of the following: finances, children, community PC, work perceptions, being scared of ending up alone, and sometimes really wanting to fix what is wrong at home but not sure how to do it. forget who is at fault and what happened in the past. unless you see something happening now and that it has a real chance of lasting, be your own best friend and just move on.

[sassie]

Speaking from the married womens position I ask that you leave him ASAP as you don't realize what it's like being on the other side of the table. Yes it's both of your fault not just yours but think about it would you want to be the married women?? If you don't then you know what you need to do. GOOD LUCK

[tropicalgrl1]

Hi,
Everyone before me has given great and truthful advice. It all comes down to you. You are the only person who can change this mess simply by extracting yourself out of it.

Get yourself REALLY busy. Join classes of something that interests you, like dancing or art or web site builing , or yoga... I guarantee you'll meet some other people and might even make some new friends. Create a commitment to yourself, not to a married man who is blatantly breaking the marriage vows he made to his wife. He is a manipulator of the worst kind and it appears he is playing you well, however what you get by accomodating this guy is lowered self esteem, and worry. Is it worth it to you? Honey, life is too short and there are good men out there. Dont be wasting your very precious time on this one.

My Mom has a great saying....the easiest way to forget a guy is to find a new one...
and in order to do that, you need to make yourself emotionally available.

Best of luck to you!

[ok2b.alone]

Help I'm Dating A Married Man

Hi - I'm new here and would like to join in - for some much needed support. I'm also involved in a married man - but on line. I'm planning to stop talking to him (like I've tried over and over to do for 5 months). I know I'm better than this . . . .it's a vicious cycle I'm in. It's very frustrating continuing to do something that I know is unhealthy for me.

I welcome any comments.

Have a great day!!

[staceyboo0629]

I have this on myspace page.....There is not much that I've found and put on there that has stayed....Until I found this.... It is my heart felt message to my daughter and all my WOMEN FRIENDS!

A good woman is proud of herself. She respects herself and others. She is aware of who she is. She neither seeks definition from the person she is with, or does she expect them to read her mind. She is quite capable of articulating her needs. A good woman is hopeful. She is strong enough to make all her dreams come true. She knows love, therefore she gives love. She recognizes that her love has great value and must be reciprocated. If her love is taken for granted, it soon disappears. A good woman has a dash of inspiration, a dabble of endurance. She knows that she will, at times, have to inspire others to reach their potential. A good woman knows her past, understands her present and moves toward the future. She knows that the world is her playground, but without strength she will just be played. A good woman does not live in fear of the future because of her past. Instead, she understands that her life experiences are merely lessons, meant to bring her closer to self knowledge and unconditional self love.
Heroes