[miffed23]

Well, you need to come clean about snopping around in her emails, that way she will probably dump you and all your problems will be sorted.

It infuriates me that people dont respect anothers personal and private belongings.

She probably didnt want to tell you because she knew that you would react the way you are doing. If you dont trust her, end it now, your relationship is going to be full of lies, betrayal and snopping around... unless you can discuss what happened in a mature manner and then both of you need to let it go...completely...

[Fire(m)]

Miffed...YOU ARE AWESOME! I couldn't agree more.
Cheers.

[miffed23]

Miffed...YOU ARE AWESOME! I couldn't agree more.
Cheers.

Mwahaha, great minds post alike!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

She didn't tell me anything, somehow i know all of her password even her friends password's who is listed on is IM. She sent email to someone else, badly i read those. I don't want to spy, but she had a lot of habit those need to hide from me, but i have nothing to hide from her.

Your contradicting yourself. You are hiding the fact as others have stated, that you are snooping around, invading her privacy and that is "your habit that you are hiding from her".

she deleted her email from sent folder always, but i know her friends emails password. she can change her habit? if the same thing happen again, if she sleep with other guys again.

So in addition to you snooping, you wrote down all the friends passwords as well, so that you can gain every bit of detail from all ends....... That's obsessive. It is this sort of obsession that leads people to do un-heard of things, often through mis-interpretation.

And, why are you referencing "sleeping with other guys again", when she is with you? Are you now suggesting that the mistake she made before you were together, means you now don't trust her even though she's been with you for 2 years? Phycologically, this spells disaster not just in this relationship but in future ones.

she don't discuss me anything, she just act as a good girl from the starting.

The fact that she has slept with someone before you doesn't make her a bad girl. The fact that she has been with you for two years and HAS NOT slept with you, in a committed relationship, makes her a GOOD girl.

but she wanted to say something like she is bad etc etc. but i don't care them,

She has experienced intimacy, she is wanting to experience it with you, probably you won't until you marry, obviously that word has been bought up as your discussing whether you could/should, that does not make her bad either, intimacy forms a relationship and brings it together much more than just a "friendship" and i am thinking she is not for you anyway, if you think intimacy is bad.

now everything is clear to me what she wanted to say. she feel pain may be for that abortion. may be feel guilty. bcoz her family remind her.

What ever she feels, you should be supporting her on it, problem is she doesn't know you know and that's if she was being honest to her friends, or just agreeing, or making it up to make one of her friends feel better..... How will you ever find that one out?

Can i take a hard decision, i should marry her? how could i? Could I honor her life long?

Because she hasn't slept with you even and it's been 2 years, that's enough to know that you should honor her.

lots of question in my mind. I wanted to be happy with her. but i cant saying thing her . she doesn't know that i know her everything about past life.

And somewhere, i am sure i read that you are worried you won't stack up. If you love someone, (and she's been faithful for 2 years) then you work on that intimacy together... What past life? The fact that she felt she loved someone previously? OR the fact that something went wrong, she doesn't need to pay a price, she has not "bad" past, she has been faithful to you for 2 years without sex, that is as i said, way more of a woman to honor..

Sad really.
Thanking You.
bHbu

CW
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[Fire(m)]

Just think about the personal details and feelings this guy has read of totally innocent people. Heck, he probably knows every intimate detail of every one of his girlfriend's friends. Not only does he potentially know every detail, he knows every conversation between those people ABOUT their opinions of those people. That could be damaging to every one of those relationships...not just his and his girlfriends.

Then he has the blls to come on here and complain about her being unfaithful?

[CHANDLERS WISH]

[quote=Fire(m);47034]Just think about the personal details and feelings this guy has read of totally innocent people. Heck, he probably knows every intimate detail of every one of his girlfriend's friends. Not only does he potentially know every detail, he knows every conversation between those people ABOUT their opinions of those people. That could be damaging to every one of those relationships...not just his and his girlfriends.

Then he has the blls to come on here and complain about her being unfaithful?[/quote]

True... I am going to say to the poster of this thread, DON'T MARRY HER, because honestly she will be walking on egg shells all of her life, with your suspicious mind and that's not fair to her.

As i said, she's been faithful to you for 2 years. You need to study up on the word marriage, the word commitment and the word relationships so you can get a handle on what it all entails so that you can have a happy life without suspecting the next lady who enters as well..

Learning, is a valuable key to life's lessons.... Hopefully, you will be man enough to see that you may need to learn a few things yourself.

Best of luck.

CW