[elsa_niloo]

I was just reading the posts of some other ladies who have lost their husbands, lives and happiness to some stupid other woman. These women just decided to make their castle of dreams on some poor, unsuspecting lady's marriage. My heart goes out to these ladies and I feel like crying when I put myself in their shoes.

I mean no marriage is without conflict, but for another woman to take advantage and replace herself in a married mans life, (specially with children) is just low. Do these other women have no feelings or morals? Do they not think, well maybe I shouldn't ruin someones home?

I remember when I was 19 i met a guy in his 30s. I really really liked him but on our second date when he told me he is separated with 2 weeks waiting to be divorced I was shocked. He told me his wife doesn't like partying and he enjoys the good life. At that point i felt naucious at him for how stupid he was that in his 30s he cared more about his partying than his wife and kids. I told him to go back to his wife, and ofcourse i left the resturant and didnt even look back but it just amazed me at how stupid some men are.

But if some married men are dumb enough to go after the glittery, momentary oppertunites, does that give another woman the right to make her way in and ruin the guys marriage and sleep in his wife's bed?

do these women honestly have no feelings? Have men not been so cruel to us all through history that instead of supporting each other we also have to practice cruelty to women?
what is wrong with some women?

[WildChild]

Elsa, Some are just unprincipaled people but often times they get pulled in may be not even knowing he's married until they are emotionally tied. Then they get told the usual about how uncaring the wife is. If a marriage is strong this isn't going to happen anyway. A man who loves his wife and values marriage will stick regardless of the ups and downs.

[Passion]

yes, WildChild you are right. Women also have that opportunity to stray away from their husbands but if we really love them and value the marriage we would easily pull away from that situation and temptation. Without any regret. Well said Wildchild

[happy ending]

i dont know - some men are liars thats for sure, but i have known at least 2 women that seem to go after married men. one has broken up three marriages that i know of, and when the guy leaves his wife and comes to her, it only lasts a month or so till he's out on his ear. she is just shameless, she rubs it in the poor wifes face, its horrible. the worst thing was i was living in a small town and when a couple would come to town, and she would start her tricks, the wife was always convinced she was her best friend and we were the troublemakers!!!

the other women seems to just have affairs with married men, thats quite arre too!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

It works both ways.

In my "opinon" it balls down to morals.

If they have none, if they were bought up to take, or they decided to do so, after being used over and over, one or the other, they take and don't care...

Male - or Female.

CW

[WildChild]

Some of this may be a mistaken idea that they see what looks like a good relationship and think "I want that". Instead of finding someone single to develop a relationship with they attach to someone in a relationship, at some level thinking the "good" relationship will transfer to them. It's about how two specific people relate, they same people won't have the same dymanic with someone else.

[happy ending]

Some of this may be a mistaken idea that they see what looks like a good relationship and think "I want that". Instead of finding someone single to develop a relationship with they attach to someone in a relationship, at some level thinking the "good" relationship will transfer to them. It's about how two specific people relate, they same people won't have the same dymanic with someone else.

i never thought of that, i have always just wondered at why they do it. that makes a lot of sense. and when it doesnt work out discard them and move onto your next victim.

[Guest]

i have been saying this in every thread i reply in about cheaters and liers, and WC just said it too... "MORALS"

now WC you also brought up a good point that could very well be true. and makes great sence. i heard it this way but you make it easier for everyone to follow. i heard it as: people want what others have.

people just plain ol suck. if your not happy leave the relationship. your adult enough to be in one, have sex, go out here and there etc.............be adult enough to not hurt the other worse than they would be for leaving.

[WildChild]

This is fairly common thinking, we've seen it on here with people who make statements like how much they hate women who are orgasmic because they aren't. It's twisted thinking. What one can do, another can, they should see a source of inspiration not cause for jealousy. Instead of thinking, what do they do, that I could do? They think they'll just steal what the other has. It rarely works because it's based on the people, relationships aren't like electric plugs - you can't just randomly plug in.

[happy ending]

you really have opened my eyes wildchild, the woman i was referring to, grew up in foster homes etc, no real family. her mode of attack is to attach herself to new people coming to town and make best friends with the wife, while her back is turned she "works" on the husband. when other people try to tell the wife what is happening, they are liars and troublemakers because her "friend" wouldnt do that. when the wife does finally suspect something, she seems to feel too ashamed to face her "friend". it works every time! maybe its something to do with growing up in other people's families.