[Ahryin]

do you dress up for him? Lingerie wise? Did you have your clothes on or off? Have you ever tried garter belts with thigh highs? Fishnet stockings? Heels? (by the way Heels should be worn around the house! whenever you can

[Munchkin]

Wildchild - Thank you for your support.. and i'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I've been in an abusive relationship, i'm sorry that you are going through that. If you need any advice or just someone to talk to i'm here

Ahryin - i used to dress up for him all the time. But since he started rejecting me all the time i have stopped. I just feel stupid dressing up just for him to say no to me. Maybe i should try again.. i just hate the humiliation, you know?

[Frustr8ed]

I didn't feel less attracted to my wife. I just liked looking at women in general. I can't say that I would have ever chosen porn over my wife. My wife has born a child and doesn't have a porn star body either but I like to look at her just as much.

To Ahryin's point, you could just join him while he's looking if it doesn't bother you. It would probably be a fantasy of his to have you go down on him while he's looking. I'd bet you anything that if you came in the room while he was looking at porn and you started putting on a show for him, he would give you his full attention. It would show him that you love him and want to fulfill his desires. I only hope he would do the same in return and fulfill yours.

[WildChild]

[QUOTE=Munchkin;105820]Wildchild - Thank you for your support.. and i'm sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. I've been in an abusive relationship, i'm sorry that you are going through that. If you need any advice or just someone to talk to i'm here
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Oh dear, I didn't make myself clear at all. He's not abusive. I wouldn't put up with that for a moment.
He just masterbates several times a day. (Uses his hand)

[Munchkin]

Oh i'm sorry wildchild, my mistake!!

Even so, i'm still here if you want to talk

[Munchkin]

There's no chance of me walking in when he's watching, he makes sure the doors are locked or that i'm fast asleep before he does it.

I would enjoy watching it with him, i just have to try and convince him that it's a good idea!

[Ahryin]

Maybe you should start watching porn by yourself...turn the tables (after you openly talk to him that is) See how he likes walking in the room and you watching some dude smack a chicks bottom

[Hopeless Dork]

I think what some men fail to realize is that many women need to feel desired, wanted and attractive to feel satisfied and happy. Many women seem to cheat/leave their partners, not because they prefer someone else to their SO... but because they miss feeling "hot"... if a man isn't making his woman feel sexy and loved ... he should be cautious as there might be some other man that will -- and that will be tempting to her if her man is making her feel like last weeks garbage.

If a man is masturbating to other attractive women and not giving his SO her due attention, those 2 things combined lead to a pressure cooker of resentment and insecurity. Who wants to make the person they love feel insecure and resentful? I sure don't.

Its one thing if the man doesn't understand that is what he is doing. But if you TELL him that is what he is doing... and he still does it, still doesn't do the things to make you feeel desirable, still neglects your sexual needs - than the problem in the relationship goes beyond sex, it starts delving into basic consideration and respect for the other persons feelings and needs.

[Frustr8ed]

Hmmm, sounds like he's either embarrassed or ashamed of what he's doing. Perhaps he would be uncomforable with you there since he's fantasizing about other women.

[Ahryin]

I don't understand how any man could perfer his hand or his woman...no matter what images are in between...