[Miya]

Questioning if he may be bi/gay then sulking instead of talking about it would do it for me. I can't really comment on the sex part because I didn't before I got married. (at least you're not left dissatisfied it it's not as "good" as another person).

I basically agree with everyone else. There are lots of red flags there.

[stressed]

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[Hopeless Dork]

If you don't want sex with him anymore, and he'd prefer porn to sex with you and porn over your happiness.... plus all those other red flags... I'd have to agree with the ... this isn't meant for you... crowd.

If you can't agree on the fundamental things like what makes you happy sexually -- they will not improve because you sign a peice of paper. It is what it is and it will get no better. If the sex was 'better' back when he watched porn... thats and insulting thing for him to say, actually. To say that he wanted sex more when he thought about other people in porn enough to be turned on... ugh.. he sounds like a jerk, sweetie -- marry him and sign on to the long list of ladies in those sexless unhappy marriages with 3 kids strapped to their hip and no sign of a way out.

[Guest]

So I texted him now at work, telling him if porn is such a big issue for him then for god's sake he can do it, but I won't have the same attitude towards sex anymore and I don't even want it. So scr*w it, he can have his porn, I will have mine, and I don't care about sex.

So what is the point of sticking around?

What an idiot.

And who's the idiot who is staying with him?

[Guest]

he expects oral,but wont give it in return?
his next present should be a bottle of jergens and a smut mag...what a a jerk!

[Miya]

he expects oral,but wont give it in return?
his next present should be a bottle of jergens and a smut mag...what a a jerk!

LOL...totally!

[danceintx]

The conversations you have had with him remind me of my ex. He would pull the same to avoid issues and true communication. Evading subjects, sulking, emotional blackmail, complete disregard for my feelings. I was dumb enought to still get married thinking it would work itself out, boy was I wrong. Getting married made it worse, and it was the most nightmarish I ever lived through. He also told me after the split up that he thought he was a sex addict. Don't ever assume that people think like you, will react like you. One of my biggest flaws. Marriage will not make any of this go away. I would be more worried about the crappy communication skills than I would the porn addiction.

[prawnprincess]

Did you say you've been together for three years? Do you think the sex would change now?

[happy ending]

I agree with Little. Few things get better with marriage. Marriage should be a seal on what is already good not an atempt to make anything better.

so so true!!!

[stressed]

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