[caterpillar79]

i dont think he has erectile dysfunction, he can go on for hours.
We r 32 and 33. I do think he is lazy performing the act. Does it mean he doesnt find me attractive enough?

Not necessarily the case. He must have some self-esteem issues as well. It could also be that he lacks the stamina. How often does he workout? I remember reading a post about low sex drive on men, and that there is a possible underlying medical condition that is silently causing the problem. you should have him checked.

[caterpillar79]

OP, here is Wildchild's take on similar issue (low sex drive)...read on : https://www.womens-health.com/boards...rustrated.html

[Hopeless Dork]

If he is looking at porn every day -- as one wise man on this forum once told me --- guys don't look at porn to frustrate themself, they look at it to get the job done in most cases.

So if he is doing porn daily, and has a minimal to average drive -- he has no energy for you. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive, he might not even know you want it that much. Talk to him, ask him if he is masturbating... not in an accusing way but ask him to save up a little of that energy for you.

Some guys at his age only have one orgasm in them a day -- if he uses it on porn, his needs are met, he's not going to inniciate.

[Guest]

OK. He has porn addiction

Whoa there!

Dont' be so quick to judge something as an addiction. Addiction is a very strong word.

A lot of people masturbate every day. Some people masturbate several times a day. Does that make them addicts?

[Guest]

Wow - all these things floating around....porn addict....low sex drive...self esteem issues...erectile disfunction??

LOL, slow down guys. Did I miss something?

The issue was that he wasn't initiating sex.

That being said....would you (the OP) like to have sex more? If so, its time for a talk.

I'm not sure where these self esteem and erectile dysfunction prognoses are coming from. Masturbating to porn is a very common thing for both men and women. Just as men get carried away with porn I know more than a couple women who get carried away with their sex toys.

Porn and masturbation become a problem when it interferes with the sexual needs of your partner. If you are feeling sexually neglected, something needs to change.

Good luck to you both.