[imported_vernisa220]

Now ladies i need some help here my husband is comming home with marks on his body, and always says he dont know where they came from not to metion the jewlry found in the car. also dont know where it came from always late at work but calls me from the cell instead of the office phone. but his favorite line is i have a little **** and dont nobody want me but you. I guess what i'm asking is how many would call that cheating???????????

[imported_mellaya78]

hmmm

It has been my experience that when you start having signs and getting bad feelings, your instinct is usually right. I have been cheated on several times and know there are a lot of signs and usually women do not become suspicious unless there is a good reason. Of course, some women have been cheated on so much that they begin this habitual pattern of suspicion and doubt so just make sure that is not what you are doing.

Anyway, men like to turn things around by making comments that they are fat or unattractive or whatever to create misdirection. The same thing is happening when guys will start accusing YOU of cheating. It is an attempt to misdirect the focus onto you. Guys that are cheating tend to become less attentive and more stand-offish. Also more irritable and short tempered with you. Be aware, a woman's intuition is a powerful thing and is often times ignored. Women can unconsciously pick up on changes in attitude and behavior which triggers that intuitive feeling.

I picked up a little trick in my experience. I have found that if I come right out and say "I KNOW you have cheated on me!"... instead of "well.... I... feel like you are cheating on me." or "I am... well... worried... that you are cheating on me."... then they feel like they have been caught, you truly know what you are talking about, and often times will break down and admit it. If a cheating man senses weakness in what you are saying, then he is going to take every advantage to convince you that you are completely wrong.

I say, life is too **** short to be in a relationship without trust. If you can't get things worked out to where you trust each other again then you might as well move on to someone that will not make you feel that way.

[imported_Bradsmom]

Cheatin'

If you feel like he's cheating, he probably is. Women have this sense about things like that. When I was dating and some funny feeling came over me-I always new it. I've been married for 8years and I haven't had that feeling since-Thank God!!

[imported_dawnachan]

It has been my experience that when you start having signs and getting bad feelings, your instinct is usually right. I have been cheated on several times and know there are a lot of signs and usually women do not become suspicious unless there is a good reason. Of course, some women have been cheated on so much that they begin this habitual pattern of suspicion and doubt so just make sure that is not what you are doing.

Anyway, men like to turn things around by making comments that they are fat or unattractive or whatever to create misdirection. The same thing is happening when guys will start accusing YOU of cheating. It is an attempt to misdirect the focus onto you. Guys that are cheating tend to become less attentive and more stand-offish. Also more irritable and short tempered with you. Be aware, a woman's intuition is a powerful thing and is often times ignored. Women can unconsciously pick up on changes in attitude and behavior which triggers that intuitive feeling.

I picked up a little trick in my experience. I have found that if I come right out and say "I KNOW you have cheated on me!"... instead of "well.... I... feel like you are cheating on me." or "I am... well... worried... that you are cheating on me."... then they feel like they have been caught, you truly know what you are talking about, and often times will break down and admit it. If a cheating man senses weakness in what you are saying, then he is going to take every advantage to convince you that you are completely wrong.

I say, life is too **** short to be in a relationship without trust. If you can't get things worked out to where you trust each other again then you might as well move on to someone that will not make you feel that way.

I am rather scared. My current bf has been talking to a girl named 'Kelly' but he insists he has done nothing. I asked his sister and she said 'Oh she has a Man' but I asked him and he said she didn't. NOW he is out and it is 2:10AM, his sister called asking for him but I told her he was out than saying oh well hes not here and not at his other sisters and his mothers...

I am rather scared b/c what you said sounds like my situation right now. He HAS turned it back on me and I have asked in that ways but I did openly ask him up front if he did and he said no. BUT I do have a weird feeling but this is my FIRST relationship and I have NO idea on what the feeling is.

I am very nervous like his sister is covering it up and telling me "Without trust there is nothing" and "Well I never seen him cheat on you" and "well leave him" THEN turning around and asking him HOW I found this out, and insiting HE get his own MSN so I cant see what he is saying... Is it wrong I want to know?? He has made me feel bad about spying but I think IF there is NOTHING to hide than why mind me looking... I dunnoooo....

[imported_dawnachan]

Okay I found out, he was with my Father downtown last night, they both came back * 3am.

[imported_Tessa]

I'm going through the same feelings right now

I've been married almost 4 years now and things just don't seem right lately. My husband has been acting strange He just started a new work schedule about a month ago and his times coming home are different everyday. He use to call me everyday from work if he was going to late or on his way home. Now the phone calls have stopped. He tells me that they can't have cell phones in the work place but he does have access to a land phone. Why doesn't he call? He does less work at his new job so I don't know where all his time goes. Today I thought he would call me around the time he claims his work is done but an hour went by with no call. So I called his cell (twice) and when he finally picked up he was out of breathe!!! He sits at a desk all day how can he be tired from that. He says he had to take out the trash!!! Theres a new number popping up on his cell also. I did a little searching and found out it belongs to a married couple but what I don't get is that the number always pops up when we are away from each other. His e-mail is lighter than before as if he is making sure to delete stuff. I know in my heart that something is wrong!!! Was it wrong for me to snoop around like that? Should I ask him about the number? I don't want to make something out of nothing but I can't sleep or eat and its tearing me up inside What should I do?

[imported_MsSugaT]

Signs

Number 1. Always listen to your intuition, it usually is 100% right. Jewlry, marks, lies. It doesn't get any better. My husband cheated on me many times, and finally I found out. He was really good and really smooth. He had a baby from some skanky woman and had an affair with one of my so called friends. I finally kicked him to the curb after 15 years of marriage. So listen to yourself, and do not put up with it. There are a lot of good men out there, yes sometimes hard to find, but they are out there. Good luck and keep your standards up high. Life is really short and then its gone. Good luck.

[imported_Michelle1773]

Just ask him. If you've been with him this long, you'll know if he's full of it by his answer. It is senceless to allow what is happening (or not happening) to eat up so much of your time & energy. When it comes to being with a cheater, I think that most of us have been there, done that (unfortunatly). What is the worst that can happen if you confront him? He'll leave?? I'll tell you from exp. that there are many, many worse things that could happen in your life besides losing a cheater. & no, they don't change, especially if a good woman forgives them once. Be strong. There are so many good men worth your energy & time. Maybe your misreading something, but if you arent, Sweetheart, get out like the house is on fire! Good luck.

[imported_staind98989]

Cheating husband.

My husband just told me he has had an affair. I am 24 and he is 26. The woman who he had the affiar with is 36 and has 5 kids. I have also just learned he told her that I filed for divorce and had them served to him at his job. That was a total lie. The woman Christine said that is what he told her. I also found out from Christine's aunt that they have been going on dates together for 2 months now, mini golfing, bar hopping, dinners, movies, and all kinds of other ****. they have also been renting hotel rooms. We have a 2 year old son together and all of my family lives in Oklahoma. My husband moved me up to new york a year and a half ago and I have no one to help me. I don't know what to do or think. I can't even talk to my husband because he is in the hospital for spontaneous pneumothorax. His lungs collapse for no reason and he told me if I die I needed to get this off my chest. I am so scared and confused and hurt deeply. I am taking xanax, but that barely helps at all. He told me they only had sex two times, but the dates/???? What the hell is that all about? ...His excuses why he wasn't home on time included...I got lost, I'm going out tonight with the guys, or someone needs help with their car. He is an assistant manager of service and so the "so and so need help with their car" I never found to be questionable. Apparently I'm the idiot. Needless to say...we can't talk about this because he is in the hospital and Christine the mistress keeps calling him at the hospital and **** posing as me so she can talk to him. He is in ICU and only family members are supposed to be allowed to talk to patients there. He says he wants to remain friends with her and I just can't deal with that. He says I shouldn't try to control who his friends are and that he wouldn't do that to me which is a total lie. Every guy friend I have he thinks we're sleeping together because they flirt with me, and he tells them to leave me alone. I just need some advice. Should I just run home to Oklahoma.

[imported_Michelle1773]

GO HOME TO YOUR FAMILY!!!!!!!! You do not need this & neither does your son. Asking you to deal with them remaining friends in unthinkable. He has no respect for you or your feelings, & neither does his girlfriend. Go home with your dignity still in tact & start your wonderful life over. Good luck to you sweetheart, I think you already made your decision, just act on it. In a year youll shake your head about this & wonder why it took you so long.