I know sometimes that when you are pregnant you become a bit emotional, insecure and unattracted. So I am writing this forum to see if I am being over dramatic about things.
When my fiance and I first met we hit it off like a pea and a pod. We both agree on planning to have a baby together. I have two kids and this would be his first.
He has been marriaged a quite a few times but seem to be a great guy..
Friends and family always seemed comfortable leaving their kids with him.
We also discussed marriage but since he had been married a couple time he was a bit skeptical about it. Although we did not think that I would get pregnant as fast as I did since it did not happen in the past for him being that he even paid for invitro with his last wife.
We would make love at least 2/3 times a day and enjoyed each other.
Now that I am pregnant not to mention a bit sick through my pregnancy we only had sex about 5 times total and I am 8 months pregnant. I began to think where did all the love, attraction, attention,sex, and happines go.
I talked to him about it him no longer showing any affection and how he sleeps at the end of the bad and I am on the other side of the bed. I also asked him was he still attracted to me and of course he said yes. I do not consider myself big although I have gained 55lbs (135lbs when we met)but it is all baby.
He has his own business and does other things on the side as well. So he has a lot of female friends so I do not know who is who but before I never felt insecure but all of a sudden I do know since everything has stopped.
Here are the incidents. One day he suppose to go to his office to met a client and it was 4pm and he suppose to return so that we could go grab a bit to eat as time went by it was 8pm so I called him. He picked up and said he was at the office talking to two of his other friend and would be home shortly so something told me to get in the car and go over there which I sit out side his office about 30 min later he and his friend walks out with beer in their hands accompanied by two females. I drove up and asked what was going on he said nothing however the female that was walking with him turned her back to me and never said a word. As for his friend he continue laughing and carrying on.
He was upset with me and stating that I should call when I come to his office.
Another incident is I check his phone and seen text msgs from this female asking if they could meet, what she wanted for her birthday, calling him boo, and etc.. I asked him about it and he says that she is a friend he helped get her business started and lived out of town. About two weeks ago I again found calls from this same female which he change her name to initials in his phone and I questioned him about it and he said she was helping him with a deal and I informed him how she lives out of town and he could not say anything. We had a big falling out because I was ****ed and the next day when I came home from work he said that he had to leave and go stay in a hotel to get himself together.
I told him that we promise one another that we would not stay a night away from one another . I begged him not to leave but he still left and I called him after he left but he did not answer the phone.
The next morning he called and wanted to take me to breakfast so that we could talk but I did not go so he brought it home to me.
He stated he thought about what I was saying and I was right. We never talked about anything. So a couple of days later I explained to him the things we talked about when we first met and all his promises and he just apologzie and said that he would try not to stress me.
Two weeks ago I could not reach him and he said that his cell phone went dead but I called the office and he did not answer.
Earlier this week he stayed in his office tell about 830pm and came home to inform me that his phone needed a jump off and he came home to get the truck and cable.
I know for sure the mercedes has jumper cables in the trunk but I did not say I word. He returned home in about 945pm and the office is about ten away from our home.
I did not say anything to him once he returned he was just explaining which did not make sense. The next day I explain to him that it seems like I am going thru this pregnancy by myself an he is never around.
Sometimes when I call he do not answer so what am I to do if something happen or go into labor. He apologized and said he understand and he would do better.
The very next day which it was pouring down raining and usually we are texting or calling each other thuroughout the day. I did not receive a text or call which I thought nothing about it cause it happens sometime.
Due to the weather I was a bit congested and did not want to keep getting out in the rain so on my way home I called him to pick up me some medicine on the way home and he did not answer. When I made it home I called the office and a man picked up whom I did not know and apparently did not know me. I informed him who I was and asked to speak with my fiance. He told me that he step away from the office for about an hour and did I want to leave a message.
At this time I was furious because all of his friends know me and this guy must have been an average joe or something. Anyway I told him I will reach him on his cell phone which I called 3 times and did not get an answer. Then I called back to the office and ask the gentleman did he leave the office and the man repliled yes so I told him my name so that he could let my fiance know that I called. I then in returned tried caller him again on his cell twice and got no answer. Then about 30 mins later he calls the house and my cell but I did not answer. To top it all off he did not return home til about an hour and a half later. He came in the house trying to explain but I ignored him because he was lying I know..
He started saying that he left his phone on his desk and I was thinking why did the guy tell me his phone was in the office and why would you leave your phone when you have a fiance in her 35th week which means anything could happen at this point.. I am so mad and upset with myself to think that I trusted this man and this is the thanks I get.
I have to know go another 18 years raising another child when I could had been finished in the next 5 years.. He shows no remorse to my feelings.. What in the have I gotten into. All of my life I have put my trust in men and I get the same result although I thought this one would be different..
Please give me your advice or suggestion. Good or Bad.. Thanks in advance.
When my fiance and I first met we hit it off like a pea and a pod. We both agree on planning to have a baby together. I have two kids and this would be his first.
He has been marriaged a quite a few times but seem to be a great guy..
Friends and family always seemed comfortable leaving their kids with him.
We also discussed marriage but since he had been married a couple time he was a bit skeptical about it. Although we did not think that I would get pregnant as fast as I did since it did not happen in the past for him being that he even paid for invitro with his last wife.
We would make love at least 2/3 times a day and enjoyed each other.
Now that I am pregnant not to mention a bit sick through my pregnancy we only had sex about 5 times total and I am 8 months pregnant. I began to think where did all the love, attraction, attention,sex, and happines go.
I talked to him about it him no longer showing any affection and how he sleeps at the end of the bad and I am on the other side of the bed. I also asked him was he still attracted to me and of course he said yes. I do not consider myself big although I have gained 55lbs (135lbs when we met)but it is all baby.
He has his own business and does other things on the side as well. So he has a lot of female friends so I do not know who is who but before I never felt insecure but all of a sudden I do know since everything has stopped.
Here are the incidents. One day he suppose to go to his office to met a client and it was 4pm and he suppose to return so that we could go grab a bit to eat as time went by it was 8pm so I called him. He picked up and said he was at the office talking to two of his other friend and would be home shortly so something told me to get in the car and go over there which I sit out side his office about 30 min later he and his friend walks out with beer in their hands accompanied by two females. I drove up and asked what was going on he said nothing however the female that was walking with him turned her back to me and never said a word. As for his friend he continue laughing and carrying on.
He was upset with me and stating that I should call when I come to his office.
Another incident is I check his phone and seen text msgs from this female asking if they could meet, what she wanted for her birthday, calling him boo, and etc.. I asked him about it and he says that she is a friend he helped get her business started and lived out of town. About two weeks ago I again found calls from this same female which he change her name to initials in his phone and I questioned him about it and he said she was helping him with a deal and I informed him how she lives out of town and he could not say anything. We had a big falling out because I was ****ed and the next day when I came home from work he said that he had to leave and go stay in a hotel to get himself together.
I told him that we promise one another that we would not stay a night away from one another . I begged him not to leave but he still left and I called him after he left but he did not answer the phone.
The next morning he called and wanted to take me to breakfast so that we could talk but I did not go so he brought it home to me.
He stated he thought about what I was saying and I was right. We never talked about anything. So a couple of days later I explained to him the things we talked about when we first met and all his promises and he just apologzie and said that he would try not to stress me.
Two weeks ago I could not reach him and he said that his cell phone went dead but I called the office and he did not answer.
Earlier this week he stayed in his office tell about 830pm and came home to inform me that his phone needed a jump off and he came home to get the truck and cable.
I know for sure the mercedes has jumper cables in the trunk but I did not say I word. He returned home in about 945pm and the office is about ten away from our home.
I did not say anything to him once he returned he was just explaining which did not make sense. The next day I explain to him that it seems like I am going thru this pregnancy by myself an he is never around.
Sometimes when I call he do not answer so what am I to do if something happen or go into labor. He apologized and said he understand and he would do better.
The very next day which it was pouring down raining and usually we are texting or calling each other thuroughout the day. I did not receive a text or call which I thought nothing about it cause it happens sometime.
Due to the weather I was a bit congested and did not want to keep getting out in the rain so on my way home I called him to pick up me some medicine on the way home and he did not answer. When I made it home I called the office and a man picked up whom I did not know and apparently did not know me. I informed him who I was and asked to speak with my fiance. He told me that he step away from the office for about an hour and did I want to leave a message.
At this time I was furious because all of his friends know me and this guy must have been an average joe or something. Anyway I told him I will reach him on his cell phone which I called 3 times and did not get an answer. Then I called back to the office and ask the gentleman did he leave the office and the man repliled yes so I told him my name so that he could let my fiance know that I called. I then in returned tried caller him again on his cell twice and got no answer. Then about 30 mins later he calls the house and my cell but I did not answer. To top it all off he did not return home til about an hour and a half later. He came in the house trying to explain but I ignored him because he was lying I know..
He started saying that he left his phone on his desk and I was thinking why did the guy tell me his phone was in the office and why would you leave your phone when you have a fiance in her 35th week which means anything could happen at this point.. I am so mad and upset with myself to think that I trusted this man and this is the thanks I get.
I have to know go another 18 years raising another child when I could had been finished in the next 5 years.. He shows no remorse to my feelings.. What in the have I gotten into. All of my life I have put my trust in men and I get the same result although I thought this one would be different..
Please give me your advice or suggestion. Good or Bad.. Thanks in advance.
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