[stressed]

I think you should tell him anyway, whether you live together or not. This has been going on for a long time with her, she's not a random person, she has his phone number and they exchange emails, photos and text messages. He might get used to this attention and continue when you move in together. This can lead into more serious trust issues in the future.

My opinion and my opinion only, not even an advice you must follow, but: You should have deleted these photos. You say he has folders with photos of you in them, which shows that he updates those folders. How do you know that he doesn't masturbate to the ex photos? Are you really alright with that? It's not even a porn situation as he knows those two women, there's more to it that just looking at a naked porn star.

Tell him how you feel, it does not matter that you are living apart. You are planning to marry in two months and such doubts have no place in an engaged couple. If he cannot control himself when he claims he wants to spend the rest of his life with you then how can you be sure that he will control himself after you marry? Please be careful, this is not something that should be taken light heartedly.

[rcoreyus]

While stressed has a point, you need to realize that some people are really offended by snooping. I would leave a relationship with someone who spied on me. I consider trust to be vitally important.

You could fairly say that he has already violated that trust - and maybe he has. But the point isn't who is at fault, the point is whether you want to continue the relationship.

[stressed]

The good thing about snooping is that, if there's a valid reason to do it then you can get a shot at fixing the issue instead of ignoring it and live in an imaginary happy world. Some times people hide things out of fear or will to avoid misunderstandings that if they'd bring out in the open they'd be much easier to deal with. It doesn't always bring the end of the world or permanently shatters trust. As long as it doesn't happen continuously and it's not an obsession.

[Hopeless Dork]

lol .. thats EXACTLY the kinda poontang I meant

[pretzel]

I don't know. I think I have more problems with him to continue to have pics of his ex (explicit?) and of someone else.

I think I would be inclined to ask. If he gets mad then what's to say that you won't continue of have questions after your marriage. At this point in the relationship both of you should know who each other are friends with and to what degree.

[Rainbowendings]

Saddly, I know this situation all too well. I found pictures of his ex and a few girls we knew from the town we live in. Needless to say, I was LIVID. He had been next to me when this happened though, and Yeah, I threw a bit of a fit over it. We're in a serious relationship. He deleted all the pictures.

A few months later I was on his laptop and in his documents (I was trying to find the essay i sent him) was a photo of a girl we knew in her bikini.

We've almost broken up over these issues. Now, we're much better. We sat down, we talked, he deleted the photos. And now we have my one, golden rule about porn. NO girls we know, have talked to, or that we/him/I know or have spoken to.

They have to be strangers, porn stars, or people who post on the internet.

In a serious relationship, having naked photos of someone you or the other person knows on your computer... in my mind, that's being unfaithful. (But thats just me)

In a nut shell, I say tell him.

[stressed]

They have to be strangers, porn stars, or people who post on the internet.

Hmmm I wonder about people who post on the internet, I wonder how you can be comfortable with that (I'm only asking because I'm curious, not because I think that's wrong). Because, if he has a nude photo of a person who posts somewhere then it means they exchange PM's, they have talked and they have some sort of connection.