[viola]

Seeing, talking, yearning, longing, desiring and making out with your husbands friend is not normal. You can't have that relationship any more. Your friend was right to stop seeing you in this way, and did the right thing. I feel for you but you have to break away from this guy, and concentrate on your marriage and family. You have to work on your marriage and not look outside to fix it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

i don't know whether he still loves me or not . i don't know . but i want to see him ofcourse with my husband around but that too is not possible. i want to see him talk to him . but this is not possible. what can i do please help me.

we could laugh together share our thinkings and experiences together. I want all that past come back

karen you told him of your feelings he said he loves you too.....In your origional post you said, I don't know if he still loves me...

Your husband is not silly, he is ensuring that he is safe in his marriage.

I think that you need to get the laughter, sharing, thinking from your husband, because that is what is missing in your relationship and that is why you find the other guy so attractive and fantasize the love, I believe and the desire to be that group of 3 again..He's the missing link to your marriage.

Again, if you are not happy in your marriage, it's your choice to stay, to be provided for, and remain married, in a normal not exciting fun, happy marriage, or not.

Or, you can see what you liked about the friend and communiate with your husband what is missing in your marriage.

CW

[kareenakapoor47]

it helps my married life to be exciting

if you are not happy in your marriage, it's your choice to stay, to be provided for, and remain married, in a normal not exciting fun, happy marriage, or not.

CW

Hi i am satisfied with your answer but one thing i want to tell you that whenever i get a chance to talk to his friend i become so happy. So happy that i become very excited for whole day and in the night we ( me and my husband) have a very good and exciting sex. That is enough for me i want an exciting sex with my husband and that is my only goal. This is the only reason i want his friend in my life as our family friend. Even if i see his friend in my dream i become very happy and excited whole day. In this way i think my marriage life will be so good if we three get friends. I need his friend to make my own life and married life successful. without him i see my world at end.

[karenshiver]

Be faithful to your husband, your children, and your marriage. Whenever a thought pops up in your mind about this other man, push it out... do not dwell on it, .

[viola]

Ohhhhh brother....

[ayushi daswani14]

maybe am too young to answer..but I'd still say that you have mentioned clearly that you dont love this man..but you LOVE your husband..
question yourself..if you are happy with your married life?..if yes then you need to let go of this attraction.. keep yourself in your husband's shoes.. what if your husband would have done this to you.. how you would have felt..?..and most important what would you expect him to do?..
you need not consider all this if you dont love him or you dont want to be with him..but because you say you love your husband..and you want a happy married life with him..you have to let go of this attraction..
you need friends maybe..to hang around with..to keep you lively..search for your own..and not your husband's..

[Tod121]

maybe am too young to answer..but I'd still say that you have mentioned clearly that you dont love this man..but you LOVE your husband..
question yourself..if you are happy with your married life?..if yes then you need to let go of this attraction.. keep yourself in your husband's shoes.. what if your husband would have done this to you.. how you would have felt..?..and most important what would you expect him to do?..
you need not consider all this if you dont love him or you dont want to be with him..but because you say you love your husband..and you want a happy married life with him..you have to let go of this attraction..
you need friends maybe..to hang around with..to keep you lively..search for your own..and not your husband's..

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You say you may be too young to answer this one BUT I think you are absolutely spot on! Kareena NEEDS to let go and move on for everyones sake.