[heartbroken19]

He has only seen her 3 or 4 times since that night, only to take her to get some blood work done and to some doc appointments. He tells me that she didn't want to tell him about the baby. He found out through a friend of hers on the street. The crossed each other and she asked him how the pregnancy was going and thats when he went to go look for her and when he asked if the baby was his she said no, that her friend must have misunderstood and that the baby was her husband's. It wasn't until a few months back that her friend told my husband that there is a strong chance that the baby could be his and that's when my husband took her to the doctors to find out exactly how far along she was. I asked him how sure can she be that the baby is his and he says that she told him, a woman knows these things and I strongly believe it's yours, is that even possible?? He was planing on telling me, I don't know when but he says he was going to, baby or no baby. He says that when he told her that he had to tell me that she said there was no need, why cause that pain to her. Should I believe him??? I mean there's always 2 sides to the story right??? Should I believe that she really didn't want me to find out??? She left her husband because when she told him what happened between her and my husband he left. I don't know if she had the idea that something was going to happen between her and m husband once she broke off her marriage??? Please help!!!!!

[Ashlee T.]

Her husband did exactly what you should do.

I know you're devastated right now...but forgive me for being extremely concerned at the fact you seem minimally concerned with the fact that your HUSBAND deceived you, betrayed you, and had unprotected sex with another woman. He's been living this whole other life, right under your nose. The pregnancy is only possibly a result of that. But even if you find out the baby isn't his and feel relieved...your husband still went against everything he promised you as a husband and broke the trust, and the bond that you worked for together. Doesn't it concern you that he was willing to have his cake and eat it too so long as there were no consequences and no chance of you finding out? You ONLY know about this because of this pregnancy.

[jns]

How is this playing out now? Have you came to terms with it?