[brunettebabe]

I guess one of the reasons why I haven't left yet is because I am afraid of having to find a boyfriend. I had a hard time in the past with this. I only dated one guy before getting married. People in general (men & women) don't like me very much. I was bullied.

[Little]

You don't *have* to find a boyfriend. In fact, after having such a painful and dysfunctional relationship, you could probably use some time alone. Do some looking at yourself. Think about why people don't seem to like you, think about whether they really don't like you or if it's just that you don't think they do.
You're an adult now. You don't have to let anybody bully you. But you're letting your husband bully you from INSIDE your own home right now! It's not right.

Keep telling yourself: YOU DESERVE MORE.

I understand that you probably want to find another partner and eventually get married (or have a strong romantic relationship at least) again, to eventually have kids, I'm just saying it shouldn't be your first priority.

[Brandywine]

I am afraid of having to find a boyfriend.

Who says you have to right away, or ever? Happiness starts with YOU.

[brunettebabe]

Had hardly any friends and no boyfriends.

[Ashlee T.]

I guess one of the reasons why I haven't left yet is because I am afraid of having to find a boyfriend. I had a hard time in the past with this. I only dated one guy before getting married. People in general (men & women) don't like me very much. I was bullied.

Your past doesn't = your future. If it did, I'd still be painfully miserably shy. I'd still feel physically awkward in front of everyone. I've done a lot of growing. And so have you.

The part I don't understand is why would the fear of not finding another man keep you in an unhappy unhealthy marriage? What IF you didn't find another man for 10 years after your divorce? Wouldn't it be nice to learn that you can be happy? Your husband doesn't make you happy, so what have you to lose? Your self worth does not depend upon your relationship status. It's almost as if to say it's better to be in an unhappy marriage in which you're treated terribly than it is to be single and happy.

I am 29 and I have not married. I have not married because I haven't found a person that I can be happier with, than I am alone. So far, I have found men who add stress and negativity to my life. Drama. etc. Does that mean I don't hope to find the man of my dreams someday? Of course not. I long for that day. But in the meantime.....girlfriend, I am happy. And that is priceless.

You can be happy too.

[Julietpinkrose]

If you feel like something isn't right then follow that instinct.

Have you told him how you feel???