[togetherforever]

I must say that I have been in a relationship (we met at school and now we're both 40) for so long we have had a chance to develop and experiment. I have more often than not been the dominant partner in the bedroom (or other venues for sex ;-)), but recently I have had fantasies about reversing the role where I am the sub. However, I wouldn't call me the sub in the instance as it is more a case of a 'forced fantasy'.

My husband is an understanding lover and soulmate. He is more than willing to take small steps to appreciate how we feel about the fantasy and the roleplay. After all, we have the rest of our lives.

At the beginning of this month we had a holiday in Florida, and because we were in a strange house and a strange environment, we decided to 'go for it'. We had just had a swim in the pool and the scenerio was that I would go for a shower and Mike would break in and force me to have sex. He grabbed me from behind in the shower and forced me to give him oral sex before he took me from behind. He then dragged me into the bedroom by my hair with his hand over my mouth before binding my hands behind my back. It was amazing! As a twist he forced me into the walk-in wardrobe, grabbed me by the throat whilst I gagged a little on his penis. Naturally he finished me off roughly on my knees.

It was quite a thrilling feeling, and not quite knowing what was going to happen next was the ultimate turn on. He even made me lunch and cup of tea (we are English!) afterwards.

Don't forget, this is a fantasy that requires trust and confidence. Without that it can lead to humiliation that a new relationship may not survive.

[NubbinsUp]

This is one of those excellent examples of Mark Twain's reflection: "I'm an old man, and I've known a great many troubles, and most of them never happened."

We often hold back in many areas of life, not just because of concerns of physical safety or loss of trust, but because we're so concerned about how others will judge us. Rape fantasies are very common among women, as others pointed out. The funny thing is that while there are monsters/actual would-be rapists walking the earth, most guys myself and all my friends included, do not fantasize about playing at raping our wives or girlfriends. We indulge this fantasy and it gives us pleasure to see them pleased. I have a very common male fantasy of my own that most women don't have. I've never been too shy about asking a lover to indulge me, and I'm glad I did.