[AshB$]

What is your opinion on this?

My ex (never engaged) would flip a b. about this even though he was on the other said of the world.

My fiance also has a hugeee problem with this. At first I thought, he is being a little controlling and insecure. The insecure part may be true. I thought it was stupid. I mean, if he trusts me, which he should, what's the issue?

But then I got to thinking... If he hung out with a girl without me, I'd be jealous too. Even if it was just a friend. I do trust him. But I think it'd make me a little upset.

Anyone agree/disagree?

I know everyone is different. Just depends how you feel personally.

[DreamP346]

Since getting married, I have made any new guy friends but I still do hang out with the old ones. Never alone, but not intensionally. It's just that we have families now. It depends on your relationship. I also hang out with my lesbian friend. He doesn't get jeolous over that. Why get jeolous with a guy friend.

[AshB$]

I think it's an insecurity thing.

[rosekitten]

My husband was deployed for a year and he never minded if I hung out with guys. Some husbands did, and we (my husband and I) think it's silly. If he wants to go hang out with friends, he's welcome to, gender doesn't play a factor in it.

[AshB$]

I think my fiance is a little too strict on that rule, but I think trust and maturity will help out a lot in the future. We're still growing.

[jns]

Some people are more trusting than others. Those who are trusting will gradually get back to trusting even after they have been hurt. They may stay away from intimate relationships, but will have trust of their friends. Those who don't trust, probably won't become more trusting as time goes on.

[Little]

My husband has no problem with me hanging out with guy friends. He doesn't care if he's there or not, he doesn't care if it's morning or night, he doesn't care if it's a group hangout or one on one, and sometimes he even watches the baby so that I can go hang out with my friends - guys, girls, whatever. We have a secure relationship, are very compatible, have minimal problems.

But considering that your fiance IS insecure, your relationship IS NOT stable or secure, and you guys have BIG BIG BIG problems ... I don't know if I'd rock the boat in your shoes. At least, not if I wanted to batten down the hatches and secure the relationship.

[LittlePip]

I agree with Little, above. Whilst his behaviour is a little controlling, hopefully he will learn to trust more with maturity, of both himself and your relationship together. I would make an effort to involve your fiancé with your male friends, they might get on well and everyone wins, he makes a new friend, you see more of your male friends, you get to hang out with all your favourite guys at the same time. If they don't get on personality wise hopefully your fiancé will just let you get on with it to avoid having to hang out with someone he's not compatible with again!

The only question you should ask yourself is are you certain this man is only a friend and there are no stronger feelings from either side? If you have a clear conscience then you are in the right.

[AshB$]

I agree. I don't really have any desire to go hang out with any guys anyway.
I know the problem is he has been hurt before. Having girlfriends "hang out" with guy friends and they end up cheating.. And I know it's not okay that he puts that on me. But I know he'd be totally scared about it. But I am okay with it. I don't want to hang out with any males. I am more attracted to females anyway. I wouldn't want him with any other women either though. I'm the jealous type.

He is totally fine with everyone hanging out together. I'm not too concerned about it. At least me and him agree on this.

[cat_like_reflexes]

99% of the time the guy friend wishes he could be with you lol and we guys aren't stupid. The other 1% dont' want to steal you but would sleep with you if given the chance lol