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Hanging out with another male while engaged.

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  • I agree 100% that men and women can be platonic friends.

    Often though, there is an 'imbalance' of feelings between the two parties. Usually the man wanting sex IMO, especially if the friendship is based on him originally being attracted to the girl and her relegating him to the position of her friend. This obviously isn't the girls fault and it is usually younger and less experienced men who find themselves in this situation.

    Since AshB is what, 20 years old? And this guy is a similar age, say 20 he's going to be bat-****e horny, especially if he's single. I'd say in this instance he would like more from her, and would take it if he had half the chance. I'm not saying he's in the wrong if he does feel this way, 20 year old males think about little else.

    As I stated above, male-female friendships can be platonic, but I'm guessing this 'friendship' doesn't apply.
    "The greatest enemy will hide in the last place you will ever look" [I]Julius Caesar[/I]


    • Originally posted by sp346 View Post
      Also, there is always the possibility of developing a romantic relationship with somebody of the same gender.
      LOL. I tell my fiance straight up, I do not like men anyway. And if he ever left me, I'd be looking for a woman, not another man.
      He is the ONLY man I want. The only human being I want.

      But I do think it's inappropriate for a married woman to hang out with a single man.
      "Hurt myself again today and the worst part is there's no one else to blame."


      • Originally posted by AshB$ View Post

        But I do think it's inappropriate for a married woman to hang out with a single man.
        On what grounds? My husband was deployed for a year and I made plenty of male friends, and maintained the ones that I already had. Why is it inappropriate to have friends of the opposite gender? Not that it's specifically relevant, but I'm bi and have poly leanings. Should I also not hang out with females without my husband?

        At the end of the day, people should do what works best for their own relationship, but I never understood why it was "inappropriate" to hang out with some of my friends, just because of what dangly bits they had.


        • It honestly depends on the person. But I've never once been able to hang out with a guy without him hitting on me.
          "Hurt myself again today and the worst part is there's no one else to blame."


          • It depends on the situation as well.

            Are you have a couple drinks or getting drunk?
            Are you being open about it to your fiance or hiding it?
            Are you just hanging out or talking about any relationship problems you might have?
            Are you hanging out once a week or multiple times during a week?
            Is the friendship kind of random or are you looking forward to your next meeting?

            To me the first options sound like a healthy friendship while the second set of options sound like a recipe for possible problems.

            You just need to be aware of your friends intentions and they may change over time.



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