[Brinda]

Mine is a arranged marriage. When we were engaged, the first time we were supposed to go dating, my husband cancelled upon me, because he got a call from a radio channel to attend a show as a lucky winner of some raffel. I found it a little insulting, since he chose the Radio show over me and also since it was the very first date of ours. When I told him these feelings of mine he never got me and laughed it away. What is your opinion on this, would you have felt the same?

[KMonte85]

I suppose that could be considered rude, although I can see why he did it. Sometimes extenuation circumstances happen. If I was supposed to go on a first date, and my date called me prior to tell me he had won some raffle so he needed to reschedule, I would probably be peeved too. But I might also be inclined to get over it quickly if I liked him and knew/thought there could be a future with us.

Question is - does it matter any more at this stage of the game? You said this happened when you were engaged, I assume you're now married. You've obviously met and married since that first date was cancelled, so I'm not sure what the point in dwelling on that is.

[Brinda]

The thing is, we have been in a row lately. And that is why I keep going back to the past to see how many times he has really ****ed me off and has not been sorry about it. I had never got an outside opnion on many things and thought I have to settle them first if I want to move forward.

I suppose that could be considered rude, although I can see why he did it. Sometimes extenuation circumstances happen. If I was supposed to go on a first date, and my date called me prior to tell me he had won some raffle so he needed to reschedule, I would probably be peeved too. But I might also be inclined to get over it quickly if I liked him and knew/thought there could be a future with us.

Question is - does it matter any more at this stage of the game? You said this happened when you were engaged, I assume you're now married. You've obviously met and married since that first date was cancelled, so I'm not sure what the point in dwelling on that is.