I'll try to make the background short so you can understand where I come from:
Met my husband I was 17yrs old(1985), fell in love and knew he was the one. He was in the restaurant business and we
soon moved in together, opened our own restaurant and so on. We always worked together, had 2 great children
and things we're good. Sexually I was ignorant compared to him. My parents we're not sharing a bed, I don't have
any brothers, so a man's point of view was far from my reach.Talking about sex with him was not even a thought
and he's not much of a communicator either.
So we went on for all these years me thinking bang bang that's it and him that I didn't like sex and was just doing it
out of duty.Besides the sex, we were always there for each other and spent most of our time together.
2005, we move to Greece with our son, his home country, by my decision. It took us a while to adjust but things
kept getting better business wise and all. In 2008, my son decides to come back to Canada to study and so it's
just me and him.
Our couple life is good but in bed, it's becoming less and less by my choice because I find it very unsatisfying.
I pleasure myself regularly so I know I like it but with my husband it just doesn't feel the same.
This is where the soap opera begins!
2010 After the tourist season in November we agree, I'm gonna come to Canada to visit my parents and my son
for 2 months.I hadn't been back since 2005.
After I got here, my husband tells me(we talk on Skype) he wants to move back. So he says, stay there, I'm gonna
clear out the business sell everything and I'm coming. Ok!
Took him almost 1 year to get here.(remember we've never been apart)When he finally got here, I was so thrilled
and during this time I had learned alot more about myself. That night we made love. I woke up in the middle of the
night to hear him talking to a woman in Greece on Skype! I blew it, we had a big fight but the next day we finally
sat down after 25yrs of marriage and had our first true discussion on sex and our feelings. We both made mistakes
by assuming that was it for the other and so we decided to start fresh and move on. I told him I would be more
open sexually and actually I wanted it.
So we start fresh, I give him things I've never even thought of doing and find I'm actually enjoying it. So much, I'm
the one asking for it more than him!
A few months later he decides, we decide our way of life is so adjusted to Greece, we're not happy here and so we want
to go back. He leaves first, to find an apartment and then I'll follow when he's settled. Can't wait even a week, get on the
plane to find he's still seeing this woman. All hell breaks loose and for 6 months it's a constant(from him)leave me alone-can't
live without you-need to figure things out-we'll always be one-don't know where I'm going, etc. All this time, he's living in
his shop and doesn't want to bring his things to our apartment.
Finally I figure out for myself, he's at a point he can't live with me or without me. But I can't do this anymore!
So I go back to Canada and tell him I need to find myself again and hopefully he will to.
He shows up here 3months later expecting everything to be as it was but I can't. In the end I give in, we sleep together
and the next day we talk. He tells me, that since our fresh start, he knows I'm acting out the sex to keep him. What a slap
in the face. That's how much he believes in me. I let him know that I'm not doing this just to satisfy him and if he can't see
that we won't continue very far. He tells me, listen you're that way when it comes to sex and you'll never change.
More arguments over the days(during this time I'm not sleeping with him since it's fake) and finally he agrees he was wrong
to doubt my motives and just could not explain to himself how I went from frigd to wild beast. Again we decide to start over
and that night I give him my heart , my soul and my body like never before. The next day, he tells me he's going back to Greece cause he needs to find himself. All he wanted yesterday was the sex!
To end this, I told him to leave, he did and I got a call from a divorce lawyer yesterday. It's gonna be official!
After 28 yrs, I'm on my own for the first time and don't know what to do. Just want to hear you guys and know
I'm not alone in this world. Thanks for your support and listening. I wouldn't be here without you guys!
Met my husband I was 17yrs old(1985), fell in love and knew he was the one. He was in the restaurant business and we
soon moved in together, opened our own restaurant and so on. We always worked together, had 2 great children
and things we're good. Sexually I was ignorant compared to him. My parents we're not sharing a bed, I don't have
any brothers, so a man's point of view was far from my reach.Talking about sex with him was not even a thought
and he's not much of a communicator either.
So we went on for all these years me thinking bang bang that's it and him that I didn't like sex and was just doing it
out of duty.Besides the sex, we were always there for each other and spent most of our time together.
2005, we move to Greece with our son, his home country, by my decision. It took us a while to adjust but things
kept getting better business wise and all. In 2008, my son decides to come back to Canada to study and so it's
just me and him.
Our couple life is good but in bed, it's becoming less and less by my choice because I find it very unsatisfying.
I pleasure myself regularly so I know I like it but with my husband it just doesn't feel the same.
This is where the soap opera begins!
2010 After the tourist season in November we agree, I'm gonna come to Canada to visit my parents and my son
for 2 months.I hadn't been back since 2005.
After I got here, my husband tells me(we talk on Skype) he wants to move back. So he says, stay there, I'm gonna
clear out the business sell everything and I'm coming. Ok!
Took him almost 1 year to get here.(remember we've never been apart)When he finally got here, I was so thrilled
and during this time I had learned alot more about myself. That night we made love. I woke up in the middle of the
night to hear him talking to a woman in Greece on Skype! I blew it, we had a big fight but the next day we finally
sat down after 25yrs of marriage and had our first true discussion on sex and our feelings. We both made mistakes
by assuming that was it for the other and so we decided to start fresh and move on. I told him I would be more
open sexually and actually I wanted it.
So we start fresh, I give him things I've never even thought of doing and find I'm actually enjoying it. So much, I'm
the one asking for it more than him!
A few months later he decides, we decide our way of life is so adjusted to Greece, we're not happy here and so we want
to go back. He leaves first, to find an apartment and then I'll follow when he's settled. Can't wait even a week, get on the
plane to find he's still seeing this woman. All hell breaks loose and for 6 months it's a constant(from him)leave me alone-can't
live without you-need to figure things out-we'll always be one-don't know where I'm going, etc. All this time, he's living in
his shop and doesn't want to bring his things to our apartment.
Finally I figure out for myself, he's at a point he can't live with me or without me. But I can't do this anymore!
So I go back to Canada and tell him I need to find myself again and hopefully he will to.
He shows up here 3months later expecting everything to be as it was but I can't. In the end I give in, we sleep together
and the next day we talk. He tells me, that since our fresh start, he knows I'm acting out the sex to keep him. What a slap
in the face. That's how much he believes in me. I let him know that I'm not doing this just to satisfy him and if he can't see
that we won't continue very far. He tells me, listen you're that way when it comes to sex and you'll never change.
More arguments over the days(during this time I'm not sleeping with him since it's fake) and finally he agrees he was wrong
to doubt my motives and just could not explain to himself how I went from frigd to wild beast. Again we decide to start over
and that night I give him my heart , my soul and my body like never before. The next day, he tells me he's going back to Greece cause he needs to find himself. All he wanted yesterday was the sex!
To end this, I told him to leave, he did and I got a call from a divorce lawyer yesterday. It's gonna be official!
After 28 yrs, I'm on my own for the first time and don't know what to do. Just want to hear you guys and know
I'm not alone in this world. Thanks for your support and listening. I wouldn't be here without you guys!
i know you loved the guy.. But.... Well now u will meet someone thst will give more than he did.. With your
I don't know if you are but I do know the difference of European thinking and I commend you for your strenght in accepting initially what happened not too long ago. 
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