[Julie:-)]

I had been married for 16 years and didn't experiment much before meeting my hubby. For many years my husband asked me to have an affair and do some experimentation, but I didn't dare to do it. I finally accepted to do it, and last year I met a married guy, and we started seeing each other once in a while. We both know that this is strictly for fun, and my husband was turned on with me telling him about it. I would not do this without my hubby approval, but at the end of the year he started to be jealous and I ended it. I went into a lot of stress dealing with my husband's jelously. A few weeks after I stop communications with my FWB, my husband started talking about him again, and asked me to text him and to see him again. He insisted a lot, but I stayed firm in my desicion of not contacting him and avoiding any more stressful situations.
Las week my friend texted me, we started chating, and I told my husband, who agreed and was happy for me to see him again, and was very exited about it. I had a blast that night, best sex ever. A few days after that my husband told me that I won't see him again, just like that! He doesn't even want me to respond to any messages, and all these mental games are driving me insane.
I love my husband to pieces, but I don't know if he loves me, or he just need to feel he owns me and can treat me like a slave.
About my FWB, we are friends, talk about life, our families, laugh, and have good sex, but we are both clear that we love our families, and they are first. I don't need to see him again, but I fill chocked that my husband push me around all the time!

[Bladyn'smommy16]

Open marriages and relationships only work usually I'm not saying all the time but if there is no jealousy in a relationship.. Like you my husband suggested it a bunch but mainly during when he was very turned on.. Is it possible after your husband was no longer turned on he was not so happy with the idea? And he regrets it a lot? But it also turns him on but he can't get past his jealousy? Do you think he might think you will leave him for this other guy?

[jns]

Multiple relationships can be hard if jealousy rears its head. It sounds like your husband is of two minds. One is that he wants to hear of your encounters in a voyeuristic way. The other is that he gets jealous. To those ends he is controlling.

If you want to take charge, you could tell him that you are going to continue the other relationship as he was the one who wanted you to start it in the first place. This would probably break up your marriage due to his jealousy. In a small number of cases a person in his place would reign in their jealousy.

If you look at this thread: https://www.womens-health.com/boards...situation.html you will see a case where a woman has both a husband and a lover. One key difference is that the husband and the lover get along and communicate together. This keeps things from getting out of hand for the people involved. Another thing is the lack of jealousy or more likely controlled mild jealousy.

[Julie:-)]

I told my husband may times that this is just for fun, and I am always telling him I love him. I know that he tries to dominate the situation and feels insecure, but it is driving me insane!

[Bladyn'smommy16]

He is probably to jealous and insecure for you to continue this it might cost you your marriage even though it was his idea..

[Julie:-)]

Latelly he had been saying that he wants us in a 3some with my FWB, but I am not ready for that, so he got really mad at me. I just don't know how to make him happy!

[Bladyn'smommy16]

I see I guess he would like to be included and then maybe he won't be so jealous

[Bladyn'smommy16]

I forgot to ask since this is a open relationship is he having sex with anyone else as well?

[Julie:-)]

I fear he would feel worse after seing me having fun. I am not used to this lifestyle and it is a lot to diggest. Do you think we will calm down if I make him part?

[Bladyn'smommy16]

I believe he wants to be included because he feels left out that is why he is so jealous..