[Baboy]

I have to agree Jen. I find it hard to believe anyone would actually say or believe that. Sad.

Trying to get the guy to counseling might be worth a try, as effy suggests. Can't see it making things worse.

And Jen, I did not think you were old enuff to know anything about drive-ins.

[jen1447]

They still have a few of them here in my neck of the woods, believe it or not. I went to a few shows for sure, lol.

[amanda_114]

I LOVE to make out, however he won't. Simply pulls away after a peck on the lips. When we were physical for the first time, 6 years ago this august, we made out, and few times shortly after. Since then, he has refused. Says he doesn't like me "in his face".

[amanda_114]

I wish it was erectile issues! That could be treated. However he can get it up, anywhere, anytime. Its not an issue of "can't perform", its more of "I won't perform for you". I remember him once saying (years ago now), that he was afraid to initiate sex, because then I would want it all the time. This was back when I had a higher sex drive. Its been just the past year that I have backed off. However he hasn't given me a chance to show that Im not as "needy" as I once was.

I've narrowed it down to one of two reasons:

1. He genuinely doesn't want to show interest in the fear that I will demand too much from him, too quickly...

or...

2. He just isn't that into me anymore. He's bored, and finds voyeurism through porn the only turn on left in his life.

[effy2014]

If it were #1, your husband would be far more willing to talk about it and "ease up" to a more reasonable level of intimacy. The conversation where he compared your sex life to pizza seems to suggest that he is not interested in more intimacy or romance.

Is he bored with other things in his life? Your husband may be going through a mid-life crises where he finds his entire life dull and boring. I would be very surprised that this is all directed at you.

You mentioned in a post that you were hiding your pain from him. I don't understand that. If he is as great a Dad as you wrote, then he should have a compassionate streak in him as well.