[CHANDLERS WISH]

I'm assuming you gathered all this information from your husband, and that you were not present at the late hours of the talk.
Your husband has already put up his guards, you do not need to do anything else. If you put any effort into it, she will most likely feel as if she won the mind game she might have been playing. If she sees she has provoked jealousy, then that would probably be used to feel superior to you.
It seems like your husband is an honest open person, flirting can not be eliminated, so enjoy that you have such a desirable male that can not be had by other women, and that you both seem like a challenge for this petty female.
I'm sure she will soon lose interest when she sees that she is going no where with her play, i mean come on, how many times can a person bring up there vajayjay description........it's repetitive and boring.

I have a new computer, sorry, i cut and pasted as i was trying to quote all, and well it went ahead and decided to up-load with out me?

This is very good advice and thoughts, she has certainly provoked something which was un-called for, in more ways than one as well

CW

[boothy]

Yes, this woman is beign seriously predatory and is coming on to your guy BIG style. She is very very intense.

You have a lot of comfort though - your man did not try to hide it, was a bit embarassed by the intensity, and is nothing more than a friend to this woman.... so I think you have nothing to worry about?

I think everything is cool, with you your man, however wierd, intense and scary the new girls might be x

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Yes, this woman is beign seriously predatory and is coming on to your guy BIG style. She is very very intense.

You have a lot of comfort though - your man did not try to hide it, was a bit embarassed by the intensity, and is nothing more than a friend to this woman.... so I think you have nothing to worry about?

I think everything is cool, with you your man, however wierd, intense and scary the new girls might be x

Your a romantic at heart hey Boothy, and in love... I can tell.....

[LoverofSEX]

I would make every effort to please your hubby in and out of bed. I have always felt that given the right tempting, at the right time, in the right situation everyone will fall, how much can a person take before they do fall.

I would diffidently do the "sub-conscious" mind game in pointing out the other side of what she says like CW suggested.

[still-in-love]

I hate to hear that. My husband had the same kind of co-worker. They turned into really good friends. I found out July 3rd he had been cheating on me with her for almost the last two years. So if I were you I would nip it in the butt very quickly. No matter what she says or he says you need to keep control over the situation and all contacts between the two of them.

[Joy]

sounds like the office skank

yeah this other woman is an open book........ probably has to be the centre of attention of every man in the room. Wouldn't matter if she had her own just wants every man to want her to validate her being here on this planet. Sad if its the only card she's got to play or knows how to play.

the whole i don't smell down there is just werid and pathetic to say what a turn off and that is sure not gonna be the big turn on for a man to hear.

If you ever come in direct contact with this woman ( or its a situation that she answer the phone at work) laugh and laugh as loud and hard as you can then once you get your laughter under control say "oh your the one that wants to be my husbands work wife.... you don't smell down there when my husband told me that i laughed for days and so did all my friends." Let her know your husband tells you EVERYTHING and she is nothing but a big joke. She thinks she has a personal one on one secret relationship with him a bond. That will sure take the wind out of her sails when she realizes all the stuff that has come out of her mouth has also been repeated at home and not so secret. She won't feel as though she one uped you then.

maybe then she will move on to some other poor victim in the office

good luck

[Guest]

do not trust her!!!! take care of it now...obviously she is relentless...she will not back off unless ur husband tells her to...in my opinion he should of alreday made it crystal clear ............ also i do not think he should be flirting with her...if he is it's wrong...

[talk time]

It is good that he is telling you what she is saying but he should put a stop to it now!!!!

What you are describing is sexual harrassment and he should tell her so and that she is being inappropriate, he is happily married and she is not to talk to her in this manner.

She is very insecure and in constant need of reasurance through male attention. She is unhappy and so tries to destroy the happiness of others.

Your husband may be enjoying some of this attention but also knows it is not ok and not wanting to act on it, as he is telling you.

She is just a skank and not even nearly in your class. However what she is doing can still be damaging.

He needs to tell her to stop and set firm boundaries. He should also report it to co-workers or his boss because she seems like a nasty little piece and who nows if he keeps rejecting her advances she may turn it all around and accuse him of sexual harrassment.

tt

[ladyv]

Im new to this post and pretty much dealing with an issue similiar.However, I dont think my husband has looked under anyone's garments.Thats just plain out wrong on her part.I hear what you all are saying about he trust thing but sometimes they dont help because you act as if it doesnt bother you but its always in the back of your mind.I will admit at least he did tell you but some guys do that just to use that"well why would I try to do soemthing if I told you about it" My husband has used that and has got caught on the website posting freak calls as well.My husband works with all women,one who "hooked him up" with the job.Now I feel like he thinks he owes her.He recently started working late and I dont know what to make of it.He tells me its nothing all the time but yet he's spending more and more time at work.Instead of slowly killing my marriage I try to find other avenues like shopping,hanging out with family, working out to get it off my mind but then the tables turn cause he will come to me with whats wrong with you? you act like you dont love me anymore? so Im ed if I do Im ed if I dont but I heard the reverse play works.I dont know how much it will solve but it does get his attention for a minute.Maybe someone can help me cause I really hate the fact that he works with all these flirty women.

[Tim4family]

This gal sounds like some of the Flight Attendants I fly with, yuck!!! All joking aside, she is nasty. I doubt your husband needs any suggestive hints about her socially disgusting behavior. He is most certinly turned off, big time. I do think that some documentation and a friendly discussion with the office manager is in order, for his own protection. Your husband needs to stay away from her. I have a strict policy, NEVER EVER allow any inappropriate conversation or behavior between a female coworker continue. He must STOP it immeadiately and insist that professionalism in their working relationship be maintained. In the airline business both parties can be viewed as equally responsible and terminated. You have every right and duty to protect your family. If you believe it is necessery to step in and put some fire under this [snipped by mod] behind, well it is what it is. She has it coming, maybe she might learn some valuable lesson. Good luck.