[JonnyR]

Oh boy...

The short answer is yes, I've done it quite a few times, and F**ck yeah, I'd do it again. Then again, I'm a dude...so?

The women that I've been with have all been game, and some of them have sent me unsolicited videos of themselves masturbating (super hot!), and in other risque poses and activities.

In fact my experiences have all been great, and yes, I keep and hold on to those videos as they are previous memories for me now and in the future.

When I was in my last serious relationship, I deleted (unprompted!) all the videos and pics I had till then...when the relationship ended a few years later (I thought it was the one!), I regretted doing so, as I missed all my old videos, and could never get them back again and vowed never to deleted them again, until/unless I ever got married and that was that.

In the meantime, I find that most women if you are honest, forthright and have high integrity (which I do) and they know they can trust you regardless of your relationships status to never sell, or share them with anyone, are not just ok with it, but also quite turned on to do the deed on camera or at least host portions of it to share.

It's fun, I don't regret doing it -- even if the videos got released (god help whoever watches that...) -- and I see it as just natural exploration and sexuality. Thumbs up over here.

And kudos to Wednesday L.F. That's ****ing amazing! Funny story.

[Emily D.]

Wednesday L.F. omg that's wild that your ex sold the video! I'd be ****ed, too, but I'm glad you were able to make some money off of it and that you can look back at it with humor now!

I think a lot of women in some circles feel less comfortable with the idea of filming themselves having sex/doing anything sexual because women are often shamed for being sexual, whereas guys are often praised for being sexual--and so if your video does get out there, I feel like women are shamed more than men. I don't see it as often now, thankfully, but I know several years ago I felt like I couldn't go a week without hearing about someone who sent out revenge porn.

Also, I wouldn't want to watch it back probably because body-image issues are a thing for me, too, but different strokes for different folks.

JonnyR I think trust is a majorly important thing when it comes to something so private and intimate like that, and if you know your partner has integrity and you both set boundaries as far as what's okay (distributing the video is a hard no without consent, etc.), I think it's totally fine! I also think having a solid, trusting relationship with your partner(s) first would make it easier to do.

[Wednesday L.F.]

Emily, you are totally right about gender and shaming. I was reading about a mom whose kids were kicked out of parochial school because she has a risqué OnlyFans. Kicker is that the controversy started because one of the dads in the community saw it, then told his wife who blabbed to everyone. No consequences for the dad surfing for MILFs though...

[jns]

I was reading about a mom whose kids were kicked out of parochial school because she has a risqué OnlyFans. Kicker is that the controversy started because one of the dads in the community saw it, then told his wife who blabbed to everyone. No consequences for the dad surfing for MILFs though...

There is a lot more to the Mrs. Poindexter controversy. The athletic director at the school is gone. CBS says it was a group of moms sending the school the content. More controversy will follow. Mrs. Poindexter is supposedly earning up to $150,000 a month.

[Vanessa R.]

jns Thanks for the additional info! WOW, it all I've gotta say. I've only recently started hearing about the whole OnlyFans craze. I don't know if it's been around for a while but I feel like it popped up overnight.

I saw it mentioned somewhere on IG and me being naïve, mentioned it to one of my guy friends as far as using it as a business opportunity and he gave me the craziest look.

"You don't know what OnlyFans is, do you???" I'm pretty sure my expression in response was the first time I'd ever truly looked "innocent" in years, lmao. Wide-eyed, I shook my head. He educated me that day!

But yeah, $150,000 a month??? No words. Do you, Mrs. Poindexter, do you...I can't even be mad about that.

[amy40]

no video but have taken pics of husband

[Gena G.]

I've made a sex tape a couple times but usually we would watch it afterwards and then delete it. It was fun, it was like a post game break down. Very sexy to watch together. There were definitely parts of the video that I didn't enjoy because I thought the position/angle was really unflattering. My partner didn't seem to have that problem at all! (Men. Classic.) And he also thought I looked good when I thought I didn't which was nice. I would definitely do it again but I like the ephemeral experience of not keeping it.

[Vanessa R.]

Gena G. I agree with the idea of watching it together and then deleting it. Some things we can't unsee anyway and I feel like that's a good example, especially since I would imagine it's rare to have a sex tape where everything is amazing and you love all of it. But yeah, that sounds like a typical guy reaction, haha. Of course that probably makes things easier on you, lol.

Honestly, I would go old school (if I was into the whole recording thing today) and use an old camcorder on purpose, that way the odds of it leaking onto social media would essentially be slim to none. Can you imagine watching your sex tape on one of those ancient camcorders??? Hahahahaha. At least back then it took someone breaking into your home and stealing the camcorder and/or the big tape used to record it and then converting it into a format that could be shared. Ah, those were the days!

[Rayn]

Awesome stories everyone. The wife and i, in our early days when we were really exploring our sexuality together, one discussed it. But ultimately decided against it. Back then, we were in our early 20s, we were going at it constantly, and even more when we moved in together about a year into our relationship. And I'm talking nearly everyday, often multiple times a day. So we just decided why bother going through the hassle of recording and rewatching a previous session, when we could just actually make love again... and again.... and again? Plus all the added stress of how to pull it off, how we'd look, who might see it, and so on made recording seem just not worth it to us.

Fast forward to now that we're in our late 30s, things have definitely slowed down in the bedroom. But that's more because of kids running around, work, and just busy lives in general. However, we still manage to get it in at least 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more. But the thought of recording has honestly never re-entered our minds.

Now, I'm military and have deployed several times. Some for 4 to 6 months and once for a full year. And there have been a few times where the closest we've come to recording are video calls (thanks modern technology). Think phone sex from back in the day, but with actual video. She'd have her toy (dildo/vibrator) I'd have mine (pocketpu$$y), and we'd be able to see and dirty talk each other through the process. It's as close as we could get to the real thing until i returned home. So no recording, just a private live feed between the two of us. But even that presented some logistical challenges, mostly catching her at a time she was both available and in the mood.

[Rayn]

Awesome stories everyone. The wife and i, in our early days when we were really exploring our sexuality together, one discussed it. But ultimately decided against it. Back then, we were in our early 20s, we were going at it constantly, and even more when we moved in together about a year into our relationship. And I'm talking nearly everyday, often multiple times a day. So we just decided why bother going through the hassle of recording and rewatching a previous session, when we could just actually make love again... and again.... and again? Plus all the added stress of how to pull it off, how we'd look, who might see it, and so on made recording seem just not worth it to us.

Fast forward to now that we're in our late 30s, things have definitely slowed down in the bedroom. But that's more because of kids running around, work, and just busy lives in general. However, we still manage to get it in at least 2 or 3 times a week, sometimes more. But the thought of recording has honestly never re-entered our minds.

Now, I'm military and have deployed several times. Some for 4 to 6 months and once for a full year. And there have been a few times where the closest we've come to recording are video calls (thanks modern technology). Think phone sex from back in the day, but with actual video. She'd have her toy (dildo/vibrator) I'd have mine (pocket*****), and we'd be able to see and dirty talk each other through the process. It's as close as we could get to the real thing until i returned home. So no recording, just a private live feed between the two of us. But even that presented some logistical challenges, mostly catching her at a time she was both available and in the mood.