[Phoebee]

That was very funny, Pheobee!

Ahh... but my dear Alex I was being perfectly serious. Men really should try it. I think it makes them much better lovers. Most either don't care or don't understand that any penetration can be painful if done wrong. Once they have been "bent over" themselves they understand first hand what women have been trying to say for centuries...

Plus... It can be fun for both and rather.... Erotic? Taboo?

[jenn33]

Hi everyone. Im new on these boards. 33 year old wife of a wonderful guy. Most women would probably NOT agree with what Im about to say regarding this topic. I say, If you man really likes, or wants to try anal sex, you should give it to him. Not every day, or even once a month, but at least once in a blue moon. Men are very sexual beings. They just are.

As women we like romance flowers and candy which is great for us. But men just really like sex, they just do. And I say if your bf or husband is a good one and they gives you what you need, why not reciprocate? As women we hold all of the power when it comes to sex. When, how often, what we will or wont do. In a lot of ways its not really fair.

And it may not be a pc or popular thing to say, but more women should just loosen up a bit. so ladies dont kick me out of the club for my opinion, K?

[owlhunter]

Hey, Pheobee you sound like you have your act together.

My SO and I have an agreement, anything that house up her bottom, also goes up mine. Not necessarily on the same night of course!

This keeps us both "honest." We are in process of buying a larger dildo for her strapon. Much debate on the size. But she knows that whatever she puts up my bum will also go up hers. We can't change the size of my penis, but we can buy a bigger dildo!

As a guy, i'd say that any guy who "insists"on anal sex with his ladyfriend, but will not even consider letting her reciprecate, well ladies, think about your relationship long and hard.

Relationships are supposed to be some sort of mutaul agreement aren't they?

[Phoebee]

Hi everyone. Im new on these boards. 33 year old wife of a wonderful guy. Most women would probably NOT agree with what Im about to say regarding this topic. I say, If you man really likes, or wants to try anal sex, you should give it to him. Not every day, or even once a month, but at least once in a blue moon. Men are very sexual beings. They just are.

As women we like romance flowers and candy which is great for us. But men just really like sex, they just do. And I say if your bf or husband is a good one and they gives you what you need, why not reciprocate? As women we hold all of the power when it comes to sex. When, how often, what we will or wont do. In a lot of ways its not really fair.

And it may not be a pc or popular thing to say, but more women should just loosen up a bit. so ladies dont kick me out of the club for my opinion, K?

Not at all! Trust me you are SO in the club! ;-) And my statements are not in anyway saying I won't let DH do Anal sex with me.

I agree with you I just think that it helps us enjoy Anal sex if our men are experienced with it. My DH told me that he really understood when the receiver has to be 100% in control of the initial penetration. You can't just "slam it in" without hurting and maybe harming the person. Ditto the need for a mountain of lube.

Hey for whatever this is worth Anal sex for me is not as good as its turned out to be for him. He has a prostate gland thats (if I follow all this) similar to our G spot. And so what started as him wanting me to be "bent over" is him wanted me to bend him over. And thats fine with me. And btw I'm not into the idea of "Domination" or sexual role reversal. Its just a new position in our minds. *Well I hope so. The night he comes to bed with his legs shaved wearing my panties he is going to find himself sleeping on the couch! ;-)

Oh! If your SO is doing Anal with you and your not really enjoying it you might want to try having a vibe like the Hitachi Magic Wand handy so you can climax whilst he is doing his thing. If you start having regular orgasms during Anal sex it stops being a chore and becomes much more enjoyable.

Hi OH!

Thanks for the Friend Request. I'm new to this so I don't know if I clicked the right thingie... Anyway its appreciated.

Well the strapon stuff for us started when DH started having Impotence issues. While he was getting that squared away with his doctor he was using that to keep things going in the bedroom. You make a good point about "variety" We are not prudes but we agree on a number of things we will not do. Having anyone else in the bed? Nope... Thats not going to happen. So, this toy is fun from a fantasy aspect because it allows some variety.

BTW is this just me??? The people making these "things" have to get real. The long ones are so long they hurt. And that is so NOT erotic and not fun. They also make some that believe it or not are too wide. I know the vagina is supposed to pass a baby but... On the other hand the ones that are supposed to hit the G spot are great. The variety of materials they make them in? Well with one exception (A penile sheath) the non silicone ones can all go in the rubbish.

Oh! One thing you have to try. Having your DH do oral sex while using one of those G Spot hitting dildos... Woooooooooo......

DH was at first a bit upset over the idea of a realistic dildo being used on him. Homophobic he is not. When we talked it out the real issue was more of what he was worried "I" thought about it. My take is that its me having sex with him and unless he has some inner desires for male on male sex? Who cares?

Anyway, don't injure yourself trying to use those huge dildos. If it doesn't feel good its a bad idea.

Hey, Pheobee you sound like you have your act together.

My SO and I have an agreement, anything that house up her bottom, also goes up mine. Not necessarily on the same night of course!

This keeps us both "honest." We are in process of buying a larger dildo for her strapon. Much debate on the size. But she knows that whatever she puts up my bum will also go up hers. We can't change the size of my penis, but we can buy a bigger dildo!

As a guy, i'd say that any guy who "insists"on anal sex with his ladyfriend, but will not even consider letting her reciprecate, well ladies, think about your relationship long and hard.

Relationships are supposed to be some sort of mutaul agreement aren't they?

[SterlingSharpe]

Curiosity is a strong motivation, and the forbidden becomes very attractive.

Well even though I have my own issues as mentioned, this backdoor thing has always been an unfulfilled fantasy of mine. We see it in porn all the time, and I think almost all my friends have had a GF who let them or had them do it.

My wife, before we were married, tried it for me once. But it was too painful for her, she almost cried, really. And I'm no super tree trunk.
When you see your fiancee kind of cry like that, you don't want to do that to her.

However, the quote above "curiosity/forbidden" rings true. It's still an unfulfilled fantasy. Hard to imagine those going away.

I can't blame ANY girl for not doing it though becuase I have had my prostate checked before and that was a small finger!

[WildChild]

There are a lot of on line sources of info in this. Being very aroused, able to relax are important. If you push, as if you were having a bowel movement just before penetration it will relax those muscles a bit. Once he is in, he needs to just a wait a bit until you tell him its ok to move. Start slowly. If you get into this it can be a simply great orgasm. But you do have to be in control, spoon position might be a good starter. You should at least give it a good try.

[silvertae]

WildChild made some good points. It really can be a good experience if you are really turned on, go slowly, use lots of lube, and are able to consciously relax those muscles. Some women aren't enough in tune with that area to know the difference between tensing and relaxing.

I enjoy it with my boyfriend. We do it doggy style and he just positions himself at the opening and then stays still while I slowly rock back against him until it's in and I'm comfortable. Only then is he allowed to start moving. By then it feels great and if I stimulate my clit during it I have some amazing orgasms.

[justkimmie]

Ok...I have done it anally. I do not think it hurt, it is all in trying to relax enough to allow it to happen. But, if it is degrading to you, then you simply should not do it, and I would tell him that. Period.

[mburen0001]

Anal sex is not at all a bad thing. My fiancee and I enjoy this quite frequently. make sure you are completely relaxed and have LOTS of lube. Also talk to him about it first and make sure he understands that if it is too painful for you when you say stop he needs to stop and not make you feel guilty about it. Only do it if you are comfortable with it, but trust me if you try it you will enjoy it.

[Arcanasylvana]

My husband constantly wants to have anal sex and he even started me training with a butt plug, but quite frankly, I am getting tired of having this thing shoved up my all day every day. He puts it in me in the morning and expects me to leave it in all day turning it and lubing every half hour to an hour. Then yesterday he took it out when he got home from work, thank God, though I don't know about today he isn't home yet. He said he wants to have anal sex with me but hr doesn't want it tp hurt so he is doing this out of love for me. When I married him we agreed to live in a D/s way, but I am getting tired of this butt plug. I remember a time when I loved anal sex but after my last boyfriend before hubby, I no longer enjoy it that much. My husband is offended by this.