[CHANDLERS WISH]

What, they like wearing the pants in the house? haha...

I am a boss at work personally, never at home, prefer equality with a tad of you rule...

I do believe as i said, i did not answer for 3 days, simply as you wrote and yes, my wife is on this forum. Pretty sure they were your words, and no i am not going back to the beginning just to be right.

I have many whom may pine, haha, however, this time of my life i want to ensure i don't waste it on a wrong relationship, not adverse to a good relationship that may not eventuate, purely not to "settle", as most women do.

The photo is my I am accross from work at a Hotel with staff and they took the photo, didn't mind it, as i am a thinker and it reflects that .

I do agree, that it can be easy to slip into a scenario but it should be just as easy to get them out of it, however, you are correct, they do indeed realise it just a tad too late, when all feelings have gone and you have given your best... Never mind, he will find someone else and keep seperate bank accounts and the reno's are done so she won't get blammed, lol.

As for the message board, click on your name and look at your profile where i left a message and click on my name there and see if you can send me one, but i truly and no one really knows, if it is the fact that you can't do so until 33 posts, or, if you can but not send private messages until you reach those posts.

Give it a go, who knows? tell me after, it may help people haha be that pigeon? only joking....

Well, now that we know she is not on the Forum other's may have a squis and make their thoughts?

The un-known in life sometimes can be good and sometimes can be bad.

CW

[Mr. ED]

#1...Some women lie and cheat as much as men.
#50..Some women are complete 'Goldiggers'.
For numbers 2 through 49 you have to use a little imagination, or put on a pair of pants!
Notice I said SOME!

I might have mislead some people. My wife is on the WH Forum but not on this particular site. You sound like you could handle yourself pretty good in a one to one debate with a man. There must be someone "pining after you in Adelaide". Whose picture is your Avatar? Was it taken in an airport or similar crowded place?

A portion of your story sounds familiar. I refinanced before my wife came to this country, and now I'm glad I did. After we got married in St. Petersburg, she stayed behind for 6 months to tie up loose ends. She worked at the Hydrometeorological Institute and taught and read lectures at the University there. She still keeps an apartment over there, which makes me wonder sometimes. But then again, I'm all she has in this country. I've heard similar stories of men taking their wives for granted at least that's what it sounds like. It's very easy for a man to slip into that 'mode' and the realization usually comes when it is too late. After "playing the field" for 19 years, I learned my lesson. I did have some 'guests' from time to time.

I also don't like to live in debt. The easy way to do that, I found is DON"T use the credit cards. If your message was a visitors message...what's the difference? I probably got something wrong! I haven't taken the time to explore this site.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

50 QUESTIONS? haha ,

I posted a vistors message on your page, see if it makes sense, regarding vistors messages.

Chandler is not Ross, nor Joey so that makes him to other one... haha... sense of humor.

Thank your wife back, pitty no one else replied but obviously either because she is on the site, and they felt not to, or what can i say? They feel that you have gotten some thoughts that you can work with....

Well, lol, I would like to "wish" that all those men were reality here, in Adelaide, pining after me, fantasy? Ahh, na, one man girl.. No i was referring to this site. It is nice to get both imput from Men and Women on subjects and we seem to have quite a few men around now... plus off course, i like getting them back when they decide to dis me.... in a "fun" way, don't stress guys....

Non communication....

I think personally it can happen to anyone, at anytime and once it does, it's a hard cycle to break.

We always communicated about anything "he" liked, but was never really able to communicate about anything involving my life... He was always opinionated, right, and that was the hurdle that i could not jump.

Obviously, prior to Marriage it didn't surfice, or I was blind one of the two... Probably a mixture of both.

I think it really started when finances started... Commitment was a difficult thing for him.

It meant loans, therefore debt and that is something he has difficulty living with ie) we re-mortgaged the house and extended, debt. So, it was my fault that his mortgage was now much higher..? Um, think that is called marriage but never mind... But yes, it was My fault.

Or, lol, we purchased a commercial property jointly as the repayments were the same as my lease, for work, at that location, debt.

So, constant put down regarding my business, yet he never set a foot in the door to help, i battled the beginning of a business alone and wore three hats, to do so whilst he did jack shirt..

Sound mad? Na, stup1d for marrying him? Yep... Friend type person? Good one, commitment? No way, which lead to communication problems, anger problems with him and therefore, emotional abuse and actions, never physical but enough to make me walk in the end, as you do.

Now, you don't sound anything like that, just the opposite, compasionate, caring, communcative, always seeking i imagine for ways to improve a situation, so if there is less communcation than you want there to be, then as i said, it's a young marriage, time will help, the issues you raised in your thread, i think, as i said, were based on her feeling guilty for the initial lie and the later, because you destroyed the photos so fear of communicating her thoughts on that particular subject.

Thanks for making me spill.ahhh..

Haha... I have no bones about it, all good, I am in a happy place and nothing really ever gets me down, I know how to handle things and move on, that's called life.

CW

[Mr. ED]

Howdy back-atcha:

If you could poke your tongue through the Internet I doubt if you would have to think about it. I like your sense of humor. You would probably put your thumbs in your ears and wiggle your fingers! I know I'm right!

I got curious about Aviators and found one I like. It's not Brad Pitt...but then I've yet to find one of Catherine Zeta-Jones. Nuff said! I like wolves because pound for pound they are the smartest animals on four legs. I know nothing about visitor or private messages nor anything else about this site. So if you have some extra time on your hands maybe you can explain in a visitors message. What is a visitor's message and how do you send/receive one? But from the number of posts you've made in six months, I don't think you have too much extra time.

Which character on 'Friends' was Chandler? They've been off the air here for quite a while and I forgot. I happen to like the name Chandler for a woman. It's different. Now that you've touched on the subject, I won't ask you about your wish(s) unless you run
out of subjects. LOL

My wife said to tell you 'thank you' for the nice intelligent letter you wrote. I showed her because you wanted to know who she is. But your right, she doesn't like to talk about herself. She is a scientist, professor and has a doctorate in Marine Biology. And here she can't find a job because she's overqualified. Don't laugh, I went with her a few times to the University here. But you might have heard, right now it's tough to get a job in almost any field here. You get people from Bosnia looking for work in Australia? We get a mix of everybody but mainly Mexicans from the south and Cubans from the south east. Cuba is only 90 miles from Miami, Florida and now there is a portion of Miami known as 'Little Cuba'. Aka 'the Barrio'!

When you said "HAHA, there are so many men here I have now lost count...." did you mean in Adelaid or on the site? Now I'm getting nosy, already. How long was it before the dreaded NON-COMMUNICATIVE disease set in between you and your partner? Only answer or talk about it if you care to. As for me, I have two grown and gone kids and my late wife died in a single rollover car accident 22 years ago. Why did I wait so long? You want a list??? LOL!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Hello back Mr Ed.

Off course I am going to add in my native tongue if i could poke it out i would think about it.

Yes, but we are women, and she had a fear, remember that this Larry was also across the World and he let her down, add into the equation that her husband died, only a couple of years before he came on the seen and really also you.

If there was Chemistry and Lust, then Love, I am not sure if i would hold that white lie as well for the same reason... "Will he still marry me" I mean it was one guy not 10, but the illusion she created was because she is a good woman not a ........ so telling you after 10 months for instance, you may have thought what else did she lie about? Were there more, etc.

The fact that she told you, means that she understand the importance of honesty in a marriage..

I am not saying she was right, but I am saying that I can sense the logic in her actions, at that time...

I totally agree, that therefore, the next step for her should have been talking to you about how he, Larry maybe was eating at her, for the way he did things if she wanted to get even..

Especially, considering she opened up and told you about him to start with... But, it also takes years sometimes, to gain that communication between two people and remember how you met.

It's not like you had 12 months together daily, weekly and then got married.

Seems maybe she simply has "communication" issues to work out and understand that you are an "understanding man" and that you are not controlling, rather will stand by her side, if she only opened up to you more and communicated.

Again, it could be because you ripped up those photos haha. No, seriously, she could have felt that it upset you that much that she can't talk about him to you or how she feels.

Again, it takes time for two people to totally open up and she needs to now know that she can.

Yes, here we see New York, apartments, and Movie Stars, that is the extent of what we really know about America and off course, September 11.

But, yes, as I have been here a while now, I do understand the millions of people living in one city, and that it is hard to make ends meat, I think I live in a lucky country...

It was Russia I did not know more about whether that was like say Bosnia, where they are so poor that people move to Australia, clean houses just to send those monies back to their families for food on their tables.

HAHA, there are so many men here I have now lost count.... I think it's great that we all can offer advice on any topic, from different perspectives.

Yes, I know that the aviators are mainly of women's faces, but then again when it all started it was built for Women... So that makes sense, you can post your own photo, or brad pitt now that would be nice to see. It is achievable now. You can set it up now, receive visitors messages and befriend people, at 31, 32 posts you can send private messages.

Chandlers Wish was me sitting at this Computer going WT? I have no idea what name to pick? My first name in fact starts with K...

So, I was watching Friends on TV, Chandlers sounded good, wish is because I have so many now, since separating haha, there was a good reason behind that, called "NON COMMUNICATION", you two need to ensure exists.

Now if you can't work out your Aviator I will try to explain on a visitors Message.

PS: So Who is your Wife? Only joking... I know she won't tell me .... lol..

[Mr. ED]

Hi Chandler:

Not too much going on with me. I detect an Australian accent. "Now you lot? What's going on?" Naturally it only sounds like an 'accent' to me.

Except for #14, you got all the other 15 facts in the 'A' column. Your even right about the chemistry and lust! I do believe she waited the two weeks after we got married because she may have thought I'd also "skip town" had she told me before the marriage. It would have been much better. But the fact of believing (naively) that she was a one man woman up to that point for a year didn't help either. You seem to have a good understanding of the interactions of the human genders for lack of a better phrase. As for the present situation, I did tell her that if she wanted to get even with Larry for being dumped, even after five years, the right thing to do would have been to ask me to help her 'get even'.

To contradict what many people living outside the US believe, the streets here are not paved with gold! You might have heard how bad the shape of our economy is. And our two presidential nominees leave something to be desired.

Being WH Moderator and I read that men were invited even though it's basically a woman's forum, why don't they have Avitars for men? How many post do you have to have before you can post your own Avitar?

By the way, when it's midnight in Adelaide it's only 7pm here. I just like dealing with time zones. St. Petersburg, Russia is 11 hours in front of us and has 11 time zones. It also has 1/6th of the earth's land mass.

I have to ask you, if your given name is Chandler.....what's your wish?

Mr. ED...

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Well that's fantastic that you are taking her "home".. Seems your okay in my books too...

Now you lot?

What's going on?

Surely you either want to disagree with my thoughts, or add yours?

I made it easy to read..... truly..... it didn't take me long... honest....... what do you think?

There you go, bought up the thread again, what else can one do as a WH Moderator as you called me, actually Chandler is better.

CW

[Mr. ED]

Some coinsidence you living in Adelaide. From what I remember of my notes, it's roughly halfway between Sidney and Perth and not very big. But it sounds nice if it's still secluded. Thanks for the invite...LOL...but in June we plan to go to St. Petersburg. It'll be over three years since she's been home and it's long over due.

By the way, if you ever turn on your computer and get the message "NTLDR is Missing", I spent 3 hours on my wife's computer today to fix it. The manufacturer, Gateway, told me it would cost $199.99 for a phone fix and I would lose all my data! It's like trying to start your car without a key and not being able to hot-wire it. Thanks again for the time and effort you put into that long post. But it was worth it.

[CHANDLERS WISH]

Dear Mr Ed...

I am so happy you didn't choose to go to Perth yesterday, then travel down to Adelaide, with that 4 wheel drive and gun seeing as I live in Adelaide..

Your both welcome now though... lol. We have great beaches, and hills and wineries and known to be the City of Churches.

I am pleased that i only got one thing wrong and I trust that now perhaps you may get some more thoughts on the matter at hand...

Off course my arms are aching at typing so many words....

CW

[Mr. ED]

Male needs female input.

Dear CW:

I must take my hat off to you (if I wore one) for the time it took you to sift through and write that reply. The only thing you misunderstood is that she will qualify for citizenship this December. Anyone else that may read this post now has a clarification of what I was trying to say. She is all alone here and is used to traveling all over Europe and Asia on government grants and has alot of friends over there. I do realize what she gave up to come over here and what a sacrifice it has been for her the past 2 1/2 years.

I must mention that several years ago I came very close to visiting Perth and Adelaide in Australia. Adelaide because I like the name and Perth because the information I collected beforehand told me that north of Perth is 1000 miles of beach, ocean and outback. I had plans to buy a 4 wheel drive jeep, a good rifle and head north from Perth. But an email got in the way! Just had to add my extra 2 cents. Your alright in my book!

Mr. ED...