Where do I start?
So I don't really know where to start when it comes to birth control..
Although I'm 20 years old and have had a boyfriend for just over a year, I have yet to need birth control (i.e. I am a virgin). I am not a Christian (or even very religious at all), but have other moral and fear issues that keep me from having sex. While my boyfriend is amazingly patient with me, I feel like I often use the excuse of not being on birth control instead of trying to figure out my actual reasons for not wanting to have sex are. I feel like getting birth would force me to address my actual problems, but there's also the problem of acquiring it.
The main problem is that I don't have a regular doctor. I go to school far away from where I live (and have never needed to go to a doctor there), and when I go to a doctor at home I see a different doctor every time. I'm still a dependent of my parents so I don't have my own health insurance, but I also do not want them to pay for my birth control either. So what do I do?
This summer I stayed at school for a job I had there, and set up an appointment online with Planned Parenthood. I read up on the program they have for free birth control, but was still really nervous about the whole ordeal. I only became more disheartened when I went to the appointment because while the staff was nice, I felt very out of place, and found out that I would not qualify for the free program without a birth certificate or passport. My mom keeps both of these documents in a safety deposit box at the bank, and thus there is no way for me to get them unless I ask her to get them out for me (which of course leads to the question "Why?").
While I might be able to come up with a believable lie, I was wondering if anyone had any other ideas of what I could do? Despite having a job through the summer, I only made enough to pay for my living expenses, and during the year I'm not able to hold a paying job while going to school, so I cannot really afford to pay for anything without help from my parents. My boyfriend would probably be willing to pay for some of the cost if it came down to that, but he is also a student and his current job doesn't pay either.
Sorry for the long post! But if you have any advice, I'd really appreciate it!!
Although I'm 20 years old and have had a boyfriend for just over a year, I have yet to need birth control (i.e. I am a virgin). I am not a Christian (or even very religious at all), but have other moral and fear issues that keep me from having sex. While my boyfriend is amazingly patient with me, I feel like I often use the excuse of not being on birth control instead of trying to figure out my actual reasons for not wanting to have sex are. I feel like getting birth would force me to address my actual problems, but there's also the problem of acquiring it.
The main problem is that I don't have a regular doctor. I go to school far away from where I live (and have never needed to go to a doctor there), and when I go to a doctor at home I see a different doctor every time. I'm still a dependent of my parents so I don't have my own health insurance, but I also do not want them to pay for my birth control either. So what do I do?
This summer I stayed at school for a job I had there, and set up an appointment online with Planned Parenthood. I read up on the program they have for free birth control, but was still really nervous about the whole ordeal. I only became more disheartened when I went to the appointment because while the staff was nice, I felt very out of place, and found out that I would not qualify for the free program without a birth certificate or passport. My mom keeps both of these documents in a safety deposit box at the bank, and thus there is no way for me to get them unless I ask her to get them out for me (which of course leads to the question "Why?").
While I might be able to come up with a believable lie, I was wondering if anyone had any other ideas of what I could do? Despite having a job through the summer, I only made enough to pay for my living expenses, and during the year I'm not able to hold a paying job while going to school, so I cannot really afford to pay for anything without help from my parents. My boyfriend would probably be willing to pay for some of the cost if it came down to that, but he is also a student and his current job doesn't pay either.
Sorry for the long post! But if you have any advice, I'd really appreciate it!!
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