[Soloved]

I really wish that was it...

Well.. I think nothing helps.. All you need is lubricant.. =p

I wish more than anything that it was that simple. When you have tears in that area adding any kind of lubricant burns like crazy. Even if the tear is not fresh it tares after insertion and then in lubricant still present causes it to burn making it even more painful. We've tried using straight water which sometimes help because it doesn't burn like KY but then when it tears again during intercourse its still painful but sometimes I can keep going, sometimes I cant.

Read the article if you have this problem too....scroll down to the bottom when it talks about secondary causes.

[LadyLane]

I posted a thread on this, and it got bumped just recently... I have to find it. But my doctor said this happens to a lot of women and once it happens, it unfortunately will keep going. Scar tissue builds up a tiny bit each time, and since scar tissue doesn't stretch, it just gets thicker and thicker. He suggested two methods of fixing it: a topical medication applied in the office that burns away the tissue, or an outpatient procedure in which he cuts away the scar tissue and sews it in a very particular way so it won't happen again. He said he's performed several and has had many thankful husbands, as well as wives! I'm calling to speak to him about it tomorrow. I am going through with it; I've been experiencing this for over two years and it definitely does ruin the mood for both my husband and I - he's afraid of hurting me and I never know when it is going to happen.

PS - The surgery is called perineaplasty. Takes 30 minutes start to finish, supposedly.

[kellyS]

i need help too

Hi, I have been experiencing taring and retaring for a YEAR. Its terrible. I've seen 3 doctors about it and nothing positive has helped yet.

whoever started this thread about taring please email me directly. i'd love to discuss.

KS77*aol.com

[Steffy-Baby]

I used to get those, I thought it was my husband pubic hair cutting me or his facial hair. I haven't had one in a while but I switched to a milder soap like ivory or dove. Don't have to scrub down there hard, make sure your well lubricated do not ever force it cause apparently the tissue is fragile now. During the outbreaks i used triple antibiotic or neosporin directly on the cut. If you must have sex, plenty of vaseline on the cut help and around both of you especially try to soften the pubic hair with it a little.

[Celeste]

Drink A LOT of water, just H20, I mean guzzle it. Keep yourself thoroughly hydrated no matter what. AND take a vitamin E supplement. I have read of people even topically applying vitamin E, straight out of the casule, onto an area of skin, but don't do it inside the vagina without asking a doctor because I am not sure of that. But do take the supplements two or three times a day depending on the dosage. It helps skin and tissue issues. Good luck! And let it heal!

[djmdjm47]

vaginal tear

I didn't realize this was so common! About 5 years ago i saw a specialist after being refered by my gy. to the univercity of wa. I tried three or 4 different steroid creams, steroid injections into the tear once a week for several weeks, and finally a procedure in the hospital where they cut the tear out and pulled new skin from inside the vagina over the tear and stitched it back up. It sounds painful but no more than years of being torn once a week or so. NO it didn't work. It doesn't look like there are any good answers. I can suggest asking your doctor for a perscription of lidocane you can get it in a tube like neosporin and use a little before and a little after intercourse, it helps me but it also numbs my husband. I am going to go back and see if a more aggressive surgery will work, the first time I was afraid it would make my opening too big so he didn't cut out as much as he would have liked too. can't really use it anyway!

[shweedart]

the same thing happened to me and i didnt know how to describe it, but you did it spot on!

Mine hasnt caused a problem since but if i press a certain bit it stings

Safe to say im more careful about being lubricated before jumping straight into it!


sorry im not much help its just reassuring that im not the only one!

[Sarahawthorn]

I feel compelled to write as i have been suffering with vaginal tears for many years and think that i may have 'sorted' it. I think it started when I changed contraceptive pill over 10 years ago. quite a few doctors thought it was in my head and that I wasnt relaxed enough, consequently not lubricated enough. I KNEW that this wasnt the case and always felt that it was hormonal in some way. Having been through 3 pregnancies and breastfeeding all 3 the doctors wouldnt really come near me to investigate more. But recently I started trying to find answers again and was given some topical oestrogen cream to rub into the back part of the vagina entrance that tears. No more tearing. Now if i forget to apply it (I once went nearly 2 wks), I do tear again so I need to play around with how much and how often i need it. I am going back to the Gyn soon to make sure that the cream can be a long term solution as I swear that it is put my sex life back on track after alot of years of tears and frustration.

[nicolemarie]

vaginal tearing

This message is in response to Sara Hawthorn. In your post you said that the tearing may have been a cause of your oral contraception. I was wondering if you could tell me what you were taking? I have been having the same problem ever since I changed my pill to Yaz but I'm not sure if they are related. I was just wondering if you could let me know what you think that the pill may have to do with it? I would greatly appreciate any feedback because nothing seems to be working. I have tried perineal massage which hurt and I have been tested for all infections. My GYN has prescribed me a steroid cream to put on it but it burns so I'm not sure what to do.I would also like to know what the cream is that you take because I could also let me GYN know about that as well. Thanks so much for your help.

[WildChild]

I have a vague idea that I went through a time in my youth when that was a problem. It was a long time ago and I had a lot of trouble with yeast infections. They don't always act the way you think. You might read the Yeast Connection and see if anything else fits that possiblity. Yogurt used in your vagina may help, cutting out sugar and reducing carbs and alcohol may help. A good lub and lots of foreplay can't hurt either.
My chronic yeast was finally resolved when I got a divorce from the man who just couldn't keep it home ( he was reinfecting me) and got an old fashioned treatment, they "painted me purple". This involves a monster sized Qtip dipped in some dark purple stuff and they swab you out. It's messy but effective. Haven't had one in at least 20 years.

Doctors are educated guessers, they can guess wrong. You could have an allergy too. To lube, soaps, do you use scented or deodorant treated pads? If you do ditch them, that's sensitve skin don't load it up with a lot of chemicals! It may take a few weeks to see results. Keep trying.