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Vaginal tear keeps retearing. NEED HELP

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  • try give it a few weeks or maybe a month to heal sex isnt all about penetration try going down on him ect.. or if u are ok with it and it dosnt disturb u anal

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    • I, too, had this problem after the birth of my second child. It was a vicious cycle of tearing at the episiotomy site, getting a yeast infection, healing up and then rrepeating over again. After two years, when I was pregnant with my third child, I mentioned the problem to my obstetrician. He told me that it was as a result of a "botched" repair after my second child...the physician just didn't do a good job of sewing me up. He told me not to worry, that he would repair it when he delivered my baby. He was as good as his word. I healed quickly after that baby and I haven't had a single tear since (and it's been almost 20 years)! I know this doesn't help if you aren't planning to have another baby but if the doctor could repair it on me, I'm sure it can be done without having a baby. I would seek a second opinion from a different gynocologist. Whenever a doctor says, "You'll just have to live with it." it's time to find a new doctor. Hang in there!

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      • Originally posted by sgsmith2 View Post
        I posted on here under another thread but didn't really get any help. Does anyone know anything about having a small rip at the bottom of the entrance. It causes great pain at the beginning and during sex. Sometimes the pain is so bad that we can't have sex. So far 5 OBGYN's didn't know how to fix it. They just gave the "well you have to live with it, blah blah" response. The tear thats causing the pain will heal up if I don't have sex but it will just retear as soon as I do again. I can't go through life living like that. It's destroying my relationship because I can't have sex. Some lady on here said she went to a specialist. Is there any kind of specialist other than GYN? If so what are they called? Any help/advice is appreciated.
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        Dear sgsmith2,

        I had the same problem before. I'm anatomically smaller than most women and I would tear after every time I had sex, sex was painful, and I couldn't go more than one round. In short, it sucked. My doc told me to try KY so I did but KY SUCKS. I went to a different doc and they told me not to use soap in that area, sleep without underwear, and use astroglide. Lo and behold, the astroglide worked like magic! It lasts longer and is a little sticker than most lubes but it will not only make sex not hurt, you'll be able to feel things you've never felt before in a very, very good way! All for about 7 bucks, you can't beat that!

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        • vaginal tears

          I wrote earlier about finding a solution to my vaginal tears and I just noticed that NICOLEMARIE had some questions for me. Im not sure how changing contraceptive pills might have caused my tearing, all i know is that after 12 ish years of it happening the problems started around the time of swapping from a pill that made headlines for being higher risk (I cant remember the name of it) to Microgyon. Maybe the change in hormone levels threw my body out of sync. The topical hormone cream that I was prescribed is still working a treat. Intercourse is normal for the first time in years and the Gyno said it can be used long term, however he suspects that the use of it will stimulate my body into rectifying itself in that area over time so that I can stop using it. Its called PREMARIN (Conjugated Estrogens) Vaginal Cream. Get some and try it, its changed my life!
          I absolutely think that so much needs to be learned about vaginal pain and tears, not enough women go to the Docs about it, probably through embarrasment.
          I would love to know if anyone else uses this cream and find that it works....?

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          • I do not have a steady boyfriend, nor do I really want one but one downfall of this is I do not have sex very often. When I do have sex I get retorn at the bottom of my vagina every time. It doesnt hurt during the sex but the days after it bleeds lightly and when I go to the bathroom my urine burns it. My body naturally keeps it somewhat wet to coat the area, but this is extremely annoying. I thought this was just because I often go months without having sex and my vagina just tightens up again, but from what all of you are saying, this could happen even if I was steadily having sex on a weekly basis. What should I do? I know many of you suggested lube, but i feel like I am pretty moist down there during the sex hence why it doesnt hurt during. I dont know, I feel like im ranting now but I am just inexperienced and not sure what to do.

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            • This message is for NicoleMarie in response to YAZ. I have been taking YAZ for about a year and a half now. Everything was great for the first 5 months, but then out of nowhere I tore. It has been a nightmare for the past year. I went to the doctor within 2days of it happening. My doctor said that the tear looked so bad that it probably should have been stitched (but it was already too late). Her first suspicion was Herpes…that completely freaked me out!…but that is not what it was. Then she told me that it just happened because I was not using lube (never had a problem with not using it before). She does not feel that it is related to the YAZ (but I am starting to think it is). She gave me Premarin cream, which like Sarahawthorn said, works very well; however, it is an estrogen cream and has been linked to an increased risk in cancer so I am not too thrilled about using it regularly (and I don’t). It does make the tears heal faster though. I have found that using a LOT of lube works a little (tears less), but does not solve the problem. I have just recently torn again (pretty badly) and I am considering stopping the YAZ…although I have found that it is the only b.c. that I like and I really don’t want to stop taking it. If anyone finds anything that works please let me know!!!

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              • Do you have kids? Have you had an episiotomy? Those are one of the worst ideas ever developed to screw up a woman' body (along with laying on your back to deliver which causes muscle and nerve damage - thanks to good old Henry the 8th for popularizing that one) Try the pernium stretch/massage. Ina Mae Gaskin's books give some good info on that. The plastic surgeon to do a repair isn't a half bad idea.

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                • Oh thank goodness!

                  I have been searching for a longl, long time for an answer to this. I hurt so bad sometimes and it's destroying my relationships. Already burned through one marriage, and now the long term relationship I'm in now is suffering and I'm only 29! It's so unfair to hear how other women enjoy sex and for me it's horrible. I like the touching and the closeness, but the act itself is excruciating!! I will keep an eye on this thread and I am so glad to know I am not alone!

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                  • Can't help but wonder if in at least some cases this is due to an allergy or hypersensitivity. I'm chemical sensitive and have to avoid a whole range of products due to fragrances, parabens and a few other things. The reactions I have had have included irritated skin, swelling, cracking and peeling. I may also be latex sensitive. I had some trouble with what has been described here as tearing when I was younger, it wasn't so much tearing as the skin in the labia folds and at the pernium spliting or cracking. I recall being give ointments for it. At that time paraben was not yet widely used - that really got going in the late 80s when even companies like Clinique started putting the cheap preservative in their products.

                    Once I'd had a fully blown paraben response and learn to avoid it like poison (all breast cancer tumors contain parabens, about 10% of the population is paraben sensitive) I have not had a problem. Latex sensitivity could also be a factor, I thought it was adhesive that was causing a reaction but a doctor told me recently it is most likely latex. The response? A layer of hard, cracking, peeling skin.

                    If a woman were using a diaphram (probably latex?) and using the gel with it (they all contain paraben) she could be having a reaction. Using a condom (most are latex) with a spermacide (probably contains paraben - been checking on this it's slow going calling manufactuers) she could be having a reaction. Most lubes contain parabens, the only exceptions I've found are a couple of the warning lubes. Additionally paraben is in most lotions, ointments, cosmetics, shampoos, toothpastes and skin care products. It increases shelf life and has been found to be a carcinagen.

                    If you ladies are reacting to this stuff, it would explain it all. This can be hard to pin down, you pretty much have to eliminate it from your life and then wait awhile for it get out of your system and see what happens. If you are sensitive it could change your life but it will also be a guiding factor - the stuff is in everything in the US and while others countries have banned it, our FDA doesn't show any signs of doing so.

                    Start checking lables for paraben (not parafin, which is simple wax) it comes in a variety of forms, methyl, iso, propal, butyl...remember your HS chemistry?

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                    • well i think it happened about a week ago.. cause after it hurt at the bottom of my VJ when i was going to the bathroom.. i looked at it and noticed a little tear.. (god it made me feel terrible) and it happened again but more.. i don't know what to do im scared that if i have sex in a weak or evan a month it might just rip again.. the last thing i want is for my vj to b ripped.. we use lubrication so i dono what else to do.. its really emotionally painfull if anything.. it makes me feel so ugly.. WHATS A GIRL TO DO????

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