[mburen0001]

So my fiance wants me to start watching porn with him, I don't know how to feel about this. I have very low self esteem and it kinda makes me feel like he would rather have a porn star than me. He claims this is not the case and just wants to watch it to spice things up. He says he enjoys watching me get turned on to it. I dunno though....It does turn me on but I feel weird allowing him to look at another naked girl that is not me. I feel like I should be enough to turn him on. Maybe I am viewing this all wrong, please help!!

[h2os]

You are viewing it in an unhealthy way! Sex should be fun, and trust me, from experience I would MUCH rather have my guy watch porn then be with someone else. And he wants to share this part of himself with you! That should be seen as wonderful There is no reason to be jealous of the girl on the screen if for nothing else then the following
1. She probably isn't someone he would realistically want to have sex with, because of the whole ... promiscuity thing. And probably lots of unprotected sex in her past thing
2. She isn't you - and he obviously loves you
3. She is just on the screen - nothing can happen!
So I would say try to enjoy - the fact is, he watches porn, whether he tells you or not, so he's seeing other naked girls (sorry if this is a shocker) but now he wants to share it with you I dont know, i'm a big fan of this, and I think its a good sign.

[Phoebee]

I think part of it is that so much Porn is just really poor and or degrading. We have watched a lot of sexual "How to" educational things and enjoyed that. It also brought up some ideas that we never explored (Nothing too wild)

The real porn? There is a formula to some of it. Guy does girl everyway possible then jerks off (The money shot) at the end. This? I can do without. DH agrees.

There is some "romantic" stuff. Mostly the women directed stuff from Canada thats "ok" but they turn it around so instead of being all about male orgasm its all about female orgasm. I dunno. Maybe someday they will make "better" porn.

As for us we will watch it but its rare. And we are very selective about which stuff we watch.

[anonymouswhitefemale]

He's going to watch porn whatever, so naked women are a part of his life, sorry.

Guys fantasize about other women all the time, just because it's in his head you can't see it. Porn is the physical manifestation, and is making you worry about something that always has and always will be the truth of life. It's you he has and you he wants.

Also, most women are too uptight about sex so maybe watching some porn would be a good way to loosen up sexually, give you some ideas. I know that the girl I watched porn with could be read like a book, you could tell from her breathing etc. what turned her on, leading to better sex for everyone.

[Joy]

i agree it can be used as a very intimate experience. Trust me you won't get far in the flick. Reach over 5 minutes after it starts grab his C*ck and give him a BJ that would put the porn star to shame lol. Or Expose yourself start with a lil self stimulation and he will be right over to help you lol.

[rcoreyus]

Have fun with it. Otherwise it could become a strain on the relationship. Or, part way through the movie, get up, head for the bedroom and tell him he can have the movie or the real thing.

[ChelseaRenee]

You have to be a strong girl to go through with something like this, and at this point in your relationship, I don't think it'll do anything but put a HUUUUUUUUGE strain on it. If you were really all raring to go about this, you wouldn't be posting here about it, would you?

Reason it's so hard, the girls on the screen are "perfect". They are tiny. They have huge (gross, hard, weird..) boobs. They are blond. They have horrible makeup. And they are probably a huge turn on to your boyfriend...It's one thing to know he gets off to the thought of f*cking other girls when you're not there, but when you are and it's STILL happening...eh...I think it's something you and I could both do without, right? I dunno...if you do try it, I do hope you're okay with it afterwards. Don't let it ruin a good thing!!! They're just a bunch of cracked out, diseased wh0res...remember that! :P

[Martine76]

Enjoy Watching Porn Together

Enjoy watching porn together, have a few toys to hand while your watching and let your imaginations run wild.

You say you don't like the idea of your fella looking at naked girls, well you are going to be looking at some very well endowed naked men aswell. If it doesn't bother him, don't let it bother you.

Also, if you don't want to watch it with him he will do it when you are not around, so watch with him and enjoy, you might even find you are enjoying it as much as him!

[Phoebee]

Maybe I'm weird but I don't get jealous over women on TV. Its like watching a Cop show. I don't panic when the bad guy starts shooting because its NOT REAL! And trust me those perfect boobs are probably factory models from a cosmetic surgeon. And the men who can stay erect for an hour? Its Viagra and camera editing... :-(

The videos we watched and got some good ideas from were called "The Better Sex" series. And for what its worth the people on that video were so NOT super models. ;-)

[Davey]

try amateur porn, homemade stuff on YouTube like websites. It's a much better turn on, watching normal people. The pro stuff is to phony for me, it doesn't even turn me on. Me and my ex used to watch this stuff all the time, it's a good time.