he doesn't make me have an orgasm no matter what???
I can do it to myself just fine...no problems...but when we're busy doing our thing...he has no desire to try to make me have an orgasm...not even if i tell him what feels good or what to do to make me have one??? Seems like he's only concerned with his and when he gets 'his', well that's basically the end of it and I'm left still horny and not sastified...I don't like to think I'm being selfish, but come on now...is it just me???
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This is SUCH a deal breaker. What kind of jerk only cares about his own pleasure? Tell him "Ladies First" means orgasm not who goes in the door first.
If he doesn't know how to please you for gosh sakes instruct him.
Assuming that works explain that women have needs and not meeting them is not acceptable."Don't compromise yourself. You are all you've got." ~ Janis Joplin -
i tried that miss phoebee...but it seems that means nothing to him,,,any other advice???
...excuse any typis- i tore all the ligaments in my right wrist and now am stuck in a cast for 4 weeks so i cannot type that well without misspelling things.....Comment
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Emily. Please understand...I am a guy and I agree with Phoebee 100% categorically this is a DEAL BREAKER! Get rid of this idiot of a guy. You deserve a guy who will die to make you have as many orgasms as you want, whenever you want them. They are out there (probably 90% of guys). Why you got lucky enough to get this one guy I don't know, but for whatever reason you need to get the he!! out!
DEAL BREAKER!!!!!!!!!!! No decent man doesn't want to give his woman ALL the pleasure she can possibly get.
DEAL BREAKER!Comment
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I like to think of it like he got lucky getting me...
I'm no supermodel by any means...but to be 5'8" and to weigh 117 lbs- i don't feel that unattractive....and i'm not being conceited.............but , i'm prancing around in my undies and my top and he hasn't even looked up at me...he's too busy playing Halo3-
I agree with you all....DEAL BREAKER... i just am about to give up period.....i'm so hurt and i guess i'm just out of words for now. Hate to feel sorry for myself, but right now, I can't help it-I have no and i mean NO self esteem left...is he making me feel this way on purpose in your opinion????Comment
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Good lord hun! This is one area of the realtionship that men should not be selfish!! I am goign through a similiar thing with the b/f I am with now and I am in the process of letting him go... there are soem things in life that you shouldn't accept as an okay thing! I feel for ya.... i hope to god that I find another b/f in that 90% that Fire was talkign about. Don't let him think that this is an acceptable to keep doign or you will be in for a world o fhurt later as I can tell you from experience that this will only get worse.. not better. I mean this in ALL areas of a relationship. Sex is the one basic thing that you will ecperience together in a reltionship so if he is selfish with this what else is (or will be) he selfish with? And is this okay with you? Obviousy not if you're posting his here!
I hope things work out the way you want them to! Good luck girl!!!!!!!!!
"Put on your big girl panties and deal with it!"Comment
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Nope!! It's called "THE DUMBEST MAN IN THE WORLD"!!!!!!!!!!!!! I mean REALLY! SELFISH!!!!!!!!!!"Put on your big girl panties and deal with it!"Comment
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thank you crzyredhead21...No, it's not okay with me...and i mean no aspects of it are ok with me...i've been in a world of hurt before and i WILL NOT go there again....get out while the gettings good???? i'm just so confused on what to do....sorry to bother you guys with my problems, but i have no one here to talk to and am so glad i found this website where i can talk to other women..hopefully to make some friends here as well...i could sure use some right now...Comment
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Emy, I'm probably a little older than some of the other men that come here, and I can tell you, No nor-mal person would not want to Please their companion. It is absolutely normal as Lak basically said that just the average guy will want to please his soul mate.
When I read post like this about another guy it almost blows my mind but I do know there are those kind out there,
Plainly He's The Jealous One!
Good Luck!
1 other thing, I feel terrible when I feel like I haven't pleased her.Comment
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Sorry I didn't mean Jealous I meant Selfish! Ok!Comment
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