[CHANDLERS WISH]

California Dave
On that note, I have been told that there are women out there who have had bad relationships and are currently not looking for anything serious. These are the women who I am looking for. Any ideas on how I would be able to find such women?

But these are the Women whom need more than anything someone that they can trust, someone whom is not going to use them, someone whom will make them feel wanted, beautiful, they just are too scared to enter a relationship from the hurt of the past.

They are NOT the women you seek...

Richard S

I respect where you're coming from, but the overall tone of your two posts makes you come across like you're way too focused on yourself. If you focus on what you have to offer a woman, what you have to GIVE, you will get more women in this forum to open up to you and share a few tips, maybe even some secrets about what types of male approaches have worked with them in the past.

Totally agree with Richard. You are singling out "women whom have been hurt and therefore don't want a relationship" as you feel that you are safe and they will not try to latch on emotionally and want a relationship and therefore, it will purely be sex, just as you desire. YOU.

My opinion is this. Be straight forward and honest with every woman you meet, let them know that you are not wanting a full time relationship, you have commitments way beyond being able to provide a relationship to a woman full time, but you respect Women, like that particular woman you are talking with and want to take things casually and slowly. Allow them to realise up-front that it may lead somewhere or it may not.

Then it is their choice if they wish to persue that path with you or not. And, frankly, you don't know that you won't fall for a woman whom you have a causal relationship with however, if you make any Woman feel like it's just sex, get up and leave, have to go now, phone calls are only to get into her bed, now, or set a time, never discuss her needs, her life, you got bucklys of it lasting more than a month trust me.. She will ditch you, as she feels used and treated like meat.

I still think you need to understand that... Respect a Woman be honest and open and if you are going to sleep with a woman on-going, then you need to make her feel that it is not just sex.

CW

[SinisterUrge]

* You want sex NSA (No Strings Attached). Get ye to Craigslist and start scanning the 'women seeking men' section. Be sure to have some good photos (start with a head shot and something else that will show-off your gym rat lifestyle), head over to your local Planned Parenthood and get a full STD screening. If you are a virgin and have no history of I.V. drug use or blood transfusions you should be spotless, but people looking for other people in a NSA relation have every right to expect proof of health.

The following only applies to areas where prostitution is legal, Paying for sex elsewhere is a crime and you shouldn't do it (*cough*)

* If you are unsuccessful finding it for free it may be time to experience the world's oldest profession. Go back to craigslist and search under 'erotic services', most FS (full service) women charge hourly. I'll give you the "1st time John's primer":

1. In-call (you go to the woman's house/hotel room)
2. Out-call (the woman comes to your house/hotel room)
3. Shower, shave, trim your nails, brush your teeth, and dress well
4. If you want oral you'll probably want to shave, or at least trim that too
5. The woman should have protection, but bring back-up just in case
6. Be pleasant & conversational. Feel free to explain this is your first time.
7. Put the money (oft called a 'donation') in an envelope and leave it on a table-top. The woman, after collecting the money, may have to call her agency/driver. I don't know why money isn't simply handed to the woman.... just tradition I guess.
8. If you want to try something specific or special, politely ask. Escorts make their living doing this, and most want you to be a happy and repeating customer. Plus they've seen it all before... Its very hard to surprise a working girl.
9. Tipping. I start at 20% and adjust according to how much coffee is involved ("cups of coffee" is sex-work slang for "number of times the man ejaculates"). Unlike the "donation" the tip is usually just handed to the woman.... makes no sense but it is what it is.
10. Contrary to popular myth, most escorts will kiss you.

As a rule I try to avoid anyone charging less than $150/hour (you always get what you pay for). And a $50 streetwalker is just playing Russian Roulette for herpes (or worse).

[WildChild]

Sinister, that may be his best bet. I'd thought about suggesting Craigslist - you truly can get Anything there, but was concerned that he may be a little too inexperienced both sexually and socially to handle it. Got to start some place and for a man his age a pro may be the best choice to get started.

[SinisterUrge]

I'd thought about suggesting Craigslist - you truly can get Anything there, but was concerned that he may be a little too inexperienced both sexually and socially to handle it.

Yes, I did consider that briefly, but found my theoretical "Dave's meeting of the NSA woman" way too entertaining.

"Hi, so good to see you. Would you like to get down to business?"
"Of course, how about we start with you licking my kitty"
"Um...... Your what?"
"You know, down there..."
"Well its my first time. Does this normally take longer than 20 seconds?because I've timed myself to 3.5 minutes and want to get some anal in before that."
" ..... Get out."

[Alpha_Girl]

I came in here to suggest Craigslist, and found it had already been suggested. It sounds like you are just looking for no-strings-attached sex - just realize that the girl you wind up with will probably have been looking for same thing and you can't expect anything beyond a one night stand. If you can handle that emotionally, I'd say go that way.

[Hystorm]

Or, hire one.

Thats what they are for.

[Fallen1]

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