[rcoreyus]

Sexual compatibility is one of many things important in a relationship. If one partner really wants something that the other partner doesn't want to do, there are likely to be problems. It isn't a question of what someone "should" want - desires are not under our control.

Now if someone wants something very unusual or unreasonable, they may never find someone who will satisfy them. But if it is something fairly common like oral, they may be willing to find another relationship where they will get it.

There is absolutely no requirement to satisfy your partner's wishes if you don't want to. But there is no requirement for someone to stay in a relationship if they are not satisfied.

So, if one person really wants oral, and the other person really doesn't want to do it, maybe the relationship shouldn't last.

To me, this changes when you are married (or otherwise committed long term). In that case, you have accepted your partner as they are, and should not go looking elsewhere.

[Lrgjake3]

No find a man who doesnt like oral as much i guess that would be the answer. What the guys in this post are saying is true though the fact is its the thought that counts. We know that oral doesnt feel good to you, but should pleasing us be enough. Im more than happy to get lock jaw for my women due to the fact that she squirms like crazy lol. I dont get good feeling out of that at all but still i enjoy it its the thought in the end. I think it is quite selfish to not do something that your partner you love enjoys. If you cant give up that for them then what else when something big comes your way.

[HeyItsMe]

Well the sad truth is that most men wont put up with a sex life in which they dont receive oral.

Its not really the oral sex that bothers me or other men its the effort that the lady I'm with is willing to give.

He's said it all! It feels like "how much she'll do for you" is limited, that she won't give it all to you. It's also frustrating emotionally, in my case. It's understandable on a relationship that's starting, but if that position is forever, it's unconsciously very frustrating...

Sorry =/ come on, it cant be that bad...

[WildChild]

Some of this, a lot of it, comes down to connection. How we connect with someone, how deeply affects our feelings and willingness to give and receive. Oral connection whether kissing or oral sex is or can be very deep. It depends on how you approach it and treat it. If she feels used or not connected it will be a problem. Of course a feeing of incompetency doesn't help either.