[1life2live]

how do i tell my parents im having sex?

[sTyLeRock]

mom... dad.. i'm sexually active.

or you can just show them.. as in.. i dunno bring partner around introduce them to each other and then stay out all night with partner?

[1life2live]

second option wouldn't end very well, lol, i think they have an idea but i dont want to keep secrets. their helping me out with school and letting them live with them so i feel like i should be honest with them... and even as an adult my mother and father scare the out of me sometimes, lol.

[1life2live]

letting me live with them*
scare the heck*

[sTyLeRock]

hmm

well be honest then,


sit down and have a conversation about it.

[WildChild]

How old are you? Are we to understand that you are in college? Since they are "helping you out with school" and "letting you live with them" it sounds like it. Are you using birth control? Practicing safe sex? What are you looking for in telling them? Vallidation? Their blessings? Permission to have guys spend the night?
As a parent I've stayed very aware of where by teens are in this, my daughter is past our state's age of consent, as I assume you are? It doesn't sound like your relationship with your parents has matured yet if you are scared to tell them. My real questions is, why you feel a need to do so? I talk openly about sex with my kids, a lot of parentls don't. I know quite a few who really have the attitude that they don't want to know even though they do. They don't want it shoved in their faces, where they might have to deal with how they really feel about sex.

So what do you gain by telling them? What is the purpose? If you are of the age of consent, acting responsibly not to get pregnant or catch anything and don't have diminished capacity, why would you think that your sex life is their business? I'm saying don't tell them, but questioning why, fyou are of legal age you feel a need to share something so intimate if you don't have that kind of relationship already established?

[Guest]

why do you want to tell them anyway.
if you are having sex your having it.
depending on how old your mom was when you or older sibbling (if you have an older one) was born, she might have an idea.
if your close to them or one of them, just talk to them.
if your not comfortable with the talk, then dont do it now.
if your over 18 i do believe you can get your own BC.

when my parents tried to talk the "birds n bees" to me i told them i was already informed. they knew but i never talked to them about it unless i had too. dad was going to get me some condoms and i told him i already had them.
parents arent stupid as they were once your age with certain desires also.

talk if your comfy and dont if your not. if your liveing outside thier home, i bet they have an idea your already doing things.

[Heatwave]

Hiya,

I would say don't tell them. I didn't, they just sort of knew; parents do! Just be honest if they ask and don't sneak around, and keep being a nice daughter. If you're being sensible by using contraception and taking precautions, being polite by not having sex all over their house, and being mature by not letting it disrupt your life, school or your family relationships; then I don't see why you have to tell them. I remember the first thing I said to my Mum about having sex just came up in a convo one day when the time was right. xx

[1life2live]

Thanks
I'm responsible, I stick to my room. I just feel like maybe they know and I'd like to tell them so that they can continue to trust me...

[HeyItsMe]

I think is good you want to tell them u're sexually active. In my case... well, they "know"... Haven't told them, but they know I know they know . If you wanna avoid an uncomfortable talk, try hinting it on purpose, like talking about going to buy pills or else. You skip the talk, but all of you get to know the situation.

Just picture it in your head "Mum, dad, I'm sexually active" - what would they say? I mean, if I had a daughter and told me that... ... guess I'd say "... and?" or maybe ask if she's taking care of herself and give her some tips. But hey, u know ur parents! if the reaction would be ok, then just come clean, straightly.