[cassie66]

we havent had as much sex as i would like lately, probb down to me having a cyst. but i knew right from the begining he had a phobia about touching. i just thought in time he would try, but no

his idea of sex is forhim to get on top of me no foreplay ever put it sraight in for 2mins and get off thats it!

he has never ever touched a woman down below with finger or mouth and never will
ive tried to talk to him about it he just says he cant, says its disgusting,dirty, gross and hairy. i wash every day and offered to shave but no

yet i always do a full works on him as he says he cant work if i dnt kiss him

these days he is neve rin the mood, always tired or has some ache or pain everytime i mention love making. he says i keep pressurising him. i just wnat a sex life. is that to much to ask? he is only 32. he wont french kiss me either says thats disgusting too! help!

[starvingforsex]

OCD....Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, sounds like it to me. It's not you hun. Research it, you might find some answers. Doubt he's gonna change either. Put up or shut up, that's your choices. You had to know before you married him...it's something he can't help.

[Sassy_Tats]

Were you not sexual at all before you two were married?

[starvingforsex]

Yes we were, always initiated by me. My husband has a self image problem and performance anxiety. Maybe yours does too.

[cassie66]

yes we werei just thought in time he would touch me, but he wont and the more i pressure him, the more annoyed he gets. he is always washing his hands.

[Merry]

I agree OCD, some medications can help, but I doubt you will convince him to go to the doctor.

[cassie66]

i do agree he may need a therapist. but dare not suggest this, i know he would never go

[Sassy_Tats]

if HE doesnt want to go, how about asking him go with YOU... act like its you?

[Rosslyn]

Perhaps couples therapy? Could be a good way to start the process of getting him into the therapy he needs. Sounds like OCD to me, but I don't have enough information to be completely sure. But if you go to therapy, the therapist will be able to tell.

[Ashlee T.]

I agree with the others that it's most likely some sort of OCD. I commend you for trying to make things work despite this problem. As others have said, it's HIM not YOU. Don't forget that. A womans body is beautiful, not nasty, not dirty etc. And wow...to have gone all this time married to a man that won't give you that sort of intimacy......I feel for you!

Does he have the same feelings about his own genital area? Are they dirty, nasty and disgusting also?