[Hottestcaligirl]

Im 17 && have been having sex since I was 14 almost 15...
I have had 6 sexual partners..4 of them being one night stands..Im very upset because I think Im loose!! The last guy I was Intimate With was 3weeks ago && since our experience he has not talked to me once!! I just know its because of me not being tight enough!! I barely learned about Kegels, but those are a bit challenging!! Is there any other way to help me to get tighter?? or like restore my vagina?? I just feel so sick to my stomache thinking about this issue!! PLEASE SOMEONE HELP ME!!!

[SinisterUrge]

"If you can't fit a Pepsi can in there you aren't too loose." To quote the stand-up comedian.

I'm willing to bet my dollar that the actual self esteem issue is caused by jerk partners who can't be bothered to call you back (Its wasn't too loose for them during sex was it?).

1. Stop sleeping with jerks
2. Practice you hand-job & fellatio skills. Give your snizz a vacation while you get back to kegel exercises. (No offense, but you've been trying them for what? a month now? Thre are people who've been doing them longer than you've been alive! you have to keep at it.)

[Sassy_Tats]

You dont have to sleep with someone so they will like you. Keep trying your kegels. Like sinster stated stop sleeping with jerks.

[WildChild]

Oh Sweetie, if 6 partners could make you loose. most of us would be in deep trouble. I've had two babies and far more partners than that and I'm not loose. In any way. Kegels will help but they have to be done consistantly and are more effective if you use a kegel device such as kegel master. If you'd like some really good instruction on effective kegels find a copy of The Orgasm Loop- they sex therapist who wrote it gives detailed instructions to kegels and getting the most out the of kegel master or kegel barbells.

They aren't calling because one night stands don't call, that's why you call them one night stands. Slow down a bit, take a look at why you are doing this? I'm betting it's not because you love sex so very much - are you looking for closeness? Love? Connection? You won't find that just having sex. Sex is a big factor in connection but only after you have something going first. That's why most adults give it probably three dates before they move that direction. It's taking time to get to know each other a bit first, feeling there could be something there, then establishing that a sexual connection that will work is there before getting more deeply involved emotionally.

Sounds like you've been putting the cart before the horse. Get to know a guy first. Who is he? What makes him tick? Do you like having him around - not just having, a male, but him specifically. Develop a relationship first, then consider sex. You've be a lot happier. Do those kegels anyway - they're good for you - they are a good life long habit.

[Hottestcaligirl]

I just dont know why I keep falling for the same lines!! Like im smart, but something about guys has become nothing but a weekness for me!! I tell myself each time you are never gonna have sex again until you know for sure this is what you really want..but in the end I keep making the same mistake!! I think some of it has to do with feeling alone!! I just want a guy to care about me, but i know this is not gonna help!! I just wish I can erase the past..but even now I get sad && frustrated, && Im starting to feel that I have nothing to offer a guy!! Im way to young to even be having sex!! This is not me!! I just have become a Lonely Sex Slave for Losers!!

[Hottestcaligirl]

whoops: *weakness!!

[SinisterUrge]

This is not me!! I just have become a Lonely Sex Slave for Losers!!

Hey now, some of us pay good money to be sex slaves! LOL!

[CHANDLERS WISH]

I just dont know why I keep falling for the same lines!! Like im smart, but something about guys has become nothing but a weekness for me!! I tell myself each time you are never gonna have sex again until you know for sure this is what you really want..but in the end I keep making the same mistake!! I think some of it has to do with feeling alone!! I just want a guy to care about me, but i know this is not gonna help!! I just wish I can erase the past..but even now I get sad && frustrated, && Im starting to feel that I have nothing to offer a guy!! Im way to young to even be having sex!! This is not me!! I just have become a Lonely Sex Slave for Losers!!

Because "guys" have lines... And, they will use them purely to get into your pants, but all the while you are hoping that they "like you" and therefore, ask you out again and again and then ask you to be their girlfriend.

'WEEKNESS", yep.. You think if you don't sleep with them, then they aren't going to go out with you, or they may even give you that impression, it's all a game.

'STRENGTH', get your mind together... NO SEX, until the 8th date, haha, think how many guys will remain, (1) no doubt, the rest will move on to the other girls giving it out left right and centre.

Then you can have what you are after.

But, not until you get your mind around the fact that they are playing the game, and ALL boys interested in a relationship, ALL, don't want the girl sleeping with them on the first date, or second, because it means they give in, too easily. And, therefore there is no interest.

Your turn to PLAY THE GAME.

So that you are a winner.

Good luck.

CW

[SinisterUrge]

Jim Norton I think

[Hottestcaligirl]

Because "guys" have lines... And, they will use them purely to get into your pants, but all the while you are hoping that they "like you" and therefore, ask you out again and again and then ask you to be their girlfriend.

'WEEKNESS", yep.. You think if you don't sleep with them, then they aren't going to go out with you, or they may even give you that impression, it's all a game.

'STRENGTH', get your mind together... NO SEX, until the 8th date, haha, think how many guys will remain, (1) no doubt, the rest will move on to the other girls giving it out left right and centre.

Then you can have what you are after.

But, not until you get your mind around the fact that they are playing the game, and ALL boys interested in a relationship, ALL, don't want the girl sleeping with them on the first date, or second, because it means they give in, too easily. And, therefore there is no interest.

Your turn to PLAY THE GAME.

So that you are a winner.

Good luck.

CW

This is so true!! I always feel that If I dont put out fast enough they will just get bored && ditch me for some other girl who will..when in reality I get ditched anyway!! So I should do what is NOT gonna lower my self-esteem and that is TOTALLY ABSTAINING from any sexual encounters that are just gonna leave me feeling worthless!! You also had a very good point about all guys wanting a relationship, and when they do pick a girl its never the girl putting out on the 1st date!! One of the guys who I was sexually involved with told me:"HOW DO I KNOW YOU DONT DO THIS WITH EVERY GUY???"!! He left me speechless almost making me realize that I have become nothing but a tramp!! Its hard for me to get over the past, but I feel that im only making it worse by repeating the same mistake!! I really like the no sex until the 8th date thing!! This by far is the best advice I have gotten!! Its something that i really needed!! Its not the end of the world, so I just need to wisen up, cOntinue with the KEGELS && keep my legs closed, until prince charming sweeps me off my feet..but even that man is gonna have to prove himself worthy to receive play time!! haha' Thank you so much!! your advice is deeply appreciated!!