[Ashlee T.]

Totally agree with CW.

You are learning young that YOU choose what you become. If you don't want to be a "loose" girl, a weak girl, a girl that guys walk all over because they know she's easy.......then DON'T BE. It's truly that simple.

It's not just you.....most guys you age are going to test the limits with any girl. You can choose to set yourself apart from the other girls or you can allow yourself to be weak. You will also find that though you think you're "starving" for this attention, after you get it, you'll feel more starved than ever. It becomes a vicious cycle.

My advice, stop now. You have MANY years ahead of you of GREAT sex with people that truly care for you. Don't waste yourself. Becoming physically "loose" should be the least of your worries.......becoming weak, used, demeaned, and beaten down by the lack of respect should be your concern. Because that is inevitably what will happen if you don't change your lifestyle.

Hang in there....be strong...and you'll learn ALOT about yourself. :-)

[alicat]

it is perfectly ok to NOT have sex, if a guy asks, tell him it's too soon, if he likes you he will respect that and if not then all he is after is a roll in the proverbial hay!

it's been a long time since I was a teenager but I told all my dates from the beginning that I couldn't make love until I was in love...I had one guy cancel our first date because of it but that's OK!

[Hottestcaligirl]

I told all my dates from the beginning that I couldn't make love until I was in love

oMg!! I love that! Its so true..not even one of my Sex partners were someone I even cared for on a Romantic Level. I just did because thats what they wanted..I do wanna change my lifestyle..This is not who I'am, or who I was brought up to be!! I have two of the greatest parents alive!! I love them so much!! I also know they love me more than I can ever understand..Thats why I appreciate to hear advice from an older one, because I cant come to my parents with these issues..They only know about me losing my virginity && man if that tore them up so much.I dont even know how they would react to this!! I just wish I could erase it all!! Now I finally understand why young youths are not to bein having sex, because the emotional damage is to much to bear at such a young age!! Its so hard for me..I thought sex would fill up my emptiness, but it only made it worse!! I feel like sucha bad person..I wanna moveb away where no one knows me and start fresh!! but I can't runaway from it!! I gotta face it, && learn how to cope..Its hard to cope thoe, when you have no one to turn to, because you are too afraid that they wont understand..But i gotta take one day at a time!! Thank you again!! That Is now gonna be my motto!! haha'

[Sheryldid]

You are very young honey. Stop sleeping with men for attention. This is not the way to get a man to love you. Do your kegels and take time to get to know a guy before you sleep with him.