[Hopeless Dork]

He is basically asking you to cuckold him via porn and dildos rather than bringing in a real live bull. But if he keeps at this pace it probably won't be too long before he asks you to have sex with another man, with a huge penis... while he watches, likely masturbates and enjoys than hates himself and you afterwards..

Some couples enjoy this sort of thing but I can't help but feel your guy is a desperately insecure man, that has asked you to degrade and humiliate him (commenting on wanting a penis bigger than his during sex) which you have gone along with (thereby cementing to him that he is indeed, deserving of such humiliation and demasculation).

The fact that he seems miserable after this happens, despite how arroused it makes him during the act speaks volumes of this being an unhealthy situation for him.

There are women, lots of them, that would be satisfied with his size, that would indeed get pleasure from not only his penis but his eagerness to satisfy in alternative ways... that could make him feel like the man he wants to, deserves to feel like.

I think you have to take a good long hard look at yourself and ask if you could be that woman? Or if you can't , do you want to be the one thats contributing to this self-inflected emotional scarring that he is asking you to?

[shaunzie89]

it matters because im not sexually satisfied and my husband has a penis issue!! nobody wants to ruin a marriage over sex but you cant tell me its not important. all i am trying to do is find a happy medium where we can both be happy sexually. seriously though...go and get a tape measure and pull out 3.5 inches...and tell me that you would be thoroughly satified with that size. i have never personally measured my hubbys penis and the length info comes from him. and its likely that he is 3 inches because most men add a little something when it comes to their penis. all i am saying is he needs to decide which side of the fence he's going to stand on. either let me be satified with my dildo or stop urging me to use it! even more crazy is the fact that we went to the adult gift store together. i had originally chosen a 7'in. vibrator but my husband insisted that i get this 10in. replica of some black porn star lex something or other. i thought this would makes us both happy, me being satisfied by the size and me satisfying him while i use it. but like i sais, while we're going at its great, but when its over he seems bummed. i dont know what to think anymore

I guess everyone just have different preferences. Being small doesn't bother me at all. But its your preference, I just don't think you guys should worry about it so much.

[dubbldees]

He is basically asking you to cuckold him via porn and dildos rather than bringing in a real live bull. But if he keeps at this pace it probably won't be too long before he asks you to have sex with another man, with a huge penis... while he watches, likely masturbates and enjoys than hates himself and you afterwards..

Some couples enjoy this sort of thing but I can't help but feel your guy is a desperately insecure man, that has asked you to degrade and humiliate him (commenting on wanting a penis bigger than his during sex) which you have gone along with (thereby cementing to him that he is indeed, deserving of such humiliation and demasculation).

The fact that he seems miserable after this happens, despite how arroused it makes him during the act speaks volumes of this being an unhealthy situation for him.

There are women, lots of them, that would be satisfied with his size, that would indeed get pleasure from not only his penis but his eagerness to satisfy in alternative ways... that could make him feel like the man he wants to, deserves to feel like.

I think you have to take a good long hard look at yourself and ask if you could be that woman? Or if you can't , do you want to be the one thats contributing to this self-inflected emotional scarring that he is asking you to?

ok...let me get this straight...im the problem?...you seem to have first hand knowledge of this cuckold business

[Hopeless Dork]

I never said you were the problem. I've said over and over again that he OBVIOUSLY has a problem... the question is do you love him, do you want him to have a healthy self esteem or do you want to beat it into the ground?

I don't have "first hand" knowlege of cuckolding... nor do I have "first hand" knowledge of dinosaurs... but I've read about them.

And everything I've ever read about it describes exactly the situation you are saying you are in, minus the adding of another man in person into the mix. But its basically a man having his loved one degrade and humiliate his lack of a penis and admiring other mans virility in front of him to further make him feel pathetic. Its fetish and the guy gets turned on by being made to feel like less of a man and garbage.

But seeing as how you said your guy seems upset at all that stuff after the sex is over... it sounds like its emotionally upsetting to him and he's trying to be turned on by the fact you think his penis is too small as a coping mechanism.

[Guest]

Omg ive had girls telling me iam too thick. Too big too small guess sometimes it sucks being a woman .

[sarahlee20]

i am a 30 yr old woman and i have been married for 5 yrs. my husband is very small..3 1/2 when he is erect. the first few years the sex was acceptable because of the newly found passion and being in love. but because of his size, he doesnt really penetrate me. he has made up for this thru oral sex, but i long for very deep penetration. we have recently introduced 'toys' in the bedroom at his suggestion but i can sense some tension when he sees me orgasm from my dildo. i have told him repeatedly that we dont have to use it but he insists. i cannot orgasm srongly through oral sex but deep penetration makes me cum incredibly. i love the out of this man but when im wet, the lack of friction and size makes intercourse almost useless. he tries so hard it hurts my heart but his penis just cant make me have the 'O'...HELP!

OMG I can relate!!! I'm in the exactly same boat with my current bf!!!! I want it to work i love him to death but in bed there's no deep penetration..I want it so bad. I can so relate so I'm sorry I don't know what the answer is. If you find a solution let me know!

[dubbldees]

finally mutual pleasure

i havent been on the forum for several days. my husband and i have been working towards a solution for our problem in the bedroom. as i have previously stated, my husband has a very small penis and he cannot penetrate me deep enough for me to orgasm. we introduced toys into the sex and even though it was very enjoyable there was some tension on my husbands part about how much i enjoyed it. over the weekend, we went back to the adult gift store and we discovered a penis 'extention' that slips over the head and adds about 2 inches to his size. we purchased it thinking it would make me cum and he would have much more participation since he would be finally penetrating me. we got home and went right to the bedroom. he was very excited and i was happy to see how confident he was. well it worked for a while but it wasnt a perfect fit. my husbands shaft is about as round as his thumb and the extention wouldnt stay on. but suprisingly he wasnt discouraged. we went back to the store and we decided to buy a strap-on dildo. we got home at he went right to town and brought me to several orgasms. i held him tightly and told him how good he felt and how big he was and his enthusiasm was incredible! after recieving my treat, i laid him down and satified him orally, all the while telling him what a good lover he is and he had an incredible orgasm! he was even very affectionate afterwards! i think we have solved our problem! even hours later he seemed to walk around with his chest out! as if very proud of himself! seeing him happy and confident, makes me happy too!

[jns]

Finally a solution that works. And one that others can consider. Good luck.

[Vixen]

Omg ive had girls telling me iam too thick. Too big too small guess sometimes it sucks being a woman .

LOL

I find that I just match better with certain guys and it has surprised me that the guys I have matched better with have been different sizes.

As Cassius said for some women a guy can be too big or thick and for others the guy could be too small or thin. It just depends on how well matched people are, the techniques used and the effort put in to please the other person.

Size need not be an issue as long as people talk and work out gd techniques.

[sandman24]

how big would u like it to be???

i dont focus on his size. i try to make him feel as masculine as i can. one day he is confident, the next he is not! my support is constant and unyielding. how do you make a man confident that knows he has a small penis?! i never make it an issue. sometimes he will be doing his best and i will compliment him and encourage him, and then out of nowhere he wil just stop and roll off of me! when hes had a few drinks he is confident and then encourages me to use my toy while i satisfy him orally and we have a great night! but once he cums and i do as well he asks me repeatedly how much did i like having something inside me that is much bigger than me!..i mean what the !..i bend over backwards for this man..literally!..and why should i not be vocal if im enjoying myself? he encourages me to use it and when i cum he seems resentful..i cant help it if i prefer a big penis..but he has to meet me half way..somehow

Dubledee,

U said that he offered to use a bigger toy right? When u say "u can't help that u like big penises", how big r u talking about? do u mean u want an average size penis or something huge? That sounds like a tough situation & I think I may have been in a similar situation. I have been told that I have an average size penis, w: a length of 6-3/4" & a girth of 5-1/4", but b'c my gf told me that several of her ex's were larger, w: one she said had a 10"er, I found myself feeling inadequate. This is one of the most aweful feelings to be in love w: someone who u aren't sure u completely satisfy. my ego may allow me to b ok of my gf wanted to occasionally use one slightly longer or thicker, but if she consistently wanted me to use something that was twice my size that I could never compete w: I think I'd have to end it. If that's the case, save the guy the heartache & end it now b'c he can't b confident n something he lacks & if he is inscure neither of u will b happy.

Hopeless dork,
I've read several of ur posts in which u claim size doesn't matter, however sometimes u say that a large penis is more visually stimulating & it turns u on more to play w: a larger one? Correct me if I'm wrong, but if I have a preference for something does that not mean that it matters to me? How big does one need to b to be visually appealing to u? R u concerned about flaccid size? to me, it sounds like size does matter to u, even though it may not b a critical issue. Everything else being equal, what is the ideal penis size for u???

Thanks in advance,
Sandman24