[Iseulda]

You've never masturbated at all or you've never tried to masturbate to make yourself horny?

If it is the former then I highly recommend it!! Really. If you can't make yourself orgasm then anyone else is going to have a tough time helping you get there too.

Do you orgasm from sex? (Please feel free to tell me to mind own business if these questions are too much.)

[Theresa]

Nope - never masturbated. What would my husband think?????? I very rarely have an orgasm. No question is too much - I need help. That is why I think I need something that will help me "get in the mood". Enhancers to make me more horny or sensitive to his touch.

[Iseulda]

What would your husband think? I would hope that he'd think you were a sexual being who wanted to have a good sex life for both yourself and him. I'd bet my best dildo he masturbates.

Masturbation is not a bad thing - if you can teach yourself to enjoy sexual stimulation, whether you get to orgasm or not, then the thought of it will make you horny and you will want it. Try touching yourself in the shower or bath. Rub your clitoris and see how it feels - don't expect to achieve anything earth shattering - just see how you can make yourself feel. Try different speeds and pressures.

When was the last time you felt horny and what was it that turned you on? Do you have a fantasy figure that turns you on? (an attractive celebrity, someone whose looks appeal?) Do you feel horny when you think about someone like that kissing or touching you?

[Theresa]

You think he masturbates???? It has been many years that I felt horny. Can't even remember!!!! I was thinking through this that maybe some "hot and steamy" books would help. Maybe porn. That would blow my husband away!!! I just feel kinda weird to mention it to my husband. Maybe he would like it??? Just thought there was a miracle pill out there!!!

[Iseulda]

I'm 99.9% (or more) certain he masturbates.

Erotic fiction might be better than porn - with porn you never really know what you are getting unless you are an expert at sifting through it online. It might be more of a turn off for you if it's something you haven't dabbled in before. Try a web search for 'erotica'. You'll find sites with free erotic fiction ordered by category - you can dip in, have a read, if you don't like it go to look elsewhere. A much gentler introduction. If you find something you really like maybe tell your husband about it and see if it tickles his fancy too.

No pill can match being naturally aroused and acting on it.

I think you should talk to your husband - after all, I can see that his satisfaction is a motivation for you in this, as well as your own, I hope. Don't you think it would please him to know that?

[Theresa]

I guess that I never thought he would be supportive but I have never talked to him about it. That should have been the first thing that I did. (dah). I can't wait to take a shower!!!! Keep you posted and THANKS for everything. If you think of anything else please respond. You are my hero. It is nice to talk about it.

[SinisterUrge]

I'd like that list too. I have a goal of making my BF pass out from sex at least once Maybe the list will come up with something.

Google 'breath play' (aka. asphyxiophilia)

PS: If you kill him I never said anything.

[mopleez]

Tell me about the Liberator

We needed a little boost to our sex lives recently. We were in an ugly routine where sex was hohum at best. I decided to try and spice things up because I have a really beautiful, sexy wife that I adore and we used to have a wild sex life. We have been together 12 yrs.

I bought a set of the liberator ramp/wedge for VD. They are great for all age groups but super for us who are starting to get joint problems and aren't as agile as we once were. Certain positions are starting to get hard on one of us now or both. The shapes allow you to have more comfortable and more satisfying sex. They are expensive and big, but allow you to do things that might otherwise be difficult. If I was going to do it over again, I would probably just get the wedge.

Next, I started texting her dirty messages and that took on a life of its own. She was self concious about talking dirty before, but the texting made it e z for her. I never knew she could talk so dirty! I'd get so aroused at work I couldn't wait to get home and get her in bed. We brought the dirty talk out of the phones and into the bedroom and WOW!

Then someone here, and I wish I knew who it was so I could thank them, said to download a bsdm checklist to find new kinky things to do. I found one that covered every sex activity you can think of and many you probably didn't know existed. This form asked you to rank each activity from 'gross me out' to 'please, please don't stop'. I filled it out and emailed it to my wife and she filled it out and then we went over it together. We found out a lot about each other we didn't know even after 12 yrs and took this new found knowledge into the bedroom (and elsewhere). This idea was great, just make sure you use one that ranks the activity so your partner will know your level of interest. Thank you, whoever you are!

I took her shopping to buy lingerie and to the bookstore to buy a couple of sex books together. She would put on the lingerie and I would take it off over and over. This never gets boring. The books were ok, shopping for them was more fun than reading them.

So now we are like newlyweds again sometimes doing it multiple times a day. I find this exhausting but very satisfying. As the country song says, 'I'm not as good as I used to be, but I'm good once as I ever was.' You women are lucky in this regard.

Anyway, the above worked for us. You know, great sex for years w/ the same partner takes work by both to keep it spiced up. Get your partner on board, set aside some time just for sex, and enjoy each other. Finally, text or email him right now and tell him you aren't wearing panties and you are EXTREMELY wet and horny. You WILL get his attention.

Skipper, you are the only person I've found that has mentioned the Liberator Ramp/Wedge. My wife's and my interest is in simply making "Missionary" more comfortable, and were wondering about elevating her upper body so she isn't lying flat (which hurts her back). Have you had any success there - Or just tell me, are these things really worth it - I notice that you like the wedge the best. Please comment, or anyone else! Thanks!

[Fallen1]

Old thread. O/P has not been back.

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