[Hopeless Dork]

I've always been curious about the various states of erections and what they mean, if anything at all.

It seems like guys have soft, getting there, hard, super hard, and whoa where'd that thing come from?. I'd imagine the last one obviously probably comes from being very arroused but does a man have control at all over how big his erection becomes?

When a guy is trying to hold out on coming does it decrease ?

If a guy goes from whoa where'd that thing come from down to hard, and back again and back and forth does that mean they are periodically losing interest or is it just a natural part of the arrousal process?

And while were at it , do testicles show any changes based on arrousal? Sometimes they seem tight, sometimes more relaxed are these also indicators of a guy getting close to orgasm , far from it, etc?

[marycate]

What a good question Hopeless! I want to know too please!

[WildChild]

I've noticed that an errection gets harder and the testicals tigher before ejaculation. You can especially notice if you are doing an hj or bj.

[Guest]

It gets much harder before orgasm, but remember its just blood in there. A guys hardness can be based on sexual interest, cardiovascular health, hydration level, and even body position. Some positions naturally facilitate better blood flow to that area. Sometimes, a guys physical conditions change it. Has he been on top for a long time? His muscles need that blood too! Also, alchohol plays a factor, and can be detrimental to hardness.

How hot you are or what you are doing bears just a fraction of the responsibility for how hard a guy is, unless you are making him cum!

[Guest]

Oh, and about the balls. A guys balls tend to tighten up right before he orgasms. If you notice this while you are "taking care" of him, gently tug them down and let them spring back up. Its mind blowing!

[Steph33]

When I get my guy hard in the shower he has balls like billiard balls

I started a thread yesterday about (for my guy) the occassional "flesh colored steel rod that performs for hours like a porn star". The "what is that and where did it come from" type. They should be registered as a deadly weapon

When he's all the way small I think it's cute But like most guys he doesn't want me to look at it when it's not "impressive"

Love the look of my BFs penis when its hard (now have a photo of it in my wallet).

And especially love its look when ready to cum so you get the tip/head expansion and swelling.

I even like the in between larger but not fully hard mode. Nice to hold while watching a long movie. But it usually changes due to the massage

[MaryB]

lol steph I'm with you! I think its cute when its that long soft ya know... just layin down cuddlein with him holdin it.... He says he thinks I'm the only girl in the world who actually does that lol I'll have to tell him he's wrong!
and i think the hole how hard thing comes from how many times you've done gone that day... how long its been since he was takin care of... and how tore up he is. i think bjs give them that whoa where did that come from thing the best tho

[marycate]

Yeah I was wondering because my guy often goes down a level of hardness when I am giving him oral for a while. I ask him if he wants me to stop and do something else and he just pushes my head down on him so I cant stop. I do tease him a bit and spend 40 minutes or so just pleasuring him with my mouth and tongue but kinda want to know if its me or him just getting a bit bored! he just says don't do anything different but he can be a bit shy about talking about sex!
Welcome a guys thoughts here!

[Hopeless Dork]

Haha we are all so funny, all of these guys should be thanking their lucky stars to have girlfriends like us that are trying to make sure we are pleasing them as much as possible every second enough to pay attention to ever subtle change to their erect states.

I doubt there are guys sitting over coffee talking about the woes of their gf who was so wet at the start, then not so wet, then a little more wet then WOW wet, then not so wet what is going on there? haha. They are like, wet, fine, kthxbai, good enough. lol

I think its great though that I am not the only one that looks at my boyfriend's erection with amazement and wonder on what is going on there hehe. I absolutely love this guy and just probably overanalyze ever throb of his penis and wonder if I am doing things just perfectly enough to satisfy. I see I am not alone!

[Steph33]

After the first time we had sex, I named the BF's penis "Buddy."

Since then I can drop it in conversation with friends/family or in public (store, food place) as needed.

"When we get home I'm going to talk to Buddy"

"No desert for me, Buddy's having desert with me later"

"Would it be OK if I took Buddy clothes shopping with me so I can get his opinion ?"

"I'll ask Buddy for a massage"

Nobody ever figures it out. I just like to create a pants bulge. Especially if his penis is "out of place" in there and he then has to adjust himself. Cracks me up every time.

He's just as bad. I had a couple weeks once where I just didn't feel like lingerie or dressing up like he likes. Just a brief stress at work effected me phase. I was putting on make-up for work and when I turned around to get up from the table he was standing there. A little picket sign attached to his erection that said "On Strike, Bring Back Stockings and Garter Belts."

I had my best gear back on that night and "negotiated" with the striker