[orhan]

hi to all, i am just new here, i found this website wile i was searching for my question..

actualy i am not a girl i am a guy, and still single and virgin, i did not do sex still, and i dont want to do it till i get marry, but to be honest i do masturbation but not everyday maybe once a week, or when i see a romantic movie i will be hot and i do masturbation, so is it something wrong with masturbation? for health or after i got married will it take affect of my sex life with my wife?

awaiting ur reply, and thank for ur reply in advance.....

best regards,

[CHANDLERS WISH]

The key to marriage is communication.

Before you get married, share this with your future wife, see how she feels, thinks at this point in time.

What you do and women do are normal, very, but if your wife to be will be prudish and not open to those types of things, find out now, sure with intimacy you can change her, but you need to know that all you feel about your future wife, will be as an equal and sharing, communicating.

CW

[WildChild]

Masterbation is healthy and normal.

[skipper]

The only time masturbation will be an issue in your marriage is if your wife gets upset when she catches you masturbating after you are married. Most men and women masturbate both before and during a marriage. Some couples find it very pleasurable to masturbate in front of their spouses or masturbating each other.

Masturbation is a healthy part of your sexuality .... until you go blind (kidding).

[WildChild]

Yes, that would account for the extrordinary number of blind people you see running around every where and on this forum - LOL

[alicat]

OK, to be honest here, my ex-husband had this huge hangup about masterbation. Seriously, he would rather do it himself than have sex with me, I don't think he could keep his hands off his willie for more than 10 minutes and it did absolutely nothing for me, my self confidence, or my sex life. Masterbating while you are single is one thing, in fact it is UNhealthy for a man to not have a regular ejaculation, but if I was your wife I would take it as an insult for you to masterbate in private. Of course, what you and your wife do together is an entirely different thing.

[WildChild]

Alicat as with all things it's a matter of degree. Masterbating isn't a problem but what you ex did was. It wasn't really the masterbation it was his self absorption and selfishness that was the problem.

[sallyskellington]

I agree with wild.There is nothing wrong with it. Almost everyone does it as a release. As long as you are not addicted to it and it does not affect relationships indulge and have fun

[orhan]

thank you all

hi to all, and thank you for ur comments, actually i do masturbation almost every week, coz i feel happy and more relax after i do it, if i dont do it i feel upset....

[WildChild]

Well once a week isn't much. How old are you? I am (um, uh) well aquainted, with a man in his middle 40s who generally masturbates several times a day.

Make sure when you are thinking of marrying that sex drive is something you discuss, as you can read in many threads here mismatched levels of desire can cause some real problems!