[Mme.Marie]

Safe words are important , so are limits. You can also try looking at your local novelty store , or xmart ( BTW , they dont have a website , so if you look it up , its not actually the place you can visit ). Anyways , novelty stores generally have a variety of restraints and even some "kits" you can get to start out with. Personally , I think the sport sheet it great... its like a huge fitted sheet that has reinforced corners with restraints attached .( this means you can toss it on , have fun , and take it off ... and your bed will still be made ).
Although I will say that general domination is more of a pinning against the wall sort of thing , rough sex ... not entirely S&M or BDSM , although some roleplaying can venture into those things.
Really you can ask her what she wants , or to find some porn/erotic that features the sorts of things she wants to try ...that way you can get a clear idea. And as always , a safe word and limits are very important , and also for her to change her mind if she wants to.

[HubbyLookin4Help]

I was doing oral on her backside which drives her insane.

vaginal or anal? not sure which you mean. just wondering.

Safe words are important

anyone have a good one? I was trying to think of one and can't come up with a good one.

Safe words are important , so are limits. You can also try looking at your local novelty store , or xmart ( BTW , they dont have a website , so if you look it up , its not actually the place you can visit ). Anyways , novelty stores generally have a variety of restraints and even some "kits" you can get to start out with. Personally , I think the sport sheet it great... its like a huge fitted sheet that has reinforced corners with restraints attached .( this means you can toss it on , have fun , and take it off ... and your bed will still be made ).
Although I will say that general domination is more of a pinning against the wall sort of thing , rough sex ... not entirely S&M or BDSM , although some roleplaying can venture into those things.
Really you can ask her what she wants , or to find some porn/erotic that features the sorts of things she wants to try ...that way you can get a clear idea. And as always , a safe word and limits are very important , and also for her to change her mind if she wants to.

I'll definitely try and talk to her more about this first. I'm getting a vibe that the more we talk about it and the more she has to explain, it loses it's mystery for her. but I could be wrong. I am tingling with excitement over the whole thing!!!!!

[rcoreyus]

Safewords - something easy to remember. RED - means stop all games. You can also use YELLOW as a temporary stop ("yellow - the rope is cutting off the circulation to my right hand", followed by "green" when the games can continue).

I know that talking about it can loose the mystery, but while she knows what she wants, you don't - and a mistake could make you both very unhappy.

[phfan_1]

vaginal or anal? not sure which you mean. just wondering.


anyone have a good one? I was trying to think of one and can't come up with a good one.


I'll definitely try and talk to her more about this first. I'm getting a vibe that the more we talk about it and the more she has to explain, it loses it's mystery for her. but I could be wrong. I am tingling with excitement over the whole thing!!!!!

Anal, but a bit of licking around, inside her cheeks, biting her cheeks, all the while using my hand/s to do vaginal stimulation. My wife and I enjoy anal sex quite often, seems like lately it's been almost every time we have sex. Actually she's the one who's really been craving it.

PS. If you've never had a rim job, you have no idea what you're missing.

[Little]

Personally, I'm not a fan of rim jobs ... for men, maybe it's better, but I can certainly do without.
My safe word is "boat." There's no way I'd ever be talking about boats during sex ... and it's the example Talk Sex with Sue used Find one that works for you. It seems you're taking a healthy approach.

[HubbyLookin4Help]

Anal, but a bit of licking around, inside her cheeks, biting her cheeks, all the while using my hand/s to do vaginal stimulation. My wife and I enjoy anal sex quite often, seems like lately it's been almost every time we have sex. Actually she's the one who's really been craving it.

PS. If you've never had a rim job, you have no idea what you're missing.

thanks for sharing. I don't know if I could go there myself.

[HubbyLookin4Help]

Personally, I'm not a fan of rim jobs ... for men, maybe it's better, but I can certainly do without.
My safe word is "boat." There's no way I'd ever be talking about boats during sex ... and it's the example Talk Sex with Sue used Find one that works for you. It seems you're taking a healthy approach.

thanks. this seems really important to her and I want to get it right, and I'm sure I'll enjoy it too!!!

I told her I was having her Mom watch our son Sunday afternoon so we could play unrestricted, but I think I scared her a bit. She asked what the I was planning to do to her! She told me she's feels a bit unsure about it now, she's worried I'll be 'mean to her', but we're planning to discuss it more after my son's bedtime.

[HubbyLookin4Help]

I think i totally spooked her. shes totally backpedelling now. clearly to me she wanted something more, bu tnow shes just saying she wanted me to just initiate sex more often

[HubbyLookin4Help]

ok I think were cool now. We just had some wonderful sex and she told me she's not sure why she was uncomfortable. she said she's not sure if she knows how to be submissive and laughed. I think were good.

I'll let you know how it goes

[WildChild]

It's a trust thing, that's why you need to have some discussion.