[Jadebaby]

Ok, so I hate to seem like i'm asking the obvious but how do you get this position to work for you?
When I go on top I don't really get much from it apart from the sensation of "fullness" if you get what I mean...
I know you can vary this and grind or circle your hips but then I also hear stories about how this can hurt the guys how's-your-father if you aren't careful and it's kinda off-putting.
Any techniques would be much appreciated

[sweetheart1]

That's a hard one to explain. But take the time to experiement and see what feels good for you. Arching your back, up and down movements. But see what feels good to you.

[SinisterUrge]

Basically, once you've mounted-up the woman on top is charged with grinding her hips, either in a back-n-forth or circular motion. The man at the bottom is in charge of up/down.

The popular misconception of "woman bouncing up and down" really only works if the man is endowed like a horse (which is common only in porn movies). In the real world that will quickly cause what I called in highschool the 'Cap'n Crunch'.

[Hopeless Dork]

Yeah, I tried the bouncing up and down and my boyfriend is huge and I still almost missed on the down stroke and that could have led to one big ouchie. Strained penis' are uncommon, but this position is the one that is most commonly in practice when one occurs.

Best advice I can give is stay flush against his body with him completely inside you the entire time, instead of lifting off the penis with the up and down pumps, just grind - its a great position to rub your own clitoris with your fingers, let him do it, or just push your body forward and grind it against his body.

This is not my favorite position , at all.. I like reckless grinding from underneath when he's on top or being able to push back when he's behind. Being on top makes me feel insecure, as my face and all my expressions are so much on display and my worries about popping off the shaft and coming down hard on it sideways :P

[kwinycakes]

this position makes my knee hurt. LOL seriously.

[ItsASecret]

I wish I could do on top as well because my boyfriend says he loves to see my body simply in that position. We still do it with only some laptop light on, because of my extreme self conscious issues, and he is okay with that. The motion though, I just cannot understand, even the science to it. Sway the hips? rock the hips? circle? basically if a woman is sitting flat on her man and doing any of those things the man's penis is not going in and out by any means. It is just inside and the only true movement occurs right at the vaginal opening, the slight friction is what will cause any sort of pleasure. I just don't understand how it can feel so great if it is only that small area, which does have nerve endings but no actual motion happening.

My guy is large so I cannot even try to sit flat. Factor in lack of leg strength, as well as lack of ability to transition into different motions smoothly (i'm clumsy haha) and you have a frustrated woman who wants to get her man off with the visual but simple gets zero feeling out of it. I wonder if anyone has like a surefire method they use, which is described more than "I roll my hips".

[Jadebaby]

I'm beginning I might be doing something wrong here then, you guys talk about getting cramps in your legs. I get them in one of my feet
Also I was wondering how much pleasure a guy gets from these "circling" and "grinding" positions rather than in and out - but I guess that's something I've got to ask him about right? (but still, if any guys have anything they'd like to share on the matter it'd be muchos appreciated)

[SinisterUrge]

I'm beginning I might be doing something wrong here then, you guys talk about getting cramps in your legs. I get them in one of my feet

Are you doing cowgirl or asian cowgirl? (Asian cowgirl the woman will squat-down and keep her feet flat on the bed.)

Also I was wondering how much pleasure a guy gets from these "circling" and "grinding" positions rather than in and out -

From the penis's point of view, you bucking you hips while it stays still is almost identical to him thrusting and you laying still. Ejaculation will occur in about the same amount of time.

[renniemama]

try using those kegel muscels if you worry about your guy not getting enough fun out of this position

[Jadebaby]

Are you doing cowgirl or asian cowgirl? (Asian cowgirl the woman will squat-down and keep her feet flat on the bed.)

It's kinda like a variation of cowgirl, but we're both sat up (to start with)