[CHANDLERS WISH]

PS: I know you already go the exotic mile, i just think words speak better than action and if he want's to be selfish over "action" and neglect words, well he's selfish.....

CW

[cookie36]

Well, I guess I wasn't the only woman in the world who has had this problem. I was with my ex-husband for 8 years, and within that time frame, he gave me oral sex twice. I however gave him all the oral sex he wanted. We had sex issues for years, I wanted it , he didn't. He had told me once if I stoppped asking he may want to do it more...I stopped asking and still never got anything. I address the issue of why he didn't want to have oral sex with me and told him how much I like it...it was passed off with the same ole story.." Its not you..its me.." As the movie goes he just wasn't that into me. I would make sure I was squeaky clean, sexy lingerie, nice perfume...but nadda...when I would give him oral sex, I figured that he would be so turned on he would throw me down and make mad passionate love to me...that never happened either. I would feel so rejected and unattractive. i seconded guess everything about me. My looks, my weight, how I performed..you name it. I was so sick of hearing " Oh this is blowjob night..." and I would get nothing. So after so long I told him that if he had no interest in giving me pleasure and it was all about him that I wanted at least 30 bucks..at least I would have gas money..I couldn't possibly feel any cheaper than what I felt. I would cry myself silently to sleep and it is true..you do come to resent them, to a point where hatred set in..not good. It was always about him and never about me...not only in the bedroom but with our life in general. At 36 and him being 35...you figure that I wouldn't be able to do dishes that he would be all over me...nope..If I had sex once every 2 or 3 months I was lucky...and I love sex...whoever came up with the myth of men think about sex every sixty seconds is full of it....women have just as many frustrations sexually as men...we too are tired of hearing not tonight I got a headache....take control of your own life because no one else will do it for you, because u derseve every bit of pleasure as him...good luck..